Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from

[Anonymous]

Most likely it was purchased from a theft store and she just didn't want to say...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a party in bk the other night and saw this happen 3 times. One time I complimented someone’s dress and asked if it was Anthropologie and she seemed to not remember and then said she thought it was another designer, and twice more I saw someone ask and get a shrug or an ‘I can’t remember’. I easily googled all 3 items when I got home and they are currently in various stores. What is this weird behavior?

Your ending sentence-what is this weird behavior is hilarious when you take into consideration all that you did at and after this party. Thanks for giving me a laugh Op. 🤣

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it such a big deal to share where you bought your clothes? If someone asks I always say the brand, but I buy most of my casual clothes on EBay or Poshmark so they’re not what’s latest in the stores.

Why do you need to know? What is the point in asking?

What’s the point in pretending your clothes are a state secret?

I'm just minding my own business, you're the one interrogating strangers for state secrets.

Eh, you’re not that important.

[Anonymous]

They don’t want you copying them. Don’t ask.

[Anonymous]

I don’t gatekeep outfits but I did have a coworker who would ask where I bought things and then buy the exact same outfit. We worked next to each other and she would wear the same outfit down to the shoes. It was flattering but very awkward.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they do RTR unlimited? I do and given how many bags appear in my Manhattan lobby every day, it’s popular! That’s why I sometimes don’t know what I’m wearing. I don’t always admit to RTR either because some people think it’s odd.

[Anonymous]

I have an acquaintance who told me she wouldn’t shop at a Ross, Marshall’s or Aldi. She doesn’t like these discount stores. She comes across as very judgmental. She also loves to gossip. I wouldn’t tell her where I shop.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when people try to get specific like this. Just offer a generic compliment and move on. Don't grill me about where I shop if I don't offer it up like "Thanks it's from TJMaxx!"

Ugh, get over yourself.

Ugh, stop being weird and nosy. You don't have decent social skills if you go around doing this. Say "nice dress!" and move along. Not "Nice dress, where did you get it? Huh? Huh?" Weirdo.

I am not OP but I do think women who act like their clothes are a secret are pretentious and full of themselves. I also don't usually ask where people get their clothes but I also don't think it's as big a deal as people are making it on this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it such a big deal to share where you bought your clothes? If someone asks I always say the brand, but I buy most of my casual clothes on EBay or Poshmark so they’re not what’s latest in the stores.

Why do you need to know? What is the point in asking?

What’s the point in pretending your clothes are a state secret?

I'm just minding my own business, you're the one interrogating strangers for state secrets.

Eh, you’re not that important.

Cool so you can go home and scour the internet to answer your question of where did that dress come from. Since you're the one dying to know. I could not care less.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when people try to get specific like this. Just offer a generic compliment and move on. Don't grill me about where I shop if I don't offer it up like "Thanks it's from TJMaxx!"

Ugh, get over yourself.

Ugh, stop being weird and nosy. You don't have decent social skills if you go around doing this. Say "nice dress!" and move along. Not "Nice dress, where did you get it? Huh? Huh?" Weirdo.

I am not OP but I do think women who act like their clothes are a secret are pretentious and full of themselves. I also don't usually ask where people get their clothes but I also don't think it's as big a deal as people are making it on this thread.

Why would op do what she did then? She really wanted to know. That’s the only weird behavior. Why care so much in the first place?

[Anonymous]

I had no idea so many women are so triggered by another woman asking where their dress is from. Is this an east coast thing? I guess some women are really competitive with other women instead of helpful and open. That is so unfortunate. This may be a really good way to test who is a good friend or not. Ask where their dress is from and if they answer, you have a genuine, caring person. If they don’t, you have a pretentious, competitive weirdo. Choose which type of friend you prefer.

[Anonymous]

It wasn't a good friend, just someone at a party, maybe someone she just met.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My family has farmed eight generations. In that community, it's a rude question. Answer will be "we have enough for us" In reality it's all public record and only new comers would ask.

I don’t believe you. I have never, ever heard someone say this about their farm (and never, ever seen anyone bother to confirm numbers through public records). But what do I know, I just like chatting with fellow farmers at extension agent meetings and county fairs. Your family of farmers are obviously the high class ones who farmed the deck of the Mayflower back in the day, impressive!

I have a family of generations of ranchers. Discussing number of acres of head of cattle is the same as number of dollars. Very rude and not done by polite people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to a party in bk the other night and saw this happen 3 times. One time I complimented someone’s dress and asked if it was Anthropologie and she seemed to not remember and then said she thought it was another designer, and twice more I saw someone ask and get a shrug or an ‘I can’t remember’. I easily googled all 3 items when I got home and they are currently in various stores. What is this weird behavior?

Because it's tacky to ask people where they bought something. Just pay them a compliment and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't a good friend, just someone at a party, maybe someone she just met.

Exactly. It’s a good question to see what kind of friend they would be.
What kind of person they are.
Supportive, open, friendly.
Or pretentious, anxious, competitive, selfish.