What screams *INSECURE FRUMP* to you?

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Anonymous wrote:Really, fisherman sweaters are frumpy? I think they are cute casual. Check out this girl. You think this is frumpy?

Adorable on her. Frumpy on a 47 mother of 2.

Unless that mother has the same build as the model (spoiler: I don't)

Most women can't pull this off.

Well fat women, sure. Fat women can't pull anything off though. Sorry the truth hurts.

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If you're buying this sweater in a XS or S, you don't have to worry. If you're buying it in a Large or higher, don't bother.

It doesn't matter how thin you are. If you have big breasts, it will look horrible on you. I am seriously considering a reduction.

[ThatBetch]

My god, what have we done?!

If clothes do it for you, and you're into that, go for it. If not, just put some clothes on and get on with your day. Unless you're gonna take a betch shopping, STFU about what she's wearing. Her body, her choice.

A woman's greatest threat is clearly the bs judgments of other women. This is pathetic!

[Anonymous]

I've seen a few complaints about jewelry. Drop earrings and the like. Can someone point me in the direction of non-frumpy non-insecure jewelry? In a few different price ranges?

I agree with a lot of you all and realize I many need to reevaluate my jewelry.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

I live right in Dupont. I workout. I get dressed in my workout clothes, go workout, and then, get this: go home and shower because it's gross not to. It's not idiotic to get dressed like a normal person when you leave the house (pants, shirts, casual is fine, doesn't have to be business dress). I do it every day. I refuse to be a slob. Just because you overpaid for your tights doesn't mean they aren't pajamas/workout clothes.

+1 if I'm not going to shower at home I shower at the gym. Spending the day in workout clothes after working out is foul.

I always wonder about this too. I swim at Wilson pool and workout at home, so I never wear "athleisure" outside of the home. Are all these women I see at Whole Foods with their sweaty hair and workout clothes on all rank and stinky? Are they gonna stay that way all day? Or are they just "rocking" that look and just happen to have sweaty hair?

Sometimes I go to the grocery store after the gym. Then I go home and shower, and get on with my day.

The gym is 1/2 block to Whole Foods which is one block to my house. I pop in for my salad and whatever groceries I need and then walk home. WTF would I walk home shower and then walk back to WFs? I WAH full-time so it maximizes my time. I often throw on dry workout clothes and then shower after the kids come home from school to save time to get my work hours in. OR---if it is 97 degrees (like this week) and I have to stand outside at a 90 minute soccer practice I am showering when I come home from that.

Everyone in my neighborhood does this. Everyone walks home from the million exercise studios---so they will stop off at Traders or Whole Foods or Starbucks on their way back home. Most often, people bring a dry shirt, or in winter you have a big coat on over it. It's the norm.

We are not talking about people who run a quick errand after the gym. We are talking about the majority of women I see walking around dupont who are in their workout clothes all day. Most actually look like they haven't nor plan to workout that day. It's weird dining somewhere sitting next to slobs who haven't bothered to get dressed for the day. Seriously, you eat at Le Diplomat in your tights? I'm a SAH and I don't even understand SAHMs who dress like that all day. Put on some damn pants for the park, you're plenty capable of running and climbing around in normal clothes at the park. My favorite is women who wear their tights with their huge diamonds. Looks so ridiculous to be prancing around in your underwear with fancy jewelry and full makeup. It takes zero more effort to put on street clothes as opposed to workout clothes and makes you look like you don't aspire to be a couch potato.

I think this "athleisure" (thanks PP) is hitting the nail on the head with "insecure frump." Insecure enough to spend up $100 on spandex leggings yet frumpy enough to hang around all day in workout clothes... even swapping out dry workout clothes for damp workout clothes.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid thread. Frumpy is not usually associated with insecure.

+1. I'm not in favor of people going out in public in their workout gear unless they are working out, but those would be frumps. Insecure people would be the women carrying handbags with logos on them, Tory Burch shoes, crazy amounts of makeup, and an unfriendly demeanor.

You must not live close-in.

There are 4 Pilates studios, an orangetheory, revolve spinning, 4 yoga studios, two major gym chains, cross fit, a rowing boutique gym...all within a 4 block radius of my house. Everyone is walking around in workout gear. Usually--you pop into Whole Foods, Traders or South block juice shop after a workout.

If you workout everyday--it's common. We are very active and take kids to parks and fields and it would be idiotic to shower and dress up as opposed to going there in active wear. Sidelines of kids sporting events also have lots of gym/active wear.

I WAH so it saves time to save my shower for end of day. If I WOH -yea wouldn't stay in gym gear. No plans to impress some SAH yentas...

Rather keep a tight, fit body than worry about somebody catching me in workout gear.

I live right in Dupont. I workout. I get dressed in my workout clothes, go workout, and then, get this: go home and shower because it's gross not to. It's not idiotic to get dressed like a normal person when you leave the house (pants, shirts, casual is fine, doesn't have to be business dress). I do it every day. I refuse to be a slob. Just because you overpaid for your tights doesn't mean they aren't pajamas/workout clothes.

+1 if I'm not going to shower at home I shower at the gym. Spending the day in workout clothes after working out is foul.

I always wonder about this too. I swim at Wilson pool and workout at home, so I never wear "athleisure" outside of the home. Are all these women I see at Whole Foods with their sweaty hair and workout clothes on all rank and stinky? Are they gonna stay that way all day? Or are they just "rocking" that look and just happen to have sweaty hair?

Sometimes I go to the grocery store after the gym. Then I go home and shower, and get on with my day.

The gym is 1/2 block to Whole Foods which is one block to my house. I pop in for my salad and whatever groceries I need and then walk home. WTF would I walk home shower and then walk back to WFs? I WAH full-time so it maximizes my time. I often throw on dry workout clothes and then shower after the kids come home from school to save time to get my work hours in. OR---if it is 97 degrees (like this week) and I have to stand outside at a 90 minute soccer practice I am showering when I come home from that.

Everyone in my neighborhood does this. Everyone walks home from the million exercise studios---so they will stop off at Traders or Whole Foods or Starbucks on their way back home. Most often, people bring a dry shirt, or in winter you have a big coat on over it. It's the norm.

We are not talking about people who run a quick errand after the gym. We are talking about the majority of women I see walking around dupont who are in their workout clothes all day. Most actually look like they haven't nor plan to workout that day. It's weird dining somewhere sitting next to slobs who haven't bothered to get dressed for the day. Seriously, you eat at Le Diplomat in your tights? I'm a SAH and I don't even understand SAHMs who dress like that all day. Put on some damn pants for the park, you're plenty capable of running and climbing around in normal clothes at the park. My favorite is women who wear their tights with their huge diamonds. Looks so ridiculous to be prancing around in your underwear with fancy jewelry and full makeup. It takes zero more effort to put on street clothes as opposed to workout clothes and makes you look like you don't aspire to be a couch potato.

I think this "athleisure" (thanks PP) is hitting the nail on the head with "insecure frump." Insecure enough to spend up $100 on spandex leggings yet frumpy enough to hang around all day in workout clothes... even swapping out dry workout clothes for damp workout clothes.

To think we have hit the state in our society when we actually think putting on jeans is dressing up!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's about fat or not fat. It is about dressing for your body. But, not everyone has this model's coloring. In fact, this model, by virtue of her coloring, is probably seen as somewhat less frumpy. Not everyone has stringy white hair, is fair and skinny. Not everyone looks like they are 12.

Oh please. She's beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think the people who are so obsessed with dressing stylishly and wearing designer labels are the ones who are insecure. And people who start posts trying to bash others for what they wear are the most insecure.

[Anonymous]

Huh. I predicted this wouldn't make it 12 pages, but I think I'll proven wrong.


Carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really, fisherman sweaters are frumpy? I think they are cute casual. Check out this girl. You think this is frumpy?

Does it come in colors other than a Sad or Bland?

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can we please keep posting the same photo over and over and over.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I think the people who are so obsessed with dressing stylishly and wearing designer labels are the ones who are insecure. And people who start posts trying to bash others for what they wear are the most insecure.

Amen.

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Anonymous wrote:God bless them, life is hard, but DC is so full of this stuff I have to comment:

- brown, so much brown. You think it all matches itself, but it doesn't.
- backpacks.... There is never, ever an excuse for a grown woman to wear a backpack. Ever. I would literally prefer if you used a target bag as a handbag.
- merrills
- big droopy breasts. If they are cylindrical without a bra, wear a bra.
- the greasy low ponytail. Dry shampoo or a shower, it's not hard.
- baseball cap worn with a ponytail without pulling the ponytail through the hole in the back.
- too tight clothes that you are constantly pulling over your belly to adjust. You gained weight? So what, please
Just go buy a pair of pants that fit properly. It's okay, reAlly.
- drop earrings that are clearly homemade or bought At a farmers market.
- one cool or edgy item (it's usually a handbag) that is clearly borrowed or a gift because it's the only nice part of your outfit. Or the only part of your outfit that isn't hideous. If your parents or sister want to give you a freebee from Nordstrom, but a good bra, not a cool handbag, it doesn't pull your look together, it makes all your other clothes look like the shit they are.
- women with size 11 feet wearing open toed shoes. If your toes are the length of my fingers, please don't parade them around
- VPL. Again, it's okay to gain weight. But if you do, buy new undies.

Flame away, but women of DC, you have options in life. Never, ever, choose loose fit capris.

You are spot on! Thank you for making me laugh and I it was good for me to hear I need to get rid of the ponytail(only wear it sometimes). Thank goodness I don't wear size 11 shoes.

And the above two posts are perfect illustrations of what screams insecure, mean-girl bitch.

My main offense seems to be a backpack purse, but if that makes me a frump, so be it. Rather be a frump than like either of you two. You are both foul. And while your at it, please post pictures of yourselves. No? Okay, shut up.

Who knew the backpack comment would cause such a shitstorm!? You must be very proud of your fashion choices to defend them so strongly! I'm sure you were hot stuff in 1995 with your kate spade backpack (or Prada knockoff 1999?) maybe even a Vera Bradley fan? Good for you for insisting you don't care about anything as stupid as fashion [though me thinks thou does protest too much]. There are plenty of people with good fashion taste who are bad people and plenty of bad people with bad fashion sense. You are an angry person who carries a backpack. I am a fun, nice person who likes to make jokes about women who carry backpacks or as you call it "backpack purse".

Let's try again. It's an anonymous forum, so you can't hear how I would say it to you, but you mistake my tone for anger when what you need to conjure is disgust or annoyance. Like I just stepped in gum.

You are not a fun, nice person. Fun, nice people who are secure in themselves don't post a list like the one at the top of this that are meant only to make fun of other people, nor would they approve of them. You're a mean, insecure bitch who tries to play off the mean things you say with "it's just a joke". Someone like me doesn't care what someone like you thinks about me, but you do annoy me, because I have a daughter. She is going to have to wade through a whole lot of petty bitches like you as she grows up and figures out who she is. So annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having read through this entire post I can see plainly now that I am most definitely a frump. And furthermore, that I in fact enjoy and intend to continue on in my frumptitude. Who the fuck cares? I have 3 kids, a loving husband, and I'm 45. I really don't care that much. I want to wear what I want to wear. I'm old enough to have lived through the early days of Prince and Madonna, Pretty in Pink, Julia Robert's first film, grunge, the rebirth of 80's dance/rock, Bollywood, ....and at this point, it's really all been done. Who the hell cares enough to publicly judge another woman for not valuing her appearance enough to really put serious coins into it????? Clothes are fun, but they're just clothes. At least now I am aware that when I wear capris that I am hideously unattractive. Ha! The irony is that I actually think I look good in capris!!! So the joke's on me. Seriously, as women age, we really don't need to continue to be "on trend" unless we're in the fashion industry, right???? Isn't that the beauty of aging??? Don't we ever get to graduate from high school or are we really consigned to a lifetime of servitude to arbitrary rules of fashion and "on tend" bs?

The frump doth protest too much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen a few complaints about jewelry. Drop earrings and the like. Can someone point me in the direction of non-frumpy non-insecure jewelry? In a few different price ranges?

I agree with a lot of you all and realize I many need to reevaluate my jewelry.

If it has brightly colored beads or strange whimsical shapes, it's gotta go. Get some diamond or gold studs. Really.

[Anonymous]

I have a Fishermans sweater like the one the woman is wearing. I am size 4, don't have a massive bust and have long legs. It looks fine with skinny jeans.