4 yo DD just called my xmas pancakes disgusting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh bullshit. A four year old is plenty old enough for self control, and she can learn not to say whatever pops into her head. Christmas is supposed to be about religion, not a freaking gift grab.

Oh, please. Christmas is NOT about religion in our house and four-years-old is not old enough to handle disappointment and frustration like an adult. You are an idiot, PP.

The four year old acted like a four year old. And OP was right to correct her behavior. Who are you people who let their four year olds talk to them like that and rule the roost like that? I don't care what day it is. Being sent to your room briefly to reflect on disrespectful behavior is entur my appropriate and hardly traumatizing. And yes, I have a four year old and am familiar with their quirks.

[Anonymous]

I love this. Mom got her daughter ten presents for Christmas and made her special Christmas pancakes. Mom makes daughter take a break from opening her gifts to eat special pancakes. Daughter insults the breakfast and is punished. And now group decides mom is a narcissist and it's all moms fault. I think she should not have tried to make breakfast happen at that time. But any kid who is getting all
Those presents and special treat for breakfast needs to be learning some gratitude. Christmas is an a opportunity to learn gratitude as much as anything else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.

A four year old can have enough self control to take a break from the orgy of unwrapping, especially when warned ahead of time. These responses are disgusting. No wonder at this time of year there are so many posts bemoaning how materialistic and ungrateful their families are. It starts like this - with insisting that unwrapping a pile of presents is sacred and comes before all else.

Let it go, OP. You were wrong. Stop embarrassing yourself. She is a four year old child excited about Christmas and wasn't hungry - you were hungry. You are shockingly selfish.

I wrote the above and I'm not OP. Just another poster appalled at these ridiculous responses. Lord knows I'm not a perfect parent but at least I don't cater to my kids' worst instincts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.

A four year old can have enough self control to take a break from the orgy of unwrapping, especially when warned ahead of time. These responses are disgusting. No wonder at this time of year there are so many posts bemoaning how materialistic and ungrateful their families are. It starts like this - with insisting that unwrapping a pile of presents is sacred and comes before all else.

It's that she set her dd up to have a tantrum, and then took it personally when her dd had one. Her focus on the specifics of what the dd said about the food stands out, as does her insistence that her dd still loves her, as if somehow that makes what op did okay. Something is off, and DCUM is picking up on it.

[Anonymous]

A couple of weeks ago I yelled at my 5-year-old son for something completely innocuous. I quickly realized I overreacted, and why (I'd just gotten my third period in a month and am a hormonal mess). So I found my son and apologized for yelling at him and we talked about how to treat people when we're out of sorts. It was no big deal for me to admit I overreacted, no one is perfect.

FWIW, we opened presents this morning before breakfast. It wasn't a materialistic orgy by any means...my son was very excited and happy for his presents and what Santa brought but he also enjoyed passing around gifts to the other members of the family and watching them open presents. Then we all sat at the table together and ate coffee cake. It was wonderful.

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It's unfortunate that she behaved that way on Christmas, but you were correct to send her to her room. It's not like you took away all her presents and told her Santa's not real... you provided a reasonable consequence for a disrespectful behavior.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing a great job. And I'm sure your pancakes were awesome :-p

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's unfortunate that she behaved that way on Christmas, but you were correct to send her to her room. It's not like you took away all her presents and told her Santa's not real... you provided a reasonable consequence for a disrespectful behavior.

Don't be so hard on yourself, you're doing a great job. And I'm sure your pancakes were awesome :-p

Sure, if OP's DD has a tantrum, then a consequence and/or a cool down period is appropriate. Saying something rude isn't a tantrum, it just needs a correction. And ideally, OP should use her degree in child development to set up her child for success, not for failure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.

A four year old can have enough self control to take a break from the orgy of unwrapping, especially when warned ahead of time. These responses are disgusting. No wonder at this time of year there are so many posts bemoaning how materialistic and ungrateful their families are. It starts like this - with insisting that unwrapping a pile of presents is sacred and comes before all else.

Let it go, OP. You were wrong. Stop embarrassing yourself. She is a four year old child excited about Christmas and wasn't hungry - you were hungry. You are shockingly selfish.

I wrote the above and I'm not OP. Just another poster appalled at these ridiculous responses. Lord knows I'm not a perfect parent but at least I don't cater to my kids' worst instincts.

Op literally pitched a fit over pancakes. Who's indulging their worst instincts here- the 4 yo or the grown ass adult?

The fact her husband begged her to "show forgiveness today" is very insightful into how OP generally behaves. As well as her belligerent need to INSIST over and over she is RIGHT and her 4 yo was WRONG!

[Anonymous]

I also firmly believe the pancakes WERE disgusting lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.

A four year old can have enough self control to take a break from the orgy of unwrapping, especially when warned ahead of time. These responses are disgusting. No wonder at this time of year there are so many posts bemoaning how materialistic and ungrateful their families are. It starts like this - with insisting that unwrapping a pile of presents is sacred and comes before all else.

It's that she set her dd up to have a tantrum, and then took it personally when her dd had one. Her focus on the specifics of what the dd said about the food stands out, as does her insistence that her dd still loves her, as if somehow that makes what op did okay. Something is off, and DCUM is picking up on it.

What seems off to me is the insistence of so many people on this thread that a kid can act however she wants just because it's Christmas, or that making her pause for a few minutes in opening presents is damaging or ruins her day. Hyperbole and ridiculous. Four is not two. If she's old enough to get all these presents, she's old enough to act appropriately and be lightly disciplined if she doesn't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Christmas was hardly ruined. I'd be horrified if she said something so rude to anyone else. I had warned her she was going to have to pause to eat and I got up early to make sure the food was ready for her so she wouldn't have to wait long. Its not like I spanked her and she was in her room all of 2 minutes before coming to the realization that she should apologize.

She didn't need to apologize, idiot

You made her stop having Christmas so your pregnant ass could eat because God forbid you just grab a bite quickly until pancakes are ready

Listen moron, learn to read. Pancakes and fruit were ready. It would have taken her 5 minutes to scarf down the food. You need to learn to read. At least my children aren't going to grow up to become selfish brats. She's currently snuggling with me while reading one of her gifts. And she'll know not to say something so rude to others.

I may be the only one on OP’s side. OP is teaching her kid that manners are important. Sounds like how my parents would have handled it. For you other posters, your kids are probably the ones calling you stupid because you forgot to do their homework for them.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.

A four year old can have enough self control to take a break from the orgy of unwrapping, especially when warned ahead of time. These responses are disgusting. No wonder at this time of year there are so many posts bemoaning how materialistic and ungrateful their families are. It starts like this - with insisting that unwrapping a pile of presents is sacred and comes before all else.

It's that she set her dd up to have a tantrum, and then took it personally when her dd had one. Her focus on the specifics of what the dd said about the food stands out, as does her insistence that her dd still loves her, as if somehow that makes what op did okay. Something is off, and DCUM is picking up on it.

What seems off to me is the insistence of so many people on this thread that a kid can act however she wants just because it's Christmas, or that making her pause for a few minutes in opening presents is damaging or ruins her day. Hyperbole and ridiculous. Four is not two. If she's old enough to get all these presents, she's old enough to act appropriately and be lightly disciplined if she doesn't.

The child was not hungry! She was excited for presents and ONLY because OP's hippo ass was HONGRY did everyone have to stop Christmas to cater to her. There was no reason to do it. 4 year olds are not great at having expectations ruined, particularly HUGE ones like Christmas. You're missing the huge point which is OP, the adult, had full agency here to go cram her maw to stave off her shakes until her kid was ready for pancakes or just grab her own plate and bring it out to eat and watch presents. She set up a completely pointless fight and then made her 4 yo feel like a bad person for not being interested *that very second* in pancakes. It's ridiculous to expect that of a 4 yo who is opening presents.

Op is so clearly one of those people who loves ruining holidays and special occasions by pulling passive aggressive stunts like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love this. Mom got her daughter ten presents for Christmas and made her special Christmas pancakes. Mom makes daughter take a break from opening her gifts to eat special pancakes. Daughter insults the breakfast and is punished. And now group decides mom is a narcissist and it's all moms fault. I think she should not have tried to make breakfast happen at that time. But any kid who is getting all
Those presents and special treat for breakfast needs to be learning some gratitude. Christmas is an a opportunity to learn gratitude as much as anything else.

Seriously, OP, stop!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.

A four year old can have enough self control to take a break from the orgy of unwrapping, especially when warned ahead of time. These responses are disgusting. No wonder at this time of year there are so many posts bemoaning how materialistic and ungrateful their families are. It starts like this - with insisting that unwrapping a pile of presents is sacred and comes before all else.

Let it go, OP. You were wrong. Stop embarrassing yourself. She is a four year old child excited about Christmas and wasn't hungry - you were hungry. You are shockingly selfish.

I wrote the above and I'm not OP. Just another poster appalled at these ridiculous responses. Lord knows I'm not a perfect parent but at least I don't cater to my kids' worst instincts.

Yeah, right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree that you shouldn’t make a 4 year old wait while you make and eat pancakes! You should have grabbed a piece of cheese and continued with the presents.

Next year, have some pastries that can be eaten while she’s unwrapping stuff.

A four year old can have enough self control to take a break from the orgy of unwrapping, especially when warned ahead of time. These responses are disgusting. No wonder at this time of year there are so many posts bemoaning how materialistic and ungrateful their families are. It starts like this - with insisting that unwrapping a pile of presents is sacred and comes before all else.

It's that she set her dd up to have a tantrum, and then took it personally when her dd had one. Her focus on the specifics of what the dd said about the food stands out, as does her insistence that her dd still loves her, as if somehow that makes what op did okay. Something is off, and DCUM is picking up on it.

What seems off to me is the insistence of so many people on this thread that a kid can act however she wants just because it's Christmas, or that making her pause for a few minutes in opening presents is damaging or ruins her day. Hyperbole and ridiculous. Four is not two. If she's old enough to get all these presents, she's old enough to act appropriately and be lightly disciplined if she doesn't.

The child was not hungry! She was excited for presents and ONLY because OP's hippo ass was HONGRY did everyone have to stop Christmas to cater to her. There was no reason to do it. 4 year olds are not great at having expectations ruined, particularly HUGE ones like Christmas. You're missing the huge point which is OP, the adult, had full agency here to go cram her maw to stave off her shakes until her kid was ready for pancakes or just grab her own plate and bring it out to eat and watch presents. She set up a completely pointless fight and then made her 4 yo feel like a bad person for not being interested *that very second* in pancakes. It's ridiculous to expect that of a 4 yo who is opening presents.

Op is so clearly one of those people who loves ruining holidays and special occasions by pulling passive aggressive stunts like this.

How is a fancy family breakfast "stopping Christmas?" I want to make the day special, but I don't cater to my kids. They do what the family does.