How would you react to a stranger shooshing your child at a restaurant?

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say something, but if your child yelled at me I would be pretty irritated. I'm usually pretty chatty with kids if they behave, but yelling is always rude.
Sure the old people could have dealt better with it, but they probably did with their own kids.
Even if ihop is not a fancy restaurant, but it is a restaurant where kids should behave.
Do you teach your kids that ihop is ok to scream, but not at other places. I think kids should always have manners, even at wendy's.

Look out, PP. you do not appreciate her Sunny Hello from her WONDERFUL three year old child. "She may just personally shove this plate of pancakes up your tired old nasty miserable ass. Merry Christmas to you too bitch." for disagreeing with her.

Incoming!!!!!!!!!!

Oh no not for disagreeing with me. For repeatedly calling my kid names. What a sick person you are.

Yeah, you're right ...and you'd NEVER call anyone names. Is that the same reaction the elderly couple got at IHOP?

get a grip, lady. IHOP, Wendy's, Ruths Chris is NOT your child's playground.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I am with you...UNTIL you get to the part where you say that shooshing is "over the top mean" to use your words. That is just ridiculous. Your child's feelings were hurt that he got publically and "meanly" shooshed. That doesn't feel good as a parent but it's also not a big deal. Your kid was a normal kid, and it's also normal to help kids learn what appropriate public interaction is. And above all, even if "mean", chewing out those people in front of your child is a very poor lesson. Sometimes it's better to take the high road and model proper behavior than to "get into it" with people whose approach isn't ideal. They had their meal interrupted, you had yours, that's being out in public and you just have to deal.

Well , I was there and it was intended to be mean to a three year old. Maybe DH shouldve ignored it but I think he was more upset that they went directly at DS and he was being protective. I did wxplainto him that he was too loud and that's why he got that reaction, but I don't want DS to feel like he can't say hello and be friendly to people. So that's why I'm wondering how to react : I want him to know he was too loud but that his parents are still in his cornet when a stranger makes them upset. That was actually my original question but I got sucked into some nastiness on here.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say something, but if your child yelled at me I would be pretty irritated. I'm usually pretty chatty with kids if they behave, but yelling is always rude.
Sure the old people could have dealt better with it, but they probably did with their own kids.
Even if ihop is not a fancy restaurant, but it is a restaurant where kids should behave.
Do you teach your kids that ihop is ok to scream, but not at other places. I think kids should always have manners, even at wendy's.

Look out, PP. you do not appreciate her Sunny Hello from her WONDERFUL three year old child. "She may just personally shove this plate of pancakes up your tired old nasty miserable ass. Merry Christmas to you too bitch." for disagreeing with her.

Incoming!!!!!!!!!!

Oh no not for disagreeing with me. For repeatedly calling my kid names. What a sick person you are.

Yeah, you're right ...and you'd NEVER call anyone names. Is that the same reaction the elderly couple got at IHOP?

I don't call three year olds names. If the had called my child a monkey brat and retarded like he's been called by that poster here, I would feel more than justified calling them names or worse. Read the whole thread and you'll see

get a grip, lady. IHOP, Wendy's, Ruths Chris is NOT your child's playground.

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Anonymous wrote:Well , I was there and it was intended to be mean to a three year old. Maybe DH shouldve ignored it but I think he was more upset that they went directly at DS and he was being protective. I did wxplainto him that he was too loud and that's why he got that reaction, but I don't want DS to feel like he can't say hello and be friendly to people. So that's why I'm wondering how to react : I want him to know he was too loud but that his parents are still in his cornet when a stranger makes them upset. That was actually my original question but I got sucked into some nastiness on here.

Your upset and reaction to the "shoosh" are disproportionate. The way you dramatize it doesn't do you or your child any favors; you have a big road of frustration ahead of you with teachers, family, friends and strangers if this is the way you react in these circumstances. Your child is going to be upset by others, justifiably and unjustifiably, for the rest of his life in some way or another. None of us should sit and take abuse but lady, it was a shoosh to a kid who yelled.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, not everyone thinks your "darling child" is all that. Teach him/her to sit down and behave. Not everyone wants to be entertained by your kid - so put some manners on your "DC"...and on yourself, too!

I agree. Even at IHOP.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, not everyone thinks your "darling child" is all that. Teach him/her to sit down and behave. Not everyone wants to be entertained by your kid - so put some manners on your "DC"...and on yourself, too!

I agree. Even at IHOP.

No. The child said "hi." That was it. He wasn't putting on a broadway reenactment of Les Mis. Come on. Is saying "hi" really that horrible?

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OP - if you are still reading this, stop. Some threads just bring out the meanies and this sure seems to be one of them. I've been on the receiving end of one of these, too.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, not everyone thinks your "darling child" is all that. Teach him/her to sit down and behave. Not everyone wants to be entertained by your kid - so put some manners on your "DC"...and on yourself, too!

I agree. Even at IHOP.

No. The child said "hi." That was it. He wasn't putting on a broadway reenactment of Les Mis. Come on. Is saying "hi" really that horrible?

Wrong. He didn't "say 'hi'". Per the OP: My DS turned around and loudly yelled "hi" to the older couple

loudly yelling to an old couple (or to anyone) is wrong. any way you cut it.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with the others who say the couple was out of line. And there's nothing wrong with the kid for crying about the shoosh.

sheesh.

No shush!

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Anonymous wrote:OP - if you are still reading this, stop. Some threads just bring out the meanies and this sure seems to be one of them. I've been on the receiving end of one of these, too.

I think you're right. After a certain point, it's just ridiculous on here!

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Anonymous wrote:OP - if you are still reading this, stop. Some threads just bring out the meanies and this sure seems to be one of them. I've been on the receiving end of one of these, too.

I think you're right. After a certain point, it's just ridiculous on here!

OP, perhaps the time you've spent trying to justify yourself to anonymous strangers could be better spent doing . . . anything, really. Except drama classes - you clearly don't need any of those.

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Anonymous wrote:It seriously is freaking me out how many people think a 3 year old has bad manners for saying "hi" in a loud voice.

I hope you don't live in my area, because I don't want your kids in my school.

because they will be better behaved and outshine your brats?

I'm sure your 3 year old is always a model of perfect behavior. Get over yourself.

She doesn't have kids. I'd bet money on it.

The point is that it's fun when a 3 year old says hello, however, at Starbucks, etc. some parents just let their kid run all over while they talk on the phone or have adult conversations with someone. My 3 year old does know the difference between inside and outside voices and I think the most defensive people on this site, usually have the most unruly kids. The harshest parents are usually the ones who have the children that don't behave. Go figure.

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Maybe the old people will show up next time with a big, strong adult son, or even more than one. That would help keep the three-year-old's rude daddy quiet.

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Anonymous wrote:It seriously is freaking me out how many people think a 3 year old has bad manners for saying "hi" in a loud voice.

I hope you don't live in my area, because I don't want your kids in my school.

because they will be better behaved and outshine your brats?

I'm sure your 3 year old is always a model of perfect behavior. Get over yourself.

She doesn't have kids. I'd bet money on it.

The point is that it's fun when a 3 year old says hello, however, at Starbucks, etc. some parents just let their kid run all over while they talk on the phone or have adult conversations with someone. My 3 year old does know the difference between inside and outside voices and I think the most defensive people on this site, usually have the most unruly kids. The harshest parents are usually the ones who have the children that don't behave. Go figure.

Yes, and some parents feed their kids PB&J on Tuesdays. WTF does that have to do with OP's post?!

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I think your husband "getting into it" was a bad exchange for you child to see. You should have asked your son to quite down. Yes, they might have been overly sensitive but odds are you kid was louder than you thought- you are used to it.
You can't control what other people do or say. If you argue every time someone says somethng to you kid ...well.
Why do parents always make excuses for their kid?
If you think he wasn't loud you should have just gone on with your meal.Best thing for your kid to see. If he was being loud and disruptive you should have left.