Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you guys even know this person is for real?

We don't. No different than most of what you read on this site.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have enormous college debt or something? Do you not like to date available men? Do you not want to use the degree that you worked hard to earn? Do you have health insurance?

I can't imagine sidelining my own life like that. You are young - you should be building your own life, not performing as this man's plaything.

I have health insurance. While I understand that you can't imagine sidelining your life, I hope you can understand that I don't feel I'm in a race to tick boxes off a checklist of goals.

I don't think you get it - it's not about races or goals, but that many of us would not have any self-respect as "kept women" with no value other than our looks & pussies. It doesn't even really have to do with the ethics of the situation with the wife, but with the utter dependence and lack of interaction with the world.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Yes, I am sure all the problems in the marriage are her fault ... With this dude who had been having an affair since before they were married! He must be a real peach. That's the sad part about this whole story - OP must see him as some sort of amazing older man, when he is really just a skeevy ass. Maybe she will figure it out.

She will. Once she's past the age when she could get good quality guys and will have to settle for whatever middle-aged dude who'll have her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Were you 'dating' him when his kids were born?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you acknowledge that you are prostitute?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Were you 'dating' him when his kids were born?

Yes.

Nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Otherwise known as depression.

Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have enormous college debt or something? Do you not like to date available men? Do you not want to use the degree that you worked hard to earn? Do you have health insurance?

I can't imagine sidelining my own life like that. You are young - you should be building your own life, not performing as this man's plaything.

I have health insurance. While I understand that you can't imagine sidelining your life, I hope you can understand that I don't feel I'm in a race to tick boxes off a checklist of goals.

I don't think you get it - it's not about races or goals, but that many of us would not have any self-respect as "kept women" with no value other than our looks & pussies. It doesn't even really have to do with the ethics of the situation with the wife, but with the utter dependence and lack of interaction with the world.

I agree with this. I'm not even upset about the ethics of the family situation - that's on him - but with the sadness of how you feel that you're not worthy of a real relationship. You're just a sad excuse for a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have enormous college debt or something? Do you not like to date available men? Do you not want to use the degree that you worked hard to earn? Do you have health insurance?

I can't imagine sidelining my own life like that. You are young - you should be building your own life, not performing as this man's plaything.

I have health insurance. While I understand that you can't imagine sidelining your life, I hope you can understand that I don't feel I'm in a race to tick boxes off a checklist of goals.

It's not a matter of checking off boxes and being an over achiever. It's a matter of you allowing this man to support you as long as he is willing to do so and when that supply line runs dry you don't seem to have a lot to fall back on. Your degree is growing staler and staler the longer you stay this guy's dole. You don't have a job. The roof over your head is being paid for by this man...

If he dumps you, what are you going to do? Most attractive guys can get sex for free so don't think that there's a long line of men waiting to take this guy's place.

The fact that he put the moves on you when you were so young and inexperienced tends to suggest that this is not going to last much past 25. 10 to 1 he'll move onto a younger chick. You seem to already understand that he could dump you so that's good. And it's good that you have health insurance.

[Anonymous]

Why are you on this forum?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Otherwise known as depression.

Well, then she does have mental health issues if that is the case, and it could certainly affect a marriage and having zero sex could definitely push a husband into an affair. I don't necessarily blame him if that's the case because having no sex clinically constitutes spousal abuse.

Are you the OP? Sounds like you're demonizing the wife. Not really cool, considering you're screwing her husband and taking money away from her household. The least you could do is speak of her in a respectful manner. You have NO IDEA if what this guy is telling you is true. And I'm willing to bet it's not. But that's besides the point. Show the wife some appreciation and respect; she's done nothing wrong to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is a kept woman?

Prostitute.

A prostitute is NOT a kept woman. She's a public woman. Get your Victorianisms straight!

A prostitute is definitely not kept.
She is rented hourly. Sometimes by the 1/2 hr.

Sometimes you need to pay extra for extra services (i.e. a la carte).

[Anonymous]

If your field is interior design, why do you think it will be easy to get a job ... ???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is his wife a bitch or extremely fat or crazy or an addict or asexual? Or is she basically normal?

The impression I've gotten is that she's high strung and ... doesn't put out. They had big issues with having their second child because she wanted one but didn't want to have sex to "make" him. She is exhausted a lot despite having a full time housekeeper and nanny.

Does she work? I could understand exhaustion if her job was demanding. But if she is a SAHM with a nanny and housekeeper, OMG.

Remember, OP is not hearing this from the wife, but from the husband who is trying to justify his behavior. OP has no idea if any of his claims are true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have enormous college debt or something? Do you not like to date available men? Do you not want to use the degree that you worked hard to earn? Do you have health insurance?

I can't imagine sidelining my own life like that. You are young - you should be building your own life, not performing as this man's plaything.

I have health insurance. While I understand that you can't imagine sidelining your life, I hope you can understand that I don't feel I'm in a race to tick boxes off a checklist of goals.

It's not a matter of checking off boxes and being an over achiever. It's a matter of you allowing this man to support you as long as he is willing to do so and when that supply line runs dry you don't seem to have a lot to fall back on. Your degree is growing staler and staler the longer you stay this guy's dole. You don't have a job. The roof over your head is being paid for by this man...

If he dumps you, what are you going to do? Most attractive guys can get sex for free so don't think that there's a long line of men waiting to take this guy's place.

The fact that he put the moves on you when you were so young and inexperienced tends to suggest that this is not going to last much past 25. 10 to 1 he'll move onto a younger chick. You seem to already understand that he could dump you so that's good. And it's good that you have health insurance.

I appreciate your concern for my well-being post relationship. I keep up with what's going on in my field (interior design) and do a bit of part-time work for a friend in the business. She has asked me to work with her full-time. This is why I'm not worried about getting a job when I need one. All the money I earn from working with her and my other friend with the flower business goes into a savings account. I really will be okay. Maybe I won't get pedicures weekly and will have to stop the personal trainer, but overall, I'm confident I'll be okay.