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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High school kids still need a responsible adult at home after school. Someone who cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High school kids still need a responsible adult at home after school. Someone who cares.

The research on HS sexting shows that most of it occurs between 11 PM and 4 AM, so having a SAHP to greet a teen at 3 PM may not make a big difference.

Even the Amish have Rumspringa.

The less the know your kid, the less able you are to properly parent your kid. Hint: You take *your* cell phones to your bedroom when you go to sleep at night. Please do tell, what in the hell is so hard about that? Oh wait. And your kid will be pissed at you. So you will allow anything to avoid that discomfort. Right? Your children are parenting themselves.

Can your kid have an alarm clock?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

Thanks. We have not had a problem with the volume or content of text messages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

Thanks. We have not had a problem with the volume or content of text messages.

Thanks for sharing.

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If we were talking about adults preying on juveniles for mass distribution, that would be one thing, but this activity appears to have been taking place among juveniles within a closed system. My bet is that, had some of the girls learned that a boy was compiling these pictures in a folder, he's the one who would have been stigmatized for being "pervy" and breaking the social compact among the students exchanging the pictures.

A girl at the school was emailed a link to the site and reported it to the school resource officer when she saw what the site contained. This is very different from the private behavior of two individual students. Distribution of this type is illegal:

Lucy Caldwell, a spokeswoman for Fairfax County police, said she could not comment on the pending investigation. The search warrants identify the offense under investigation as “possession, reproduction, distribution, and facilitation of child pornography.”

Not only is it illegal, but even if the pictures were taken voluntarily, unless the boys had permission from the girls, the boys broke their trust with the girls. I would not want a son (or daughter) of mine to grow into the kind of adult who would easily break a trust with another person. If the kids haven't learned by their teen years how important it is to have a reputation as a person others can trust, they certainly won't learn if we make excuses for their behavior and blame others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

Parents are bound by parenting by technology and will justify it to infinity; not to mention how their kid simply must have technology to socialize, lest their snowflake be "unpopular."

Sadly, parents are allowing their kid's morals to be influenced by immature peers who bypass parental influence via social technologies at all times of the day and night. It is akin to allowing illegal drugs in the house.

Notice the kids at the bus stops in the morning. Heads down looking at cell phones before they even get on the bus. What happened to "no phone calls until after school and no phone calls after 9pm on school nights" (when everybody still had landlines and friends had to speak to mom or dad first)?

[Anonymous]

I found this on another thread aimed at parents of younger children, but it seemed very pertinent to this discussion, especially the bolded part:

Never ask"WHY?"

When my children misbehaved or messed up, I never asked them "WHY did you . . . ?"

Why did you come home an hour late? Why did you come home with alcohol on your breath? Why didn't you clean up your room? Why did you leave a mess in the kitchen? Why didn't you finish your homework? Why did you finger-paint on the walls?
When the parent asks a child WHY?, the child learns to create good excuses, shifts blame onto others, views himself or herself as a "victim of circumstances" -- and not does not learn to take responsibility for his or her behavior.

Talking about WHY the child misbehaved will not teach the child that he has control over himself, his environment and his future. Talking about WHY will not teach the child to take responsibility for his actions. When you ask a child "Why," it's easy to slip in some guilt - "Why did you do this? You upset me so much. You made me feel terrible."

Stay away from guilt.
Before my first child was born, I worked in juvenile training schools. I read a book called Reality Therapy by psychologist William Glasser. This book changed the way I dealt with the kids I worked with and it changed how I viewed my job as a parent.

Dr. Glasser wrote:
"Eliminate the word 'why' from your vocabulary in dealing with child behavior. So often, children don't know 'why.' They acted because 'I felt like doing it' and they don't really know why. Never ask 'Why?' Instead, ask 'What did you do?'"
Have the child explain what he or she did. Have him describe his behaviors, starting at the beginning, through the sobs, the tears, and the temper when sobs and tears don't work. Break the incident down into small steps. Do not focus on "why."

As a parent, you want to know why. Don't give into your curiosity.
Go over the incident until it is very clear what happened, when, etc.
Your next question is "What are you going to do about it?"

What are you going to do about your misbehavior, or your impulses, or your anger so this does not happen again?

The third question is: How can we make sure this will not happen again?

What checks and balances will you put in place to ensure that it will not happen again?

What punishment should we use now?

What should we do if this happens again?

Will we have a battle about it? If we do, what additional punishment shall we initiate if we have to fight with you about doing this again, and not following through as you said you would?
When the child misbehaves, you can ask questions - but never ask WHY?

Ask these questions instead:
• What did you do?
• What are you going to do about it?
• To ensure that this does not happen again, what should we do to you now?
• If this does happen again, despite your good intentions now, how much more severe shall the punishment be next time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids don't wear watches these days or use alarm clocks. They rely on their cell phones to tell the time and set their alarms.

It's hard to know what should be turned on and what should be turned off, particularly when kids are a year or two from being sent off to live on their own. It was much much easier when all parents had to say was no TV on school nights, or no TV after 10.

Don't you see the bill? If there's a problem, you let your kid have an alarm clock. Hello? Why are you making up excuses?

Parents are bound by parenting by technology and will justify it to infinity; not to mention how their kid simply must have technology to socialize, lest their snowflake be "unpopular."

Sadly, parents are allowing their kid's morals to be influenced by immature peers who bypass parental influence via social technologies at all times of the day and night. It is akin to allowing illegal drugs in the house.

Notice the kids at the bus stops in the morning. Heads down looking at cell phones before they even get on the bus. What happened to "no phone calls until after school and no phone calls after 9pm on school nights" (when everybody still had landlines and friends had to speak to mom or dad first)?

Yeah, and I hear project-based learning really is terrible, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:High school kids still need a responsible adult at home after school. Someone who cares.

My kids have sports practice until 5-6 and doesn't get home until 7 pm. They go straight to their room to do 3 hours of homework when they get home. It is good to be home but I am not sure he noticed me out in the garden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There have been a number of other cases in the past few years that have involved involuntarily taken pictures, so it is better at this point not to assume either way.

Can you provide a link. I don't know of any cases in this area that teen boys took pictures of girls involuntarily. There are multiple cases that have been linked in this thread about boys taking pictures given to them and sharing them.

Sorry, I was not indicating only local incidents. There have been in cases in national news, for example, the one in Steubenville, Ohio, that involved pictures taken without the knowledge of the girl involved. In the case in McLean being discussed here, there have been no sources on record indicating whether the pictures were taken voluntarily or involuntarily, so there's no way to know at this point what the situation is.

[Anonymous]

How do you pose nude involuntarily?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you pose nude involuntarily?

There have been a number of cases where pictures were taken of people without their knowledge or volition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you pose nude involuntarily?

There have been a number of cases where pictures were taken of people without their knowledge or volition.

You mean they were drugged or drunk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you pose nude involuntarily?

There have been a number of cases where pictures were taken of people without their knowledge or volition.

You mean they were drugged or drunk?

I have read of various different scenarios for ways people get pictures of people without their knowledge. There is nothing on record at this time indicating any information about how the photos in this case were acquired.