This was 30 years ago. It was assumed that FIL would die first. He and MIL are still alive. No one was dumped. ![]() |
This. |
You are ridiculous. You are blaming this poster for causing her sil's divorce. Really? I assume things about you. You are that special snowflake that expects others to provide for you. You have little savings and know you won't survive without leaching off of your children. |
You know I would if I could. I talked to my parents. We had a NORMAL adult relationship. They are now both deceased and never in a million years would they have taken advantage on me. Let's flip the coin, if you have children, would you screw them over ? |
Your post doesn't make sense. How is this a way for them to pass wealth? In what world is it a good idea to take on debt for other able bodied adults. Are you op's husband? It is disingenuous to imply that emotions are causing op to reject this ridiculous proposal. Op's rational brain knows this is ridiculous. |
+1000 |
Or an MIL who's hoping her son will do this for her someday soon. |
You are very manipulative. Are you op's dh? |
Then let them get jobs and work for what they want. |
It's not that they're planning to take advantage. It's just that things don't always turn out as expected. It's very, very hard for some older people to accept that they won't always be healthy, or that they can't have the standard of living they were expecting. OP's in-laws are not being realistic about either of those things. |
Who is actually paying for the house ? The iLs are putting down the down payment (20%) and making rent payments ( assuming to cover mortgage and hoa). How the heck do you think people acquire rental properties???? You let someone else pay the mortgage. As I have said, numerous times now, HAVE A LEGAL AGREEMENT DEFINE THE SPECIFCS. |
Bad things can happen at any age. Yes, it's more likely to happen to someone in their 60s but don't assume they haven't already debated this and decided this was a viable option. OP needs to ferret out why they want to go this route. It could totally be some type of nefarious ploy to get money or it could be a win for all involved . |
Guess you don't like your parents either ...and I'm pretty sure OP said her FIL is a lawyer. |
You obviously have never lost a spouse. It changes you. There is an underlying fear everything you know and trust will just disappear. |
I like my parents very much, and one reason for that is that they wouldn't dream of imposing on me and my DH in this manner. Being a lawyer doesn't mean you work for pay. It just means being (or having been) a member of the bar. |