Mom leaves her baby in the car at daycare pickup wwyd?

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

No. This is a case where you DO NOT mind your own business. Call police immediately. No 2nd change for this.

You would ruin a family's life and cause massive legal problems based on the minute chance that something will go wrong in the parking lot. You think you're a good person. You're not.

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Anonymous wrote:You are all being ridiculous. Assuming it's not summer, the danger to that child is far greater when the kid is being driven around by the mom than it is when the kid is sitting in the car unattended.

This is a perfect example of this new twisted thinking: If it's morally wrong, then it MUST be dangerous.

http://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2016/08/22/490847797/why-do-we-judge-parents-for-putting-kids-at-perceived-but-unreal-risk

We are living in a day and age when busy bodies "get involved" (or at least ring the alarm bells) if they see a 9 and 11 year old kid shooting hoops at the neighborhood playground for a half an hour or so unaccompanied by an adult....horrors!!

I don't know what they get out of doing that but in their minds if a parent isn't coptering around their kid 24/7 it makes them very, very nervous. Maybe it's anxiety? Mental health issue?

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OP should see a therapist to address her anxieties.

[Anonymous]

This kind of $hit is why windows are tinted jet black.

What I don't understand OP, is if you are so worried about the child that you why don't offer to help on the days that you are available?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

No. This is a case where you DO NOT mind your own business. Call police immediately. No 2nd change for this.

You would ruin a family's life and cause massive legal problems based on the minute chance that something will go wrong in the parking lot. You think you're a good person. You're not.

+1. Are you always so judgmental and inconsiderate at the same time? And I disagree with the mom who leaves the baby in the car (and this is a point of contention and much debate in our house because DH thinks it is fine and I would never do it).

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Anonymous wrote:She is leaving a sleeping baby in an air conditioned car that is almost certainly locked for two minutes. And you people want to call the police? Y'all are a bunch of loons.

With the new cars, I don't think you can lock the car when the keys are in it. My car automatically unlocks when the keys are near enough to start the engine. I am a very low-key (a lot of people on here would say almost neglectful!) parent, and I don't think this is safe to do on a regular basis. The baby would be safer in a car with the windows all rolled down, but the keys taken with the mom. There's a certain percentage of people that are looking to steal a baby, but they are a pretty small number. There's a certain percentage of people that are looking to steal a car, and they are a much bigger number. If you're playing odds, at least play them smart. Since it's now impossible to hotwire a car, all the car thiefs are looking for cars with keys left in the car. I bet they wouldn't even notice the sleeping baby until they are gone with the car.

Generally though, once they realize a baby is in the car, car thieves either lose the car or the baby quickly. They know that potential charges are MUCH worse for stealing a car w/baby vs empty car.

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

This is true DC culture. Everyone has a fantasy that they are a famous whistleblower, so they go through life looking for scenarios where they can rat people out for anything.

Personally, I have no issue with leaving a baby sleeping in a car if the temperature is okay. Or, leaving a baby in an electric car, since that's no emissions and you can leave it running easily. That being said, if I see a baby in a car alone, I might just hang out near there and wait for the mom to come back. Would I say anything to her? Hell, no. I am not an asshole.

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

You're missing the point. I'm not timing her to get her in trouble. I'm timing her to make sure the baby isn't alone in a car for an unreasonable amount of time. And I'm not trying to "get her in trouble". Please grow up. I'm trying to gauge whether this behavior is sufficiently risky that I should raise it with her or have the center raise it with her. And I can't reorganize my life to make sure I coincide with her at daycare so I can stand by her car or check out her child (which would not even be permissible). So please stop obsessing about this-it's not going to happen.

Backpedal, rewrite, deflect, backpedal some more...

Or...just read my post where I said EXACTLY that.

"I don't want to spend my free time helping her out."

That's right, I don't. If you had bothered to read further you will also see why I timed her and it was not to "get her in trouble". I have my own family to take care of. I'm interested in the welfare of the kid, not interested in becoming part of her village, nor is it realistic. I guess the question, since I have to spell it out for dense and obsessive people like yourself is GOING FORWARD should I raise it with her/the center. Since, as previously noted, I cannot time my entire life to meet her at daycare and stand by her car.

Yeah, I mean, just because her child goes to your child's school, why should you be part of her village? Don't we know how important and busy you are?

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Anonymous wrote:I can see not wanting to wake up a sleeping baby (for all we know this may be the FIRST time that baby had closed its eyes in hours and she wasn't willing to mess with that) for two mins.

Like others said, if you are there every day and able to see her do this every day then you are able to be of assistance in some way other than tattling to authorities and making problems for her. If you just saw her this one time, you should STFU because you sound like a real bitch in this thread.

And yet, you are the person coming on here and using foul language.

Foul, but accurate. You think nothing about reporting a woman to cps, but the term bitch makes you cry.

Yep, I'm in the District.

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I wish I didn't live in a world with people like OP. Life was so much better when people were practical about caring for their children, and weren't so mean spirited that they would call the cops or CPS for a non-issue (or spend their time timing another mother and crowd-sourcing the mother's actions). Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

This is true DC culture. Everyone has a fantasy that they are a famous whistleblower, so they go through life looking for scenarios where they can rat people out for anything.

Personally, I have no issue with leaving a baby sleeping in a car if the temperature is okay. Or, leaving a baby in an electric car, since that's no emissions and you can leave it running easily. That being said, if I see a baby in a car alone, I might just hang out near there and wait for the mom to come back. Would I say anything to her? Hell, no. I am not an asshole.

+1

This town is full of hall monitors who get off on tattling.

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Anonymous wrote:Title says it all- there's a mom who has a napping baby in the car while she picks up her kid from daycare. She has to enter the building, go around the corner, sign out the kid, and get back to the car. Car is running. There isn't normally space right out front-but it's not a far walk. I timed it-child is unaccompanied in the car for about two minutes. Say something? Or MYOB.

Since you have the time to time her while she's away from the car, Why don't you ask her if she'd like for you to stay at the car and watch her sleeping baby while she runs in to grab her kid? That would probably be the best way to help out a fellow parent who appears to be juggling conpeting schedules for her kids.

OP, you could learn a lot from this poster and 00:27, who both came at this situation from a compassionate, helpful angle.

Too bad you are too self-absorbed to listen to them.

Are you really suggesting that I coordinate my daily schedule with this women so I can stand by her car for two extra minutes every day?

You're missing the point. You immediately think about how you can get this woman in trouble (timing her? Really?). A good person, like the PPs, would ask first how they can help this woman. Shame on you.

You're missing the point. I'm not timing her to get her in trouble. I'm timing her to make sure the baby isn't alone in a car for an unreasonable amount of time. And I'm not trying to "get her in trouble". Please grow up. I'm trying to gauge whether this behavior is sufficiently risky that I should raise it with her or have the center raise it with her. And I can't reorganize my life to make sure I coincide with her at daycare so I can stand by her car or check out her child (which would not even be permissible). So please stop obsessing about this-it's not going to happen.

Backpedal, rewrite, deflect, backpedal some more...

Or...just read my post where I said EXACTLY that.

"I don't want to spend my free time helping her out."

That's right, I don't. If you had bothered to read further you will also see why I timed her and it was not to "get her in trouble". I have my own family to take care of. I'm interested in the welfare of the kid, not interested in becoming part of her village, nor is it realistic. I guess the question, since I have to spell it out for dense and obsessive people like yourself is GOING FORWARD should I raise it with her/the center. Since, as previously noted, I cannot time my entire life to meet her at daycare and stand by her car.

Yeah, I mean, just because her child goes to your child's school, why should you be part of her village? Don't we know how important and busy you are?

Come on now, enough with the "village thing". The mother is 100% capable of watching her own child and it is 100% that mother's responsibility to do so. Op doesn't want the responsibility of watching the child (Op has her own kids to watch), she just feels uneasy seeing the child left alone in a running car. I can understand that.

I would make vague mention of it to the director and ask her to put out a letter reminding parents not to leave their kids alone in the preschool parking lot. No need to get all Cagney and Lacy with surveillance - just something vague "Oh, I think I saw someone leave a little one alone in their car the other day during pick up. Maybe you should put out a reminder about that?" The end. Done.

[Anonymous]

I can 100% predict OP's next step. She will bring her iPhone to record the next instance of "bad Mom" leaving her kid in the car for 2 minutes. She will then call CPS and/or the cops and submit her video as evidence, saying she's just concerned for the kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She is leaving a sleeping baby in an air conditioned car that is almost certainly locked for two minutes. And you people want to call the police? Y'all are a bunch of loons.

With the new cars, I don't think you can lock the car when the keys are in it. My car automatically unlocks when the keys are near enough to start the engine. I am a very low-key (a lot of people on here would say almost neglectful!) parent, and I don't think this is safe to do on a regular basis. The baby would be safer in a car with the windows all rolled down, but the keys taken with the mom. There's a certain percentage of people that are looking to steal a baby, but they are a pretty small number. There's a certain percentage of people that are looking to steal a car, and they are a much bigger number. If you're playing odds, at least play them smart. Since it's now impossible to hotwire a car, all the car thiefs are looking for cars with keys left in the car. I bet they wouldn't even notice the sleeping baby until they are gone with the car.

You can do that with all cars with a push start button.

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Anonymous wrote:I can 100% predict OP's next step. She will bring her iPhone to record the next instance of "bad Mom" leaving her kid in the car for 2 minutes. She will then call CPS and/or the cops and submit her video as evidence, saying she's just concerned for the kid.

People like OP don't understand the wonder that is CPS.

[Anonymous]

I'd think NBD. It takes longer to get baby in and out. At which point she could also be carjacked(!!)

Either help the mom by standing for TWO minutes, whilst you talk with your kid/check the weather....

Or leave her alone.