DD not excited about any of her options

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Anonymous wrote:DD has applied broadly to 10+ schools and is more of an average student (3.5w in NoVa, test optional), and has gotten some great acceptances (in my book) but is not really in love with any of them.

She would ideally be a business or marketing major but did not apply to the business school at most college because it was more competitive.

Her current choices are: JMU, Michigan state, Indiana, college of Charleston, and is requesting review to main campus at Penn state. (Accepted to 2+2).

She is not really interested in some of the smaller schools we looked at.

How can I help her come to terms with the fact that there may be no “dream” school for her? Also she does not want to take a gap year or go to NOVA and then transfer.

Son went there. He picked it during admitted student's visit. Loved his time there. Graduated from the business school, now works at a FAANG. All of these threads talking about kids struggling to get jobs after college--didn't seem to have that problem. He's making six figures two years out.

I do think MSU gets a weird amount of hate here, but it is DCUM.

Where's the hate?

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Anonymous wrote:DD has applied broadly to 10+ schools and is more of an average student (3.5w in NoVa, test optional), and has gotten some great acceptances (in my book) but is not really in love with any of them.

She would ideally be a business or marketing major but did not apply to the business school at most college because it was more competitive.

Her current choices are: JMU, Michigan state, Indiana, college of Charleston, and is requesting review to main campus at Penn state. (Accepted to 2+2).

She is not really interested in some of the smaller schools we looked at.

How can I help her come to terms with the fact that there may be no “dream” school for her? Also she does not want to take a gap year or go to NOVA and then transfer.

Son went there. He picked it during admitted student's visit. Loved his time there. Graduated from the business school, now works at a FAANG. All of these threads talking about kids struggling to get jobs after college--didn't seem to have that problem. He's making six figures two years out.

I do think MSU gets a weird amount of hate here, but it is DCUM.

Where's the hate?

There's plenty of it, do a search.

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Anonymous wrote:DD has applied broadly to 10+ schools and is more of an average student (3.5w in NoVa, test optional), and has gotten some great acceptances (in my book) but is not really in love with any of them.

She would ideally be a business or marketing major but did not apply to the business school at most college because it was more competitive.

Her current choices are: JMU, Michigan state, Indiana, college of Charleston, and is requesting review to main campus at Penn state. (Accepted to 2+2).

She is not really interested in some of the smaller schools we looked at.

How can I help her come to terms with the fact that there may be no “dream” school for her? Also she does not want to take a gap year or go to NOVA and then transfer.

Son went there. He picked it during admitted student's visit. Loved his time there. Graduated from the business school, now works at a FAANG. All of these threads talking about kids struggling to get jobs after college--didn't seem to have that problem. He's making six figures two years out.

I do think MSU gets a weird amount of hate here, but it is DCUM.

Where's the hate?

There's plenty of it, do a search.

Liking A more than B does not mean hating B.

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Anonymous wrote:Your daughter got into great colleges.

She’s not looking at her college list in a healthy way. You need to look into that.

+1
She actually sounds pretty spoiled. Those are all great schools to choose from.

I am not going to read any of the comments. I'll just look at the list of schools she got in. I see. I see. Yep. She's spoiled.

I meant the above comment to be sarcastic. I think she has legitimate reason to be sad. There are people who are sad to be going to UVA instead of a higher ranked school. (I am not passing judgement on the quality of education at any school.)

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Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t have to be excited. She just have to pick one before the deadline.

My son got into the school he wanted and accepted right away. He doesn’t seem excited at all and since then, hasn’t done once single thing he needs to do. We asked if he wanted to go for another visit and he doesn’t.

I remember not being excited either and almost feeling dread about the entire process my entire senior year. I never had the “dream school” feeling, despite getting into some great schools.

My kid did get into their dream school and still struggled to actually do the things on his check list etc. I think it could be just overwhleming - if you have been forever college-bound and then all of a sudden it's like, wait. This is it? Whoa. What have I done? This is a whole new world I'm entering and it's scary!

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Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP - I am from the DMV. Not everyone has that mindset.
Lots of Yorktown students go to JMU. And Indiana is growing in popularity.

God you people are obtuse.

You're not from Yorktown/McLean/Langley

Yes, lot of Yorktown students go to JMU. That doesn't mean they want to. It's a pressure cooker kind of school. A UVA or bust school. There's a lot of disappointment and feeling like a failure if you're not UVA, W&M, or a top private. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just saying it's what it is.

I KNOW that that is what is eating at OP's kid. There's nothing wrong with any of the schools the kid got into other than the fact that, where she is about to graduate from, they're not schools that anybody brags about. She's embarrassed. Rightly or wrongly, she is. But she'll get over it.

OMG. Talk about obtuse! You are totally making up an attitude that does.not.exist. The kids who go to JMU LOVE it - no one is embarrassed. Get over yourself. You seem to be a problematic person, making up these narratives that simply don't exist.
DP

Why are you being so defensive? I never said that kids who go to JMU don't love it. In fact, I know they do. I know a million kids who went to JMU and have no regrets. It's a great school.

What I said is that, for many kids who attend Yorktown/McLean/Langley, having their college acceptances top out at JMU is a disappointment AT THE TIME. We are talking about competitive high schools with pushy parents and high achieving kids, with many gunning for highly ranked colleges. Yes, in the end they will all discover that it doesn't really matter and that a few years down the road nobody will care where you went to college. But that's not what many kids and parents are thinking AT THE TIME.

I remain convinced that that is the primary driver behind OP's daughter not being "excited" about her college options. They're not instagram worthy. But, again, she'll get over it.

USNWR ranking started this mess. Parents become obsessed with it and then it trickles down to the kids. The best thing the OP should do is reassure their kid that she is loved and that they believe in her. The rankings are bullshXX!

UVA has always been the Holy Grail in NOVA high schools. Even before the rankings.

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Bless your heart. No it hasn’t.

Can we stop with the misogynistic put downs? Thanks.

What? "Bless your heart" is an equal-opportunity put down. It has nothing to do with women. :roll:

NP. It's a stupid expression and I only hear this on DCUM. Did your grandma use to say it all the time?

It's a stupid expression that is the perfect retort to stupid claims. See bolded.

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Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP - I am from the DMV. Not everyone has that mindset.
Lots of Yorktown students go to JMU. And Indiana is growing in popularity.

God you people are obtuse.

You're not from Yorktown/McLean/Langley

Yes, lot of Yorktown students go to JMU. That doesn't mean they want to. It's a pressure cooker kind of school. A UVA or bust school. There's a lot of disappointment and feeling like a failure if you're not UVA, W&M, or a top private. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just saying it's what it is.

I KNOW that that is what is eating at OP's kid. There's nothing wrong with any of the schools the kid got into other than the fact that, where she is about to graduate from, they're not schools that anybody brags about. She's embarrassed. Rightly or wrongly, she is. But she'll get over it.

OMG. Talk about obtuse! You are totally making up an attitude that does.not.exist. The kids who go to JMU LOVE it - no one is embarrassed. Get over yourself. You seem to be a problematic person, making up these narratives that simply don't exist.
DP

Why are you being so defensive? I never said that kids who go to JMU don't love it. In fact, I know they do. I know a million kids who went to JMU and have no regrets. It's a great school.

What I said is that, for many kids who attend Yorktown/McLean/Langley, having their college acceptances top out at JMU is a disappointment AT THE TIME. We are talking about competitive high schools with pushy parents and high achieving kids, with many gunning for highly ranked colleges. Yes, in the end they will all discover that it doesn't really matter and that a few years down the road nobody will care where you went to college. But that's not what many kids and parents are thinking AT THE TIME.

I remain convinced that that is the primary driver behind OP's daughter not being "excited" about her college options. They're not instagram worthy. But, again, she'll get over it.

USNWR ranking started this mess. Parents become obsessed with it and then it trickles down to the kids. The best thing the OP should do is reassure their kid that she is loved and that they believe in her. The rankings are bullshXX!

UVA has always been the Holy Grail in NOVA high schools. Even before the rankings.

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Bless your heart. No it hasn’t.

Can we stop with the misogynistic put downs? Thanks.

What? "Bless your heart" is an equal-opportunity put down. It has nothing to do with women. :roll:

NP. It's a stupid expression and I only hear this on DCUM. Did your grandma use to say it all the time?

It's a stupid expression that is the perfect retort to stupid claims. See bolded.

You love using a stupid expression? Come up with something better. More mature.

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Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP - I am from the DMV. Not everyone has that mindset.
Lots of Yorktown students go to JMU. And Indiana is growing in popularity.

God you people are obtuse.

You're not from Yorktown/McLean/Langley

Yes, lot of Yorktown students go to JMU. That doesn't mean they want to. It's a pressure cooker kind of school. A UVA or bust school. There's a lot of disappointment and feeling like a failure if you're not UVA, W&M, or a top private. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just saying it's what it is.

I KNOW that that is what is eating at OP's kid. There's nothing wrong with any of the schools the kid got into other than the fact that, where she is about to graduate from, they're not schools that anybody brags about. She's embarrassed. Rightly or wrongly, she is. But she'll get over it.

OMG. Talk about obtuse! You are totally making up an attitude that does.not.exist. The kids who go to JMU LOVE it - no one is embarrassed. Get over yourself. You seem to be a problematic person, making up these narratives that simply don't exist.
DP

Why are you being so defensive? I never said that kids who go to JMU don't love it. In fact, I know they do. I know a million kids who went to JMU and have no regrets. It's a great school.

What I said is that, for many kids who attend Yorktown/McLean/Langley, having their college acceptances top out at JMU is a disappointment AT THE TIME. We are talking about competitive high schools with pushy parents and high achieving kids, with many gunning for highly ranked colleges. Yes, in the end they will all discover that it doesn't really matter and that a few years down the road nobody will care where you went to college. But that's not what many kids and parents are thinking AT THE TIME.

I remain convinced that that is the primary driver behind OP's daughter not being "excited" about her college options. They're not instagram worthy. But, again, she'll get over it.

USNWR ranking started this mess. Parents become obsessed with it and then it trickles down to the kids. The best thing the OP should do is reassure their kid that she is loved and that they believe in her. The rankings are bullshXX!

UVA has always been the Holy Grail in NOVA high schools. Even before the rankings.

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Bless your heart. No it hasn’t.

Can we stop with the misogynistic put downs? Thanks.

What? "Bless your heart" is an equal-opportunity put down. It has nothing to do with women. :roll:

NP. It's a stupid expression and I only hear this on DCUM. Did your grandma use to say it all the time?

It's a stupid expression that is the perfect retort to stupid claims. See bolded.

I hate that you think it's effective. Have a blessed day, I guess...

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Anonymous wrote:None of the OOS are appealing enough to pay double. JMU is a great option. I agree it's anxiety more than anything. I especially hear many girls go through this spring before college.

https://www.sarahkipnestherapy.com/blog/is-your-teen-anxious-about-college

No, it isn't anxiety. She went to Yorktown/McLean/Langley. She's embarrassed by her choices. That's what's driving this. And she will get over it.

That’s bull. More kids in that area are going to colleges just like the ones she’s looking at. There aren’t even any top rated private schools or feeder schools.

No public school sends the majority of students to Ivy League or even top ten.

You're not from the DMV and you don't understand the mindset at those three schools. It's very obvious.

DP - I am from the DMV. Not everyone has that mindset.
Lots of Yorktown students go to JMU. And Indiana is growing in popularity.

God you people are obtuse.

You're not from Yorktown/McLean/Langley

Yes, lot of Yorktown students go to JMU. That doesn't mean they want to. It's a pressure cooker kind of school. A UVA or bust school. There's a lot of disappointment and feeling like a failure if you're not UVA, W&M, or a top private. I'm not saying it's right. I'm just saying it's what it is.

I KNOW that that is what is eating at OP's kid. There's nothing wrong with any of the schools the kid got into other than the fact that, where she is about to graduate from, they're not schools that anybody brags about. She's embarrassed. Rightly or wrongly, she is. But she'll get over it.

OMG. Talk about obtuse! You are totally making up an attitude that does.not.exist. The kids who go to JMU LOVE it - no one is embarrassed. Get over yourself. You seem to be a problematic person, making up these narratives that simply don't exist.
DP

Why are you being so defensive? I never said that kids who go to JMU don't love it. In fact, I know they do. I know a million kids who went to JMU and have no regrets. It's a great school.

What I said is that, for many kids who attend Yorktown/McLean/Langley, having their college acceptances top out at JMU is a disappointment AT THE TIME. We are talking about competitive high schools with pushy parents and high achieving kids, with many gunning for highly ranked colleges. Yes, in the end they will all discover that it doesn't really matter and that a few years down the road nobody will care where you went to college. But that's not what many kids and parents are thinking AT THE TIME.

I remain convinced that that is the primary driver behind OP's daughter not being "excited" about her college options. They're not instagram worthy. But, again, she'll get over it.

USNWR ranking started this mess. Parents become obsessed with it and then it trickles down to the kids. The best thing the OP should do is reassure their kid that she is loved and that they believe in her. The rankings are bullshXX!

UVA has always been the Holy Grail in NOVA high schools. Even before the rankings.

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Bless your heart. No it hasn’t.

Can we stop with the misogynistic put downs? Thanks.

What? "Bless your heart" is an equal-opportunity put down. It has nothing to do with women. :roll:

NP. It's a stupid expression and I only hear this on DCUM. Did your grandma use to say it all the time?

It's a stupid expression that is the perfect retort to stupid claims. See bolded.

You love using a stupid expression? Come up with something better. More mature.

:lol: It's funny that you don't call out the first poster who actually MADE the stupid claim. I'll continue blessing their heart, thanks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD has applied broadly to 10+ schools and is more of an average student (3.5w in NoVa, test optional), and has gotten some great acceptances (in my book) but is not really in love with any of them.

She would ideally be a business or marketing major but did not apply to the business school at most college because it was more competitive.

Her current choices are: JMU, Michigan state, Indiana, college of Charleston, and is requesting review to main campus at Penn state. (Accepted to 2+2).

She is not really interested in some of the smaller schools we looked at.

How can I help her come to terms with the fact that there may be no “dream” school for her? Also she does not want to take a gap year or go to NOVA and then transfer.

Son went there. He picked it during admitted student's visit. Loved his time there. Graduated from the business school, now works at a FAANG. All of these threads talking about kids struggling to get jobs after college--didn't seem to have that problem. He's making six figures two years out.

I do think MSU gets a weird amount of hate here, but it is DCUM.

The threads I keep seeing are about 2025 graduates who are struggling to find jobs (and current college students looking for internships/jobs after graduation).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD has applied broadly to 10+ schools and is more of an average student (3.5w in NoVa, test optional), and has gotten some great acceptances (in my book) but is not really in love with any of them.

She would ideally be a business or marketing major but did not apply to the business school at most college because it was more competitive.

Her current choices are: JMU, Michigan state, Indiana, college of Charleston, and is requesting review to main campus at Penn state. (Accepted to 2+2).

She is not really interested in some of the smaller schools we looked at.

How can I help her come to terms with the fact that there may be no “dream” school for her? Also she does not want to take a gap year or go to NOVA and then transfer.

Son went there. He picked it during admitted student's visit. Loved his time there. Graduated from the business school, now works at a FAANG. All of these threads talking about kids struggling to get jobs after college--didn't seem to have that problem. He's making six figures two years out.

I do think MSU gets a weird amount of hate here, but it is DCUM.

The threads I keep seeing are about 2025 graduates who are struggling to find jobs (and current college students looking for internships/jobs after graduation).

DP. That's every school, nowadays.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations to your daughter! Those are great options. Was she super excited about a school she didn’t get into? What is it that she is not thrilled about - location, size, academic options?

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Could it be that your DD is feeling apprehensive (anxious, nervous, not wanting things to change, etc) about college as a whole....not so much about a specific one, but just the idea of leaving home, dispersed friends, etc.?

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Is she waiting on any more regular decisions? Is she on waitlist anywhere? Waitlists move!

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Anonymous wrote:DD has applied broadly to 10+ schools and is more of an average student (3.5w in NoVa, test optional), and has gotten some great acceptances (in my book) but is not really in love with any of them.

She would ideally be a business or marketing major but did not apply to the business school at most college because it was more competitive.

Her current choices are: JMU, Michigan state, Indiana, college of Charleston, and is requesting review to main campus at Penn state. (Accepted to 2+2).

She is not really interested in some of the smaller schools we looked at.

How can I help her come to terms with the fact that there may be no “dream” school for her? Also she does not want to take a gap year or go to NOVA and then transfer.

Son went there. He picked it during admitted student's visit. Loved his time there. Graduated from the business school, now works at a FAANG. All of these threads talking about kids struggling to get jobs after college--didn't seem to have that problem. He's making six figures two years out.

I do think MSU gets a weird amount of hate here, but it is DCUM.

The threads I keep seeing are about 2025 graduates who are struggling to find jobs (and current college students looking for internships/jobs after graduation).

DP. That's every school, nowadays.

Yes. The PP's son was lucky to have graduated earlier.