My daughter is the only white girl in her grade: ask me anything

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you aware that you have the foundation set for an AMAZING college application essay?

That actually hadn't occurred to me. I'm sure that DD will have any number of experiences that she can write about in her college application essays, though.

If she goes to college.

Her dad and I went to college, as did our parents. I have no reason to believe that she will not go to college. If she doesn't want to go to college, I'm sure she will do something that requires an application essay, and she can use this experience for that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"No, I think once you go thru the process with older one, your views change. When you have only one young kid like you, your views are still naive/innocent. Don't get me wrong. I think what you are doing is great but the reality can be harsh for your DD later. "

+1 million.

Here's the deal. Every one of my friends who was enthused about their diverse school when their kids were in K were reconsidering their decision to stay by third grade, when the lack of academic intensity becomes apparent. And all but one have pulled their kids from their original schools to put them into higher performing schools.

It doesn't sound to me like OP is in a diverse school, though.

It is diverse - I think she said it's 60-40 Latino/African American.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No, I think once you go thru the process with older one, your views change. When you have only one young kid like you, your views are still naive/innocent. Don't get me wrong. I think what you are doing is great but the reality can be harsh for your DD later. "

+1 million.

Here's the deal. Every one of my friends who was enthused about their diverse school when their kids were in K were reconsidering their decision to stay by third grade, when the lack of academic intensity becomes apparent. And all but one have pulled their kids from their original schools to put them into higher performing schools.

It doesn't sound to me like OP is in a diverse school, though.

It is diverse - I think she said it's 60-40 Latino/African American.

OP here. It's 60% AA, 30% Latino, and 10% other races.

One thing I think is a major issue in DCPS is that the racial breakdown of the schools is for the whole school. It's not particularly useful in considering what your kids' grade will be like. Our stats for kindergarten and below are probably a lot different, while our stats for above kindergarten are going to be more like 60/40 Latino/AA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you aware that you have the foundation set for an AMAZING college application essay?

That actually hadn't occurred to me. I'm sure that DD will have any number of experiences that she can write about in her college application essays, though.

If she goes to college.

Her dad and I went to college, as did our parents. I have no reason to believe that she will not go to college. If she doesn't want to go to college, I'm sure she will do something that requires an application essay, and she can use this experience for that.

Were you there only white person in your school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No, I think once you go thru the process with older one, your views change. When you have only one young kid like you, your views are still naive/innocent. Don't get me wrong. I think what you are doing is great but the reality can be harsh for your DD later. "

+1 million.

Here's the deal. Every one of my friends who was enthused about their diverse school when their kids were in K were reconsidering their decision to stay by third grade, when the lack of academic intensity becomes apparent. And all but one have pulled their kids from their original schools to put them into higher performing schools.

It doesn't sound to me like OP is in a diverse school, though.

It is diverse - I think she said it's 60-40 Latino/African American.

OP here. It's 60% AA, 30% Latino, and 10% other races.

One thing I think is a major issue in DCPS is that the racial breakdown of the schools is for the whole school. It's not particularly useful in considering what your kids' grade will be like. Our stats for kindergarten and below are probably a lot different, while our stats for above kindergarten are going to be more like 60/40 Latino/AA.

Yeah, that's no one's definition of a diverse school. That's a black-majority school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you aware that you have the foundation set for an AMAZING college application essay?

That actually hadn't occurred to me. I'm sure that DD will have any number of experiences that she can write about in her college application essays, though.

If she goes to college.

Her dad and I went to college, as did our parents. I have no reason to believe that she will not go to college. If she doesn't want to go to college, I'm sure she will do something that requires an application essay, and she can use this experience for that.

Were you there only white person in your school?

No, but I managed to write a good essay anyway. This experience is not going to prevent DD from going to college. Some of the kids she is in class with will not go to college, but that will not be solely because of the school they attend. There will be other factors, many of which are not things that DD has to overcome.

Maybe you can answer a question for me: what future opportunity are you concerned that I am foreclosing to my daughter by sending her to this elementary school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you aware that you have the foundation set for an AMAZING college application essay?

That actually hadn't occurred to me. I'm sure that DD will have any number of experiences that she can write about in her college application essays, though.

If she goes to college.

Her dad and I went to college, as did our parents. I have no reason to believe that she will not go to college. If she doesn't want to go to college, I'm sure she will do something that requires an application essay, and she can use this experience for that.

Not sure how you figure. Maybe if it were reversed (only {insert minority here} in class), but I don't think a college would like to hear it from the other perspective.

Signed,
College graduate who was once "the only white kid" in the whole school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No, I think once you go thru the process with older one, your views change. When you have only one young kid like you, your views are still naive/innocent. Don't get me wrong. I think what you are doing is great but the reality can be harsh for your DD later. "

+1 million.

Here's the deal. Every one of my friends who was enthused about their diverse school when their kids were in K were reconsidering their decision to stay by third grade, when the lack of academic intensity becomes apparent. And all but one have pulled their kids from their original schools to put them into higher performing schools.

It doesn't sound to me like OP is in a diverse school, though.

It is diverse - I think she said it's 60-40 Latino/African American.

OP here. It's 60% AA, 30% Latino, and 10% other races.

One thing I think is a major issue in DCPS is that the racial breakdown of the schools is for the whole school. It's not particularly useful in considering what your kids' grade will be like. Our stats for kindergarten and below are probably a lot different, while our stats for above kindergarten are going to be more like 60/40 Latino/AA.

Yeah, that's no one's definition of a diverse school. That's a black-majority school.

OP here. And yet, if the school was 60% white and 30% black and 10% Latino and/or Asian, we would call that a diverse school. Why is that?

Also, if you're looking at strict percentages, it's a majority Latino school, not a majority black school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No, I think once you go thru the process with older one, your views change. When you have only one young kid like you, your views are still naive/innocent. Don't get me wrong. I think what you are doing is great but the reality can be harsh for your DD later. "

+1 million.

Here's the deal. Every one of my friends who was enthused about their diverse school when their kids were in K were reconsidering their decision to stay by third grade, when the lack of academic intensity becomes apparent. And all but one have pulled their kids from their original schools to put them into higher performing schools.

It doesn't sound to me like OP is in a diverse school, though.

It is diverse - I think she said it's 60-40 Latino/African American.

OP here. It's 60% AA, 30% Latino, and 10% other races.

One thing I think is a major issue in DCPS is that the racial breakdown of the schools is for the whole school. It's not particularly useful in considering what your kids' grade will be like. Our stats for kindergarten and below are probably a lot different, while our stats for above kindergarten are going to be more like 60/40 Latino/AA.

Yeah, that's no one's definition of a diverse school. That's a black-majority school.

what are you talking about? that sounds very diverse to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you aware that you have the foundation set for an AMAZING college application essay?

That actually hadn't occurred to me. I'm sure that DD will have any number of experiences that she can write about in her college application essays, though.

If she goes to college.

Her dad and I went to college, as did our parents. I have no reason to believe that she will not go to college. If she doesn't want to go to college, I'm sure she will do something that requires an application essay, and she can use this experience for that.

Not sure how you figure. Maybe if it were reversed (only {insert minority here} in class), but I don't think a college would like to hear it from the other perspective.

Signed,
College graduate who was once "the only white kid" in the whole school.

I don't think OP has any idea how competitive college admission process has become. She also has no idea the ripple effect she has created for her DD down the road.

[Anonymous]

Is there one troll that is recently posting all the recent racist and ridiculous comments? Jeez, I hope it's just one.

[Anonymous]

I would ask OP: is you DD still alive??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you aware that you have the foundation set for an AMAZING college application essay?

That actually hadn't occurred to me. I'm sure that DD will have any number of experiences that she can write about in her college application essays, though.

If she goes to college.

Her dad and I went to college, as did our parents. I have no reason to believe that she will not go to college. If she doesn't want to go to college, I'm sure she will do something that requires an application essay, and she can use this experience for that.

Not sure how you figure. Maybe if it were reversed (only {insert minority here} in class), but I don't think a college would like to hear it from the other perspective.

Signed,
College graduate who was once "the only white kid" in the whole school.

I don't think OP has any idea how competitive college admission process has become. She also has no idea the ripple effect she has created for her DD down the road.

OP here. Jeez.

When I was deciding what school to send my daughter to, at age 4, the last thing I was concerned about was the college admissions process. Do you have any idea how crazy you sound when you say things like that? By your logic, no one who goes to DCPS, unless it's a DCPS that has more than 50% white kids, will ever go to college, because their parents created a ripple effect that prevented them from getting educated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - what was the point of this thread?

OP here. My original post was:

"I read the demographic thread, and there is a lot of concern about sending a white child to a school where it is likely that that child will be the only white child in their class/grade/school. What I didn't see on the other thread were posts from many people whose children had actually been the "only" in their class. I have done this, and I'm happy to answer questions about it, since there was concern."

My point was to answer questions about the experiences I've had and my child has had in her school. I know people (outside of this forum) who have reservations about sending their kids to neighborhood schools where there are not a lot of or any white kids. My point was to answer questions they may have.

I did not intend, but should have known that I would end up, getting into arguments with racists framing racism as concern for children. That's just where things end up here, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you aware that you have the foundation set for an AMAZING college application essay?

That actually hadn't occurred to me. I'm sure that DD will have any number of experiences that she can write about in her college application essays, though.

If she goes to college.

Her dad and I went to college, as did our parents. I have no reason to believe that she will not go to college. If she doesn't want to go to college, I'm sure she will do something that requires an application essay, and she can use this experience for that.

Not sure how you figure. Maybe if it were reversed (only {insert minority here} in class), but I don't think a college would like to hear it from the other perspective.

Signed,
College graduate who was once "the only white kid" in the whole school.

I don't think OP has any idea how competitive college admission process has become. She also has no idea the ripple effect she has created for her DD down the road.

OP here. Jeez.

When I was deciding what school to send my daughter to, at age 4, the last thing I was concerned about was the college admissions process. Do you have any idea how crazy you sound when you say things like that? By your logic, no one who goes to DCPS, unless it's a DCPS that has more than 50% white kids, will ever go to college, because their parents created a ripple effect that prevented them from getting educated.

Do you really need direction on this , hint the answer is not no