What is your deepest family secret?

[Anonymous]

I intentionally caused myself to have a miscarriage. Even my DH doesn't know. It was very early in the pregnancy. He was relieved when I miscarried and he had a vasectomy a few weeks later. Sometimes I feel very guilty, as I was raised Catholic. But most of the time I feel guilty that it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I think it should.

This is the first time I've admitted it to anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:All of my grandmother's siblings were sterilized as part of the eugenics movement in this country. She was the oldest and already married and out of the hosue when it happened. Her parents actually acquiesed in having this done. 6 children sterilized, all under the age of 16.

Were all six of them developmentally disabled?

Nope, not one of them. In fact, they all grew up to be really successful business people, and all of them ended up adopting children. I think it's just that they were poor growing up.

Huh. I was aware of programs to sterlize individuals who were deemed deficient in some way, but had no idea that poverty was a factor. This must have been around the time of the Great Depression, no? Lot of poverty going around just then...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of my grandmother's siblings were sterilized as part of the eugenics movement in this country. She was the oldest and already married and out of the hosue when it happened. Her parents actually acquiesed in having this done. 6 children sterilized, all under the age of 16.

Were all six of them developmentally disabled?

Nope, not one of them. In fact, they all grew up to be really successful business people, and all of them ended up adopting children. I think it's just that they were poor growing up.

Huh. I was aware of programs to sterlize individuals who were deemed deficient in some way, but had no idea that poverty was a factor. This must have been around the time of the Great Depression, no? Lot of poverty going around just then...

Um, a large portion of people selected for these eugenics programs were nothing other than poor. Read up on your history. See, e.g. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buck_v._Bell. "Feeblemindedness" was the excuse they used to sterlize thousands of people who were just poor and/or uneducated.

[Anonymous]

"Um", no need to get snotty, 16:05. I admitted I hadn't been aware that poverty was a factor. I know the broad outlines of the history, though I somehow negelected to read each and every court case ever filed on the issue-- mea culpa. Anyway, as you're undoubtedly aware, history is written by the victor. All I ever read about it was that it was for the mentally ill, the mentally retarded, and certain kinds of criminals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I intentionally caused myself to have a miscarriage. Even my DH doesn't know. It was very early in the pregnancy. He was relieved when I miscarried and he had a vasectomy a few weeks later. Sometimes I feel very guilty, as I was raised Catholic. But most of the time I feel guilty that it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I think it should.

This is the first time I've admitted it to anyone.

not here to judge - just curious but how did you cause your miscarriage?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I intentionally caused myself to have a miscarriage. Even my DH doesn't know. It was very early in the pregnancy. He was relieved when I miscarried and he had a vasectomy a few weeks later. Sometimes I feel very guilty, as I was raised Catholic. But most of the time I feel guilty that it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I think it should.

This is the first time I've admitted it to anyone.

not here to judge - just curious but how did you cause your miscarriage?

I researched it and bought the ebook from this site - http://www.naturalmiscarriage.org/

Basically, I took natural herbs and vitamins. Including adding a lot of Vitamin C power to my water. No, I don't know "for sure" that I caused it. But I did miscarry within a week and I've never had any misscarriages previously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I intentionally caused myself to have a miscarriage. Even my DH doesn't know. It was very early in the pregnancy. He was relieved when I miscarried and he had a vasectomy a few weeks later. Sometimes I feel very guilty, as I was raised Catholic. But most of the time I feel guilty that it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I think it should.

This is the first time I've admitted it to anyone.

not here to judge - just curious but how did you cause your miscarriage?

I researched it and bought the ebook from this site - http://www.naturalmiscarriage.org/

Basically, I took natural herbs and vitamins. Including adding a lot of Vitamin C power to my water. No, I don't know "for sure" that I caused it. But I did miscarry within a week and I've never had any misscarriages previously.

who knew there was a homeopathic method for abortion?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I intentionally caused myself to have a miscarriage. Even my DH doesn't know. It was very early in the pregnancy. He was relieved when I miscarried and he had a vasectomy a few weeks later. Sometimes I feel very guilty, as I was raised Catholic. But most of the time I feel guilty that it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I think it should.

This is the first time I've admitted it to anyone.

not here to judge - just curious but how did you cause your miscarriage?

I researched it and bought the ebook from this site - http://www.naturalmiscarriage.org/

Basically, I took natural herbs and vitamins. Including adding a lot of Vitamin C power to my water. No, I don't know "for sure" that I caused it. But I did miscarry within a week and I've never had any misscarriages previously.

Well.

[Anonymous]

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who knew there was a homeopathic method for abortion?

Off the top of my head? Only every "wise woman" in every community for most of the history of humanity.

[Anonymous]

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who knew there was a homeopathic method for abortion?

Off the top of my head? Only every "wise woman" in every community for most of the history of humanity.

I disagree. You have to research it, because everyone is afraid to talk about it logically or openly without emotion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I intentionally caused myself to have a miscarriage. Even my DH doesn't know. It was very early in the pregnancy. He was relieved when I miscarried and he had a vasectomy a few weeks later. Sometimes I feel very guilty, as I was raised Catholic. But most of the time I feel guilty that it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I think it should.

This is the first time I've admitted it to anyone.

not here to judge - just curious but how did you cause your miscarriage?

I researched it and bought the ebook from this site - http://www.naturalmiscarriage.org/

Basically, I took natural herbs and vitamins. Including adding a lot of Vitamin C power to my water. No, I don't know "for sure" that I caused it. But I did miscarry within a week and I've never had any misscarriages previously.

Well.

Let's not overlook the role of coincidence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That my grandfather was 1/4 black and passed for white. I had to pry it out of my mother...

wow. this is amazing...do you appear AA? Ahhh, sorry, that didn't come out the way I meant it. I just find this fascinating as to how people come to look the way they do...

The PP is 1/16 black. It's very doubtful that s/he looks black.

Personal experience from someone 1/16 black-I have the lips and the muscular build of a black person. I love it. No Botox, and I was a college athlete. Otherwise I am a nice olive color, super dark ash brown hair, bright green eyes.

You sound very beautiful physically, but it is sad that you believe black people are somehow naturally more muscularly built. My ancestors are German and many of them are built like plow horses, but I am thin, small boned, angular and tall. It has nothing whatever to do with my race, rather just my selected genes. Good grief, the ignorance.

Oh COME ON! It is no coincidence that black people dominate professional sports at much higer proportionate rate than any other race. Different races are built differently, this is not ignorance, but a glaring FACT.

Black people kick white people's asses all over the place in sports, even though they are at a socioeconomic disadvantage and probably do not benefit nearly as much as all the money that white parents through at their kids getting private coaching and instruction.

OF COURSE there are exceptions...Larry Byrd and such, but not many. Of course there are black people with poor muscle tone, no matter what they do, but as a whole black people are much stronger and more athletic than whites.

And the fact that black athletes dominate their sports mean that all black people have a muscular frame? WTF?

Do you think that Manute Bol, Sugar Ray Robinson, and Mike Tyson all have the same build? That Barack Obama and Clarence Thomas are superior athletes?

You are completely illogical.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
who knew there was a homeopathic method for abortion?

Off the top of my head? Only every "wise woman" in every community for most of the history of humanity.

I disagree. You have to research it, because everyone is afraid to talk about it logically or openly without emotion.

Sorry, language fail. I meant midwife. (Sage femme in French means midwife, but translates to wise woman.) Women have always been able to go to midwives for abortions. Not without shame or stigma, of course. But the knowledge has always been around.

[Anonymous]

"Of course there are black people with poor muscle tone, no matter what they do, but as a whole black people are much stronger and more athletic than whites. "

This is truly frightening that someone believes this in 2011. It's the kind of extreme racism that was used to justify slavery.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I intentionally caused myself to have a miscarriage. Even my DH doesn't know. It was very early in the pregnancy. He was relieved when I miscarried and he had a vasectomy a few weeks later. Sometimes I feel very guilty, as I was raised Catholic. But most of the time I feel guilty that it doesn't bother me nearly as much as I think it should.

This is the first time I've admitted it to anyone.

not here to judge - just curious but how did you cause your miscarriage?

I researched it and bought the ebook from this site - http://www.naturalmiscarriage.org/

Basically, I took natural herbs and vitamins. Including adding a lot of Vitamin C power to my water. No, I don't know "for sure" that I caused it. But I did miscarry within a week and I've never had any misscarriages previously.

who knew there was a homeopathic method for abortion?

I'm pretty sure that the knowledge has been around for thousands of years in every civilization.