Women, be honest, if your husband was fat

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Anonymous wrote:It's a turn-off. My DH has always been overweight, but when we dated/got married I was trying to be a good person and not make my romantic decisions based on looks. We had okay sex back when we were dating, but there was never really any intense attraction or chemistry.

Now I'm not really attracted at all and have little interest in sex. And as a PP stated, it's also about the behavior around being fat. Anytime we go to a restaurant he asks for the largest item on the menu and I watch him wolf down the entire thing. It's disgusting. He also sits around all day doing nothing, which is a huge turn-off. I work really hard to maintain the body I had in my 20s, it's frustrating that he won't do the same. To make things worse, I recently ran into an ex who had the most incredible body I'd ever seen when we dated, and it's gotten even better. The guy was nuts, but I miss being that attracted to someone.

There are a lot of positives in our relationship, and we certainly won't get divorced over it, but what I wouldn't do to run my hands over a six pack again!

This annoys me so much. There is so much pressure put on women to do this, constantly- never on men. And then people wonder why their wives have no libido! Stop pressuring women to be "not shallow" and date/marry people that don't make them hot! It's such total BS for everyone!

I agree, but have found that attractive men tend to want to play the field and not settle down until they are older (if at all). So your options are a hot guy who won't stick around, an average looking guy, or an older guy.

Just because a person is attractive or fit does not mean they're defective in some other way.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not personally be attracted. But I'm sure there are some ladies that like the fuller figured males

Are there?

There's a subset of gay males who like fat men. Not bears (who are kinda hot), but soft, sloppy fat men.

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Anonymous wrote:He is fat. Gained 60 pounds since we got married 20 years ago. We do have sex but it's to maintain the marriage. I just do it to keep the peace.

This is horrifying. I'm sorry. You should cut out the sex

Thank you Hillary Clinton. We recognize you have.

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Umm, if the guy is wealthy, in my experience, there will be no shortage of women who will find him sexually attractive.
Fat wallet trumps fat belly every time

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Anonymous wrote:The double standards between this thread and the one about fatter wives is astounding. it's ok for a wife to lose interest when he gets big, but not the other way around, got it.

Weight looks different on men and women. Never in the history of time have fat men been idealized

Except for most of human history? I have trouble believing some of you on here ever revived a higher education. Fat men were often wealthy men for most of history because they were the only ones who could afford to get fat. Seriously, go look at a museum and see what noble medieval armor looked like (hint it was built for a lot of NFL lineman in mind). This fat bast@%! literally created a new religion so his new hot plaything could become his trophy wife.

Bwahahahahahahahahahahahaha I don't think you know what the word "idealized" means. Hint: it doesn't mean universally made fun of, as Henry VII.

I repeat: fat men have never in the history of time been idealized. Never.

Buddha, NFL, fat rappers, I could go on and on

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Anonymous wrote:DH did get extremely fat. I could hardly stomach having sex with him. The wonderful thing about being a heterosexual female is that you can tell your partner "You are fat lose weight and then I'll start have sex with you again". My husband didn't like my message, but he wasn't mortally wounded by reality, so he lost 80lbs and looks even better than the day we married and we now have a healthy sex life. It's nice to be married to a desireable man who is motivated to be, and remain healthy.

No way in hell a heterosexual man could say that to his wife without utterly crushing her spirit and confidence.

Yup, which is exactly why I'm so glad I'm a heterosexual woman. I would never ever be able to deal with the hypersensitivities of most women. Of course there are exceptions on both sides.

My DH wanted sex, i wanted the fit man i first married back in order to want to have sex. He took that seriously, double downed and i got a man hotter and harder than the one I married. He's not complaining now.

Did he really not make the connection between his weight gain and your lack of desire until you told him to lose weight?

No he did not make the connection, he does not deal in smoke signals. We speak very directly to each other. Minimizes conflict and confusion.

What will you do if your DH ever gets into a car accident or gets a serious disease that deforms his body, like losing a limb or getting a huge scar over his chest or face?

A missing limb wouldn't bother me. Double points he still runs. I love running the Army 10miler amd seeing all the amputees, it is so inspirational. Jothing makes me kick it into high gear than seeing an amputee blaze by me.

I definitly don't find circumstances people can't control unattractive. However there is something terribly unatractive about a fat lazy person who is squandering their youth on obesity.

This! What makes fat men so unattractive to me is the behavior that leads to, and maintauns the obesity.

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Anonymous wrote:Umm, if the guy is wealthy, in my experience, there will be no shortage of women who will find him sexually attractive.
Fat wallet trumps fat belly every time

This. Fat poor guys are out of luck.

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Anonymous wrote:The double standards between this thread and the one about fatter wives is astounding. it's ok for a wife to lose interest when he gets big, but not the other way around, got it.

Weight looks different on men and women. Never in the history of time have fat men been idealized

Except for most of human history? I have trouble believing some of you on here ever revived a higher education. Fat men were often wealthy men for most of history because they were the only ones who could afford to get fat. Seriously, go look at a museum and see what noble medieval armor looked like (hint it was built for a lot of NFL lineman in mind). This fat bast@%! literally created a new religion so his new hot plaything could become his trophy wife.

Bwahahahahahahahahahahahaha I don't think you know what the word "idealized" means. Hint: it doesn't mean universally made fun of, as Henry VII.

I repeat: fat men have never in the history of time been idealized. Never.

Buddha, NFL, fat rappers, I could go on and on

I don't know many women who find Buddha hot. Or fat rappers or fat NFL players. They're more into JJ Watt.

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Anonymous wrote:The double standards between this thread and the one about fatter wives is astounding. it's ok for a wife to lose interest when he gets big, but not the other way around, got it.

Weight looks different on men and women. Never in the history of time have fat men been idealized

Except for most of human history? I have trouble believing some of you on here ever revived a higher education. Fat men were often wealthy men for most of history because they were the only ones who could afford to get fat. Seriously, go look at a museum and see what noble medieval armor looked like (hint it was built for a lot of NFL lineman in mind). This fat bast@%! literally created a new religion so his new hot plaything could become his trophy wife.

Bwahahahahahahahahahahahaha I don't think you know what the word "idealized" means. Hint: it doesn't mean universally made fun of, as Henry VII.

I repeat: fat men have never in the history of time been idealized. Never.

Buddha, NFL, fat rappers, I could go on and on

I don't know many women who find Buddha hot. Or fat rappers or fat NFL players. They're more into JJ Watt.

Seriously.

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I always dated slim guys and married a slim guy. He was skinny fat though. Biked a bit but otherwise sat around playing video games. I am now divorced and my SO is beefy but he is active -- hikes, bikes, plays tennis, basketball, lifts weights, walks everywhere instead of driving. He just likes good rich food and brown liquor. He is sexy to me. Very.

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Anonymous wrote:Umm, if the guy is wealthy, in my experience, there will be no shortage of women who will find him sexually attractive.
Fat wallet trumps fat belly every time

This. Fat poor guys are out of luck.

This +1. It's a sad, unfair, and COMPLETELY True Universal Law.

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Anonymous wrote:The double standards between this thread and the one about fatter wives is astounding. it's ok for a wife to lose interest when he gets big, but not the other way around, got it.

Weight looks different on men and women. Never in the history of time have fat men been idealized

Except for most of human history? I have trouble believing some of you on here ever revived a higher education. Fat men were often wealthy men for most of history because they were the only ones who could afford to get fat. Seriously, go look at a museum and see what noble medieval armor looked like (hint it was built for a lot of NFL lineman in mind). This fat bast@%! literally created a new religion so his new hot plaything could become his trophy wife.

Bwahahahahahahahahahahahaha I don't think you know what the word "idealized" means. Hint: it doesn't mean universally made fun of, as Henry VII.

I repeat: fat men have never in the history of time been idealized. Never.

Buddha, NFL, fat rappers, I could go on and on

Thank you for listing examples of men who are often teased and joked about for their weight. Sad, isn't it?

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Anonymous wrote:The double standards between this thread and the one about fatter wives is astounding. it's ok for a wife to lose interest when he gets big, but not the other way around, got it.

Weight looks different on men and women. Never in the history of time have fat men been idealized

Except for most of human history? I have trouble believing some of you on here ever revived a higher education. Fat men were often wealthy men for most of history because they were the only ones who could afford to get fat. Seriously, go look at a museum and see what noble medieval armor looked like (hint it was built for a lot of NFL lineman in mind). This fat bast@%! literally created a new religion so his new hot plaything could become his trophy wife.

Bwahahahahahahahahahahahaha I don't think you know what the word "idealized" means. Hint: it doesn't mean universally made fun of, as Henry VII.

I repeat: fat men have never in the history of time been idealized. Never.

Buddha, NFL, fat rappers, I could go on and on

I don't know many women who find Buddha hot. Or fat rappers or fat NFL players. They're more into JJ Watt.

Seriously.

Shhhhh! This guy is (and has been) clinging to his delusion. I'm not sure he could mentally handle admitting that women have physical preferences (and he ain't it!)

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Anonymous wrote:Umm, if the guy is wealthy, in my experience, there will be no shortage of women who will find him sexually attractive.
Fat wallet trumps fat belly every time

This. Fat poor guys are out of luck.

This +1. It's a sad, unfair, and COMPLETELY True Universal Law.

How is it unfair that having little money and lots of fat isn't high on many people's hot lists?