How much does weight matter?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The more sexually open she is, the less weight matters.

-- A guy.

I am a guy and I disagree.

White?

Yes, but I almost exclusively date non-white graduate-educated women.

You date Asian women. Just say it. Highly educated people have lower rates of obesity in general and Asians have the lowest rates of obesity versus all other ethnic groups.

[Anonymous]

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The 1 on the left is not made by god but by a plastic surgeon.

Nah. She looks to be in her twenties. That's how women look when they are normal weight and not obese. But the new "normal" is the one on the right since nearly 1/2 of adult women are fat.

Her breasts are obviously plastic. All you gotta do is look at the kardashian sisters to know the magic of a scalpel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more sexually open she is, the less weight matters.

-- A guy.

I am a guy and I disagree.

White?

Yes, but I almost exclusively date non-white graduate-educated women.

You date Asian women. Just say it. Highly educated people have lower rates of obesity in general and Asians have the lowest rates of obesity versus all other ethnic groups.

Thats untrue. I meet highly educated people in their 30s and 40s everyday who are 20 plus pounds overweight and chubby. Even asian men. Asian women who have been in the us a long time also gain weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The more sexually open she is, the less weight matters.

-- A guy.

I am a guy and I disagree.

White?

Yes, but I almost exclusively date non-white graduate-educated women.

You date Asian women. Just say it. Highly educated people have lower rates of obesity in general and Asians have the lowest rates of obesity versus all other ethnic groups.

Primarily Black, Latin, South Asian, East Asian, Middle Eastern, Ethiopian, Jewish, and occasionally Italian. Yes, I have a "type".

[Anonymous]

Weight really doesn't matter to most men. Unless the woman is fat.

[Anonymous]

50 lbs extra is a whole lot on a woman's frame. 20-30 extra is overweight, some guys will give you a chance. But 50? Her quickest way to coupledom is to lose at least 20 lbs, rather than relocating. What's underneath all that emotional eating? There's a high chance of unresolved emotional/mental issues. I may sound harsh but in my 20s I was overweight myself and didn't realize how much this mattered to men, especially the high achieving ones. I thought, hey, I'm only 15-20 lbs "overweight", what's the big deal. (Though BMI-wise still on the Normal weight, just on the heavier side of Normal BMI). Anyway, that 10-20 lbs made a TON of difference to men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love how every overweight female has "health issues." No you don't. A very small percentage of overweight people do. A very large percentage just underestimate what they eat.

Agree. Come on. If you are in the tiny minority battling complex health issues that make you gain weight, we are NOT talking about you!!!

[Anonymous]

10:50 - my point was that the woman on the left appears to have an hourglass figure, AND she looks like she takes care of herself. She's not stick-thin, but her legs and arms are pretty lean. Her belly isn't completely flat, but it's clearly toned. this girl goes to the gym. I wouldn't mind having her figure. I look pretty good in a bikini in my 40's, but I've always wished my boobs were a bit bigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10:50 - my point was that the woman on the left appears to have an hourglass figure, AND she looks like she takes care of herself. She's not stick-thin, but her legs and arms are pretty lean. Her belly isn't completely flat, but it's clearly toned. this girl goes to the gym. I wouldn't mind having her figure. I look pretty good in a bikini in my 40's, but I've always wished my boobs were a bit bigger.

I disagree with you because I don't see any muscle tone on that girl. There's some flab. She's just very young. And it's pretty telling that in wishing for her figure you name ONE body part that doesn't change with exercise.

[Anonymous]

I would NEVER date a heavy (even slightly heavy) woman. Not for any reason, under no circumstances, ever. No matter how nice her face is or how great her personality is. That means nothing. I'd never be a fatty for a variety of reasons:

First, there's no need to. There's plenty of women who aren't fat, who have nice faces and great personalities.

Second, why should I lower my standards? I can do better, so why wouldn't I? Let lesser quality men date them.

Third, when I see a decent looking guy with heavy woman, I immediately think: he's not well endowed, or, he's not educated, or, he's broke. Because in any other scenario, he should be pulling better quality.

Heavy women can get clingy if they date a premium grade male, and when the relationship ends, they can become unstable and emotionally unpredictable if they start to obsesss that they might never meet another quality man again.


There are many downsides to dating a heavy woman, and ZERO upsides.

[Anonymous]

I tend to agree with the posters stating it's probably more that she's a great friend to you and not that great girlfriend/wife material. You have no idea how much her weight issues are causing hangups in her personality and/or sexually when she is behind closed doors with her boyfriends.

Also, depending on her height, 50lbs is a LOT of pounds overweight, so that will automatically be a deal-breaker for a large majority of men unless she carries it really, really well. I tend to agree that even though we have accepted more curvy bodies in the US (and I think that is a good thing - no one needs to have a thigh gap or anorexia, for goodness sake), I think men are thinking more along the lines of Beyonce curvy, not the photo on the right of a PP's post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would NEVER date a heavy (even slightly heavy) woman. Not for any reason, under no circumstances, ever. No matter how nice her face is or how great her personality is. That means nothing. I'd never be a fatty for a variety of reasons:

First, there's no need to. There's plenty of women who aren't fat, who have nice faces and great personalities.

Second, why should I lower my standards? I can do better, so why wouldn't I? Let lesser quality men date them.

Third, when I see a decent looking guy with heavy woman, I immediately think: he's not well endowed, or, he's not educated, or, he's broke. Because in any other scenario, he should be pulling better quality.

Heavy women can get clingy if they date a premium grade male, and when the relationship ends, they can become unstable and emotionally unpredictable if they start to obsesss that they might never meet another quality man again.


There are many downsides to dating a heavy woman, and ZERO upsides.

May you end up with the woman you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would NEVER date a heavy (even slightly heavy) woman. Not for any reason, under no circumstances, ever. No matter how nice her face is or how great her personality is. That means nothing. I'd never be a fatty for a variety of reasons:

First, there's no need to. There's plenty of women who aren't fat, who have nice faces and great personalities.

Second, why should I lower my standards? I can do better, so why wouldn't I? Let lesser quality men date them.

Third, when I see a decent looking guy with heavy woman, I immediately think: he's not well endowed, or, he's not educated, or, he's broke. Because in any other scenario, he should be pulling better quality.

Heavy women can get clingy if they date a premium grade male, and when the relationship ends, they can become unstable and emotionally unpredictable if they start to obsesss that they might never meet another quality man again.


There are many downsides to dating a heavy woman, and ZERO upsides.

People generally date and end up with similarly attractive people regardless of weight: 5s end up with 5s unless the man is very rich or the woman is very beautiful. Everyone gets who they deserve

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't she just lose 20-30 lbs and see what happens? Seriously it's not that hard, anyone could lose that especially if they had an extra 50 lying around. Sure beats staying fat and wondering if that's it because even if it doesn't get her a boyfriend, she still loses the weight and feels/looks better for herself.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP. OP's friend should lose the weight if it is very important for her to find a partner. Additionally, it'll be great for her health to do so.

It is absurd to suggest relocating to a different area of the country before doing something as simple as improving her health and losing the weight.