How much does weight matter?

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You sound like a horribly selfish and lazy partner.
And who want's to have sex with an unattractive lazy spouse?
The standard outcome in those cases is the other spouse winds up cheating.

Do you think you deserve more? Really?

Yes, I do. Because I invest sustained effort into my relationship.
This includes working on my physical appearance.
It does get harder as I get older, and so I ..... just work harder: control diet, regular cardio and lifting weights.
For a woman, that's easy: just don't gain weight!
Why are you fighting so hard for the right to get fat without repercussions?
Beyond the relationship, don't you actually care how you look?

PP, you may work to your heart's content. Just don't insist that others do to.

We all get what we deserve? Are you happily married? I am. That's all that matters to me. You work, and I will enjoy life outside the gym, thank you very much

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Anonymous wrote:In the Midwest they get married younger, before they gain weight.

They don't need to gain weight in the Midwest , they're more often overweight by birth

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Anonymous wrote:In the Midwest they get married younger, before they gain weight.

They don't need to gain weight in the Midwest , they're more often overweight by birth

Wow. What piece of excrement you are, PP

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Anonymous wrote:Why not spend some time and effort to eat better and work out more? These are things she can change.

+1 Why do women dig their heels in on this issue?

I have a friend a lot like yours, OP. And she almost defiantly eats her face off because she thinks she deserves to be loved for who she is inside. I admit I don't have the guts to tell her point blank she is flushing her own romantic future down the toilet because toxic pride.

+2. It's only for a season. Once she gets the guy she can put the weight back on.

Why is the assumption here that they stuff their face or eat unhealthy? I'm overweight. NOT one person who's lived with me or been my friend understands why. I eat a 90% vegetarian diet. I don't carbs for most of my meals. I have a couple of health issues that make it impossible to maintain weight unless I exercise at least an hour a day of cardio and 20 minutes of weights AND maintain my eating and DON'T drink. Well, I can maintain my eating, but I like drinking with friends and i don't always want to go to the gym. But I'm not sitting on my overweight ass eating burgers and fries, most of my lunches are salads without weird dressings and fat rich toppings. This is my body, and I'm done hating it and battling it. If you don't like me, fine, plenty of men and women do. But this assumption is so bullshit.

Try Atkins. Seriously, it works and it's not hard.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful, intelligent, kind and outgoing friend. She has a pretty face and is perfect on paper; the only exception is that she is probably 50 lbs overweight. Is there something in the water in DC that makes guys here only want skinny women? Obviously there are millions of happily partnered women who happen to be fat. She had much better luck dating in other cities. Is DC a particularly difficult dating pool for overweight women, or is it just a coincidence that since moving here, she's had zero luck? She is well educated, makes a great salary, and is sexually open. She's kind of a "dream girl" so weight must be the only thing holding her back. Any insight from women who've been in her shoes? Would she do better is she relocated? She really wants marriage and a family. Or any insight from men? I'm on the verge of telling her to move to the Midwest.

Stop saying 50 pounds overweight!!!!! She has a BMI over 30 and is clinically obese. She is unhealthy and will have shorter lifespan with limited physical activities. Who wants that except someone with a BBW fetish.

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We all get what we deserve?

You deserve what you can make happen. Well, that plus you also deserve not to get bloodied up by a cop for staying in your paid-for airplane seat.

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As someone above mentioned, marriage is transactional. High earners can buy younger thinner women. Why do the rest of the women fight over their desire to be attractive to losers, I do not know. Why, indeed?

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We all get what we deserve?

You deserve what you can make happen. Well, that plus you also deserve not to get bloodied up by a cop for staying in your paid-for airplane seat.

LOL I put the question mark there by mistake, I meant "we get what we deserve."

As far the asshole on the plane, he probably didn't deserve this from the airline. But he did deserve this from the Universe, and I'm not picky about how exactly karma chooses to strike

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What's her waist to hip ratio

I'm being serious if it's over .8 shes pretty much screwed

Guys don't care about weight they care about WHR

Some guys don't mind say a 34 inch waist as long as the proportions are correct. at least 43+ inch hips in this example

It works the other way too

Other dudes are happy with say a 25 inch waist skinny chick as long as the hips are 31+

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Anonymous wrote:I think DC sucks for dating period, it's not about weight. I know plenty of dream women who've been single for 8 years now. It's kinda insane.

Is that still the case? I know it was back when I was single in the 90s. Sometimes I think I settled because of it

DC is a VERY hard dating market.

I'm a single guy who relocated to DC for work.

The women in DC are unreasonably picky. They call it having "standards" and being "uncompromising."
Dates often felt like interviews where questions are coded methods of figuring out my current and potential earning power and my social status. Everything was being judged during the dates (my choice of location, activity, day of week, time, etc.) if things were not chosen just right there was ghosting and sometime the snide remark. Their attitude often gave the impression that I, as a person, was a secondary consideration in their evaluation. After 2 years of dating locally I gave up and did the online thing and found a great woman to date that doesn't live in DC.

Me: STEMs Undergrad & Masters, MBA, Speaks two languages, 5'11'' 180lbs reasonably good looking... in DC I'm deficient.

Man I'm happy you found someone . That was quite sad to read , even sadder because I'm 200% sure those women aren't out here looking like Charlize theron either , smh

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Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful, intelligent, kind and outgoing friend. She has a pretty face and is perfect on paper; the only exception is that she is probably 50 lbs overweight. Is there something in the water in DC that makes guys here only want skinny women? Obviously there are millions of happily partnered women who happen to be fat. She had much better luck dating in other cities. Is DC a particularly difficult dating pool for overweight women, or is it just a coincidence that since moving here, she's had zero luck? She is well educated, makes a great salary, and is sexually open. She's kind of a "dream girl" so weight must be the only thing holding her back. Any insight from women who've been in her shoes? Would she do better is she relocated? She really wants marriage and a family. Or any insight from men? I'm on the verge of telling her to move to the Midwest.

Stop saying 50 pounds overweight!!!!! She has a BMI over 30 and is clinically obese. She is unhealthy and will have shorter lifespan with limited physical activities. Who wants that except someone with a BBW fetish.

WOW, Just WOW.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a wonderful, intelligent, kind and outgoing friend. She has a pretty face and is perfect on paper; the only exception is that she is probably 50 lbs overweight. Is there something in the water in DC that makes guys here only want skinny women? Obviously there are millions of happily partnered women who happen to be fat. She had much better luck dating in other cities. Is DC a particularly difficult dating pool for overweight women, or is it just a coincidence that since moving here, she's had zero luck? She is well educated, makes a great salary, and is sexually open. She's kind of a "dream girl" so weight must be the only thing holding her back. Any insight from women who've been in her shoes? Would she do better is she relocated? She really wants marriage and a family. Or any insight from men? I'm on the verge of telling her to move to the Midwest.

Stop saying 50 pounds overweight!!!!! She has a BMI over 30 and is clinically obese. She is unhealthy and will have shorter lifespan with limited physical activities. Who wants that except someone with a BBW fetish.

WOW, Just WOW.

NP. I can't stop laughing . Sorry

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Anonymous wrote:In the Midwest they get married younger, before they gain weight.

They don't need to gain weight in the Midwest , they're more often overweight by birth

Wow. What piece of excrement you are, PP

As if I lied

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Im 39 and have two elementary aged kids and divorced. Ive had no problems dating and now have a serious boyfriend.

However, I'm fit and take care of myself. After kids it was much harder to keep my weight in check. Butnyes, attraction is important.

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Anonymous wrote:In the Midwest they get married younger, before they gain weight.

They don't need to gain weight in the Midwest , they're more often overweight by birth

Wow. What piece of excrement you are, PP

As if I lied

More than half of DC's inhabitants are still obese, so don't flatter yourself. I know DC is probably first in the contest for inhabitants who feel the most inadequate and therefore have to prove themselves by making fun of the rest of the country, but don't ignore facts.