Lazy, careless DH stories

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Tell us again how you want to better and not be unhinged. Sounds legit.

Because I want to post about "Lazy, careless DH stories" in a thread entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories"?

No, because of your 8 pages of nonsense.

Thank you by the way. I couldn't have done it alone!

Troll.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Tell us again how you want to better and not be unhinged. Sounds legit.

Because I want to post about "Lazy, careless DH stories" in a thread entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories"?

No, because of your 8 pages of nonsense.

Thank you by the way. I couldn't have done it alone!

Troll.

Arghhh I'm mellllting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you?

What I am hearing from you is that you believe I have an obligation to discuss with you (random internet poster) on this thread entitled "Lazy, careless, DH stories" how I can resolve my "problems" and if I don't that means I don't care about my "children".

lol

Thanks for the laugh

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you?

What I am hearing from you is that you believe I have an obligation to discuss with you (random internet poster) on this thread entitled "Lazy, careless, DH stories" how I can resolve my "problems" and if I don't that means I don't care about my "children".

lol

Thanks for the laugh

That fact that you are hearing "obligation" when I used with word "consider" speaks volumes about you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you?

What I am hearing from you is that you believe I have an obligation to discuss with you (random internet poster) on this thread entitled "Lazy, careless, DH stories" how I can resolve my "problems" and if I don't that means I don't care about my "children".

lol

Thanks for the laugh

That fact that you are hearing "obligation" when I used with word "consider" speaks volumes about you.

What exactly does it say about me? Let me guess, in some way it means I don't care about it it my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a careless, disgusting and rude dh story.

At the vet with dh, and he uses the bathroom right off the reception area. Even though I have warned him repeatedly about the sound of his urination - loud!!- and recommended he run the water when he’s in a tight space, when he’s gotta go, he’s gotta go and decorum apparently all goes out of his mind. He pees loudly enough for the entire room to hear. Gross. I go in there afterwards, and he’s also left up the toilet seat. Also gross.

That’s my DH.

😩

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you?

What I am hearing from you is that you believe I have an obligation to discuss with you (random internet poster) on this thread entitled "Lazy, careless, DH stories" how I can resolve my "problems" and if I don't that means I don't care about my "children".

lol

Thanks for the laugh

That fact that you are hearing "obligation" when I used with word "consider" speaks volumes about you.

What exactly does it say about me? Let me guess, in some way it means I don't care about it it my children.

It means you misrepresent and misinterpret.

I spoke about considering a topic that would "benefit of your children", would be more beneficial to them. I never said you "don't care" about your children. Those are you words. Again, another misrepresentation, a distraction from considering topics that would be more beneficial to your children.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you?

What I am hearing from you is that you believe I have an obligation to discuss with you (random internet poster) on this thread entitled "Lazy, careless, DH stories" how I can resolve my "problems" and if I don't that means I don't care about my "children".

lol

Thanks for the laugh

That fact that you are hearing "obligation" when I used with word "consider" speaks volumes about you.

What exactly does it say about me? Let me guess, in some way it means I don't care about it it my children.

It means you misrepresent and misinterpret.

I spoke about considering a topic that would "benefit of your children", would be more beneficial to them. I never said you "don't care" about your children. Those are you words. Again, another misrepresentation, a distraction from considering topics that would be more beneficial to your children.

Ohhh I see you just think I am missing an opportunity to help my children by not discussing with you my relationship with my spouse on this thread. Not that I don't care about them! My mistake.

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Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

I don’t even know you. Why would I care what you think?

But you know me?

No, that’s what I just said.

okay, so neither of us know each other - we agree on that. And you are saying you feel justified in posting whatever you want on DCUM - what you probably don't agree with is that this is what online bullies say.

Nooo. I said if you post, you can expect responses. Some responses will disagree with your post. Disagreement doesn’t equal bullying.

[Anonymous]

Just for the record: I’m OP and left for a few hours and came back to this insanity. I’m not any of the people sniping at each other. I’m looking forward to giving the watermelon to the birds in my yard and I think I recovered from this incident faster than some others here.

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Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.

You're accusing me of wanting to "avoid" a topic that is not the subject of this thread because you want to avoid discussing the subject of this thread, by changing the subject to parental communication. Clever, I will give you that.

Yes. For the benefit of your children, I am asking you to consider pursuing the topic of resolving your problems rather than complaining about your spouse. I'm guilty.

The topic of this thread isn't preventing me from discussing issue resolution for the benefit of your children. What's preventing you?

What I am hearing from you is that you believe I have an obligation to discuss with you (random internet poster) on this thread entitled "Lazy, careless, DH stories" how I can resolve my "problems" and if I don't that means I don't care about my "children".

lol

Thanks for the laugh

That fact that you are hearing "obligation" when I used with word "consider" speaks volumes about you.

What exactly does it say about me? Let me guess, in some way it means I don't care about it it my children.

It means you misrepresent and misinterpret.

I spoke about considering a topic that would "benefit of your children", would be more beneficial to them. I never said you "don't care" about your children. Those are you words. Again, another misrepresentation, a distraction from considering topics that would be more beneficial to your children.

Ohhh I see you just think I am missing an opportunity to help my children by not discussing with you my relationship with my spouse on this thread. Not that I don't care about them! My mistake.

You already here to discuss your relationship with your spouse. You are here to share stories about how he is lazy and/or careless.

By all means, ignore the considerations I've expressed - other topics beneficial to your children - and continue to share examples of how your spouse is lazy and careless. The reader can draw their own conclusions from this exchange.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?

-a wife

Who hacks a chunk off a giant watermelon and sticks it in the fridge? The juice will get everywhere.0

+1, that part is indefensible. And then he acknowledges that the reason he didn't deal with the rest of the watermelon is because it's time consuming and they don't have containers big enough to fit it. Meaning he was 100% aware that he was leaving an annoying problem for his wife to deal with but figured oh well, I'm leaving town, what's she going to do about it.

That's incredibly annoying regardless of the genders of the people involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do I have a feeling you would have also been mad if he’d gotten no watermelon at all?

-a wife

Who hacks a chunk off a giant watermelon and sticks it in the fridge? The juice will get everywhere.0

+1, that part is indefensible. And then he acknowledges that the reason he didn't deal with the rest of the watermelon is because it's time consuming and they don't have containers big enough to fit it. Meaning he was 100% aware that he was leaving an annoying problem for his wife to deal with but figured oh well, I'm leaving town, what's she going to do about it.

That's incredibly annoying regardless of the genders of the people involved.

Seriously, he couldn't have used some gallon ziplock bags and maybe frozen a bag or two?