DD not excited about any of her options

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think anybody is being a jerk. No one is putting the schools down. We're saying, in fact, she's lucky to have gotten into most of them. And yea, they might not but "dream" schools, but "dream" schools aren't available to 3.5s who apply test optional.

There were rude comments. And she’s not lucky. She fits their profiles perfectly.

Is your applying and hoping for luck ?

[Anonymous]

These are good schools. But I understand the crazy pressure and feelings that come up this time of year. I hope she enjoys a couple of the visits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like the college app process is sort of like planning a wedding. You spend so much time effort on it that you get really caught up on thinking the process is what’s important. For weddings, it’s the years that come after that are most important. For colleges, the truth is that the similarities between schools greatly outweigh the differences. They mostly all offer similar classes. You can find a nice group of people at any of them. And, at the end of the day, it’s just 4 hears of your life. College isn’t really defining for most people. And you really can bloom where you’re planted at any of these schools. Your attitude towards it has much, much, much more effect on your experience than does the differences between schools.

Well said!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

[Anonymous]

OP, I know I’m biased, but I went to Indiana and loved every moment of it. Working at the student newspaper opened so many doors for me, and there were so many wonderful ways that I found not only “my people,” but broad groups of people through clubs and events. I still have friends in Bloomington, and love visiting every few years.

I’ve also visited JMU and was very impressed. I’m sure many, many other schools on that list are great. I understand her feelings are what they are right now, but in the long run, she’s going to make a good choice, and she is going to be happy and successful.

This isn’t advice, just hopefully some encouragement that one year from now, she’ll be doing really well and enjoying herself, and this time will seem like a distant memory. I just want you to be confident that it’s OK for her to ride out a period of disappointment and uncertainty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP - I am from the DMV. Not everyone has that mindset.
Lots of Yorktown students go to JMU. And Indiana is growing in popularity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP - I am from the DMV. Not everyone has that mindset.
Lots of Yorktown students go to JMU. And Indiana is growing in popularity.

God you people are obtuse.

You're not from Yorktown/McLean/Langley

Yes, lot of Yorktown students go to JMU. That doesn't mean they want to. It's a pressure cooker kind of school. A UVA or bust school. There's a lot of disappointment and feeling like a failure if you're not UVA, W&M, or a top private. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just saying it's what it is.

I KNOW that that is what is eating at OP's kid. There's nothing wrong with any of the schools the kid got into other than the fact that, where she is about to graduate from, they're not schools that anybody brags about. She's embarrassed. Rightly or wrongly, she is. But she'll get over it.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry your DD feels the way she does, OP. My DD was not accepted ED/EA at most of the schools she wanted to get into and ended up applying RD at a bunch last-minute, finally choosing a big OOS flagship -- which she ended up hating when all was said and done. Nevertheless, she worked hard, grew up a lot, and is graduating a year early. On the flip side, my DS only got into two (of five) schools he applied to, kicked a$$ all four years, earned a fantastic internship, and is poised for graduate school. There is life after high school and college, and your kids will surprise themselves with their growth -- it's more satisfying to come so far.

If your DD truly does not like any of her options, she could attend JMU or NOVA and look to transfer after a year or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op,

Where did you and your husband go to school and what are your careers?

Is your kid suddenly waking up and realizing there is a big chance they are going to be downwardly mobile compared to you and won’t be able to have the same life of living in McLean/langley/yorktown as you gave her?

Wtf did I just read? "Downwardly mobile"? Your trolling needs work.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, disappointment is rough. If there is nothing she is truly excited about, I would stay in state, consider community college, or consider a gap year. I'd keep looking for things to be excited about at the other schools, but if still nothing, I would consider other options.

[Anonymous]

3.5 is not average. It is above average. The DMV is ridiculously competitive, the DCUM seems to lose perspective quite often. Your DC has some great option, roll with it. A lot can change in 2 years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP. I was born and raised here, attended one of those high schools, and now my own kids attend one of them. You are just spouting absolute BS. And how would you know what the "mindset" is at three different schools? It's pretty clear you don't have kids at even one of them because your posts read like fiction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP - I am from the DMV. Not everyone has that mindset.
Lots of Yorktown students go to JMU. And Indiana is growing in popularity.

God you people are obtuse.

You're not from Yorktown/McLean/Langley

Yes, lot of Yorktown students go to JMU. That doesn't mean they want to. It's a pressure cooker kind of school. A UVA or bust school. There's a lot of disappointment and feeling like a failure if you're not UVA, W&M, or a top private. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just saying it's what it is.

I KNOW that that is what is eating at OP's kid. There's nothing wrong with any of the schools the kid got into other than the fact that, where she is about to graduate from, they're not schools that anybody brags about. She's embarrassed. Rightly or wrongly, she is. But she'll get over it.

OMG. Talk about obtuse! You are totally making up an attitude that does.not.exist. The kids who go to JMU LOVE it - no one is embarrassed. Get over yourself. You seem to be a problematic person, making up these narratives that simply don't exist.
DP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP. I was born and raised here, attended one of those high schools, and now my own kids attend one of them. You are just spouting absolute BS. And how would you know what the "mindset" is at three different schools? It's pretty clear you don't have kids at even one of them because your posts read like fiction.

I don't think a large public school has a single mindset. I think it depends on your acquaintances. Your expectations may be different if you are with high achievers versus with average students within the same school.