How much does weight matter?

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Anonymous wrote:In the Midwest they get married younger, before they gain weight.

They don't need to gain weight in the Midwest , they're more often overweight by birth

Wow. What piece of excrement you are, PP

As if I lied

More than half of DC's inhabitants are still obese, so don't flatter yourself. I know DC is probably first in the contest for inhabitants who feel the most inadequate and therefore have to prove themselves by making fun of the rest of the country, but don't ignore facts.

No midwestern city makes the top 10 of America's fittest cities . Sounds like you could take your own advice

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Anonymous wrote:Female here. Weight matters to me. For one, I am very active. I was a D-1 athlete. I work out ornplay a sport 6 days a week. I like to do these things with my partner--walking, jogging, riding bikes, lifting, playing a team sport, or doing a fun race together. That's fun for me. I don't want a partner who can't keep up. It's not being mean, it's just a trait that is important to me and a key part of my lifestyle.

Secondly, if someone is overweight it tells me they might be sloppy in other areas of life. I am very neat, organized, and meticulous about details. Call me mean, but I look at overweight people and think they are sloppy, possibly disorganized, and just don't care much.

You can preach on and on and on about how someone should value you for more than just your looks. Of course your spouse should. But attraction is a huge part of a relationship. Without attraction you're just friends. I don't fault anyone for saying that they require this or that physical trait in a partner. That's what a romantic relationship is about. If you wanted a roommate or a BFF then it wouldn't matter. But this is your lover.

Wow! We think so much alike!

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Anonymous wrote:In the Midwest they get married younger, before they gain weight.

They don't need to gain weight in the Midwest , they're more often overweight by birth

Wow. What piece of excrement you are, PP

As if I lied

More than half of DC's inhabitants are still obese, so don't flatter yourself. I know DC is probably first in the contest for inhabitants who feel the most inadequate and therefore have to prove themselves by making fun of the rest of the country, but don't ignore facts.

No midwestern city makes the top 10 of America's fittest cities . Sounds like you could take your own advice

What list are you consulting? A midwestern city is actually #2--Minneapolis.

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Recent men's survey says:59% like size12, 14% like size14, 10% like size16, 8% like size10, 7% like size8, 2% like size6

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Anonymous wrote:In the Midwest they get married younger, before they gain weight.

They don't need to gain weight in the Midwest , they're more often overweight by birth

Wow. What piece of excrement you are, PP

As if I lied

More than half of DC's inhabitants are still obese, so don't flatter yourself. I know DC is probably first in the contest for inhabitants who feel the most inadequate and therefore have to prove themselves by making fun of the rest of the country, but don't ignore facts.

No midwestern city makes the top 10 of America's fittest cities . Sounds like you could take your own advice

The State of Minnesota is thinner than the State of Maryland, or the District....

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Anonymous wrote:Recent men's survey says:59% like size12, 14% like size14, 10% like size16, 8% like size10, 7% like size8, 2% like size6

Who did the survey? Lane Bryant?

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Anonymous wrote:I think DC sucks for dating period, it's not about weight. I know plenty of dream women who've been single for 8 years now. It's kinda insane.

Is that still the case? I know it was back when I was single in the 90s. Sometimes I think I settled because of it

Based on my anecdotal evidence watching friends, I think so. One of my friends is GORGEOUS, like stops men in their tracks gorgeous. I've never seen a woman get so many looks from men and women before. She's skinny, too. She's smart, has an MA, has a great job and drives an amazing luxury car. No debt. She's very picky about men so I'm sure that plays a role, but, even she has a hard time with the dating pool in DC and has been single for the majority of the time I've known her, which is about 10 years now. I know at least 4 other women who are similar to her but not as gorgeous yet quite beautiful and they are all single. No lack of meetups, dating apps, etc. The dating pool seems to stink. None of my married friends met their SO in DC, now that I think about it.

How old is your gorgeous friend? Over 30? If so, that's probably why. Tons of cute young women here. Men don't really care about what car a woman drives and her degrees and career.

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Anonymous wrote:I think DC sucks for dating period, it's not about weight. I know plenty of dream women who've been single for 8 years now. It's kinda insane.

Is that still the case? I know it was back when I was single in the 90s. Sometimes I think I settled because of it

Based on my anecdotal evidence watching friends, I think so. One of my friends is GORGEOUS, like stops men in their tracks gorgeous. I've never seen a woman get so many looks from men and women before. She's skinny, too. She's smart, has an MA, has a great job and drives an amazing luxury car. No debt. She's very picky about men so I'm sure that plays a role, but, even she has a hard time with the dating pool in DC and has been single for the majority of the time I've known her, which is about 10 years now. I know at least 4 other women who are similar to her but not as gorgeous yet quite beautiful and they are all single. No lack of meetups, dating apps, etc. The dating pool seems to stink. None of my married friends met their SO in DC, now that I think about it.

How old is your gorgeous friend? Over 30? If so, that's probably why. Tons of cute young women here. Men don't really care about what car a woman drives and her degrees and career.

But ... but ... MA! Car! Picky!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend. She is 50 lbs overweight.

find a gym and good luck.

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DC truly sucks for dating. The men here are awful, the women aren't much better. Definitely I would tell her to move if she is serious about wanting to find a good partner

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Anonymous wrote:To men: very very much.
To women: not so much

Then why the fuq bother be with anyone who only values you by your looks? I don't get it. I much rather be single for the rest of my life than live a life knowing if I put on weight, my husband or bf would be so embarrassed and not wanna be with me, or as suggested in the other threads cheat on me.

I highly advise that you remain single. Trust me, if you start out fit/in-shape, it best for everybody if you just remain that way
But if you find staying in-shape to be hard, and are planning to "let yourself go" later, it would be best if you did that *before* getting attached.
Signed, married guy whose wife gained 40 pounds, now exploring my options.

How's your hairline, bruh?

How is performance, jerk?

LOL!!!! They really hit a nerve with you didn't they?

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Honestly, a lot of these "great catch" people have some personality flaw that makes them hard to date and only comes out in relationships, like they are really clingy in relationships, they're super high-strung about relationships, or they are demanding in relationships, or they can't schedule around another person, or they are full of themselves and expect to be waited on.

These aren't things you necessarily see if someone is your friend, especially if you've never been around her while she's in a serious relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:If you look up places that rank cities in terms of health, DC is one of the least overweight cities in the country. That could be some of it?

However, I have plenty of single friends, of all shapes and sizes, who seem to have dating trouble in the DC area. I'm not sure exactly what to attribute it to, but I have a few theories. I think there area also sometimes things about some women that other women cannot pick up on, which totally turns off men. So, you'd probably need to focus group your friend in front of a group of men, not women.

You need to remember that women and men each look at different things when assessing women.

Could it be that D.C. is a workaholic hotspot? Maybe it's ok for men to be career workaholics, but what guy wants a wife he'll never see, except when she's exhausted from her demanding office job? Just putting out that thought. -A woman

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Anonymous wrote:I think DC sucks for dating period, it's not about weight. I know plenty of dream women who've been single for 8 years now. It's kinda insane.

Is that still the case? I know it was back when I was single in the 90s. Sometimes I think I settled because of it

Based on my anecdotal evidence watching friends, I think so. One of my friends is GORGEOUS, like stops men in their tracks gorgeous. I've never seen a woman get so many looks from men and women before. She's skinny, too. She's smart, has an MA, has a great job and drives an amazing luxury car. No debt. She's very picky about men so I'm sure that plays a role, but, even she has a hard time with the dating pool in DC and has been single for the majority of the time I've known her, which is about 10 years now. I know at least 4 other women who are similar to her but not as gorgeous yet quite beautiful and they are all single. No lack of meetups, dating apps, etc. The dating pool seems to stink. None of my married friends met their SO in DC, now that I think about it.

How old is your gorgeous friend? Over 30? If so, that's probably why. Tons of cute young women here. Men don't really care about what car a woman drives and her degrees and career.

Over 30, lives in Maryland, and that "amazing luxury car" is a C300.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, a lot of these "great catch" people have some personality flaw that makes them hard to date and only comes out in relationships, like they are really clingy in relationships, they're super high-strung about relationships, or they are demanding in relationships, or they can't schedule around another person, or they are full of themselves and expect to be waited on.

These aren't things you necessarily see if someone is your friend, especially if you've never been around her while she's in a serious relationship.

this!!

i have a friend who is very attractive (also thin) and can't keep a guy despite turning heads wherever she goes. i am still not sure what the problem is because her behavior is ok when she is with me but i think it boils down to her being exhausting in her demands.