Guys, if your wife clearly married you for your money, are you okay with it?

[Anonymous]

Wow, there are a lot of people stuck in the 50s posting on here. I don't need or want to marry for money because I was brought up and taught that I can (and should) make my own money. I did, however, want to marry a college educated, hard working, ambitious man with good judgement, who treats me very well, respects me and loves me and is faithful, honest and a good person. Fortunately I found such a person and have been happily married for 24 years. We make the same amount of money. He is attractive but I value his other qualities (including great father and husband) more than his looks.

[Anonymous]

"college educated, hard working, ambitious man"

Even when you try to play-down the fact that women want a guy with money and status, you basically restate it again here.

Women want guys who have good jobs, who make decent money and have a certain amount of social respect and status. That's just a fact. There's nothing wrong with it.

But, men generally *don't* expect these things from women. That's a big difference between men and women that a lot of professiobal women are loathe to acknowledge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"college educated, hard working, ambitious man"

Even when you try to play-down the fact that women want a guy with money and status, you basically restate it again here.

Women want guys who have good jobs, who make decent money and have a certain amount of social respect and status. That's just a fact. There's nothing wrong with it.

But, men generally *don't* expect these things from women. That's a big difference between men and women that a lot of professiobal women are loathe to acknowledge.

who on earth are these men you speak of? the vast majority of dudes I know here in DC want a woman who's their intellectual equal -- I know a lot of men who out-earn their wives, but it's because he's a GS15 and she's finishing her PhD, etc etc.

[Anonymous]

It works out because the male is focused on office work 24/7 and the wife runs the house and raises the children. I doubt he is a real husband or father, he likely outsources everything and feels that his priorities are the only ones that matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"college educated, hard working, ambitious man"

Even when you try to play-down the fact that women want a guy with money and status, you basically restate it again here.

Women want guys who have good jobs, who make decent money and have a certain amount of social respect and status. That's just a fact. There's nothing wrong with it.

But, men generally *don't* expect these things from women. That's a big difference between men and women that a lot of professiobal women are loathe to acknowledge.

That's the recipe for divorce. You need a life partner, family partner and parental partner. Garnering too much money is just noise. Be wary of who you consider a role model.