Lazy, careless DH stories

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

I don’t even know you. Why would I care what you think?

Oh now the PP has split into 2 people. Amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

I don’t even know you. Why would I care what you think?

But you know me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

I don’t even know you. Why would I care what you think?

But you know me?

No, that’s what I just said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is trying to stop people from venting on DCUM. But if you vent on DCUM, you must expect others to respond. They may not and probably won’t respond in a way that validates you. So if validation is what you’re after, you are likely to be disappointed. You can’t stop them posting anymore than they can stop you posting. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post.

And if you don't want to hear people not validating your bullying remarks here, don't post. Or do you think you are immune from criticism because you are telling the "truth" about what you imagine the woman did wrong?

The difference is I really don’t need validation from you so you go right ahead a respond to my posts any way you like.

Right, you'll just tell me I have serious issues when I criticize you. Obviously, you are cool as a cucumber when it comes to criticism lol

I don’t even know you. Why would I care what you think?

But you know me?

No, that’s what I just said.

okay, so neither of us know each other - we agree on that. And you are saying you feel justified in posting whatever you want on DCUM - what you probably don't agree with is that this is what online bullies say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Tell us again how you want to better and not be unhinged. Sounds legit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Tell us again how you want to better and not be unhinged. Sounds legit.

Because I want to post about "Lazy, careless DH stories" in a thread entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Tell us again how you want to better and not be unhinged. Sounds legit.

Because I want to post about "Lazy, careless DH stories" in a thread entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories"?

No, because of your 8 pages of nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Tell us again how you want to better and not be unhinged. Sounds legit.

Because I want to post about "Lazy, careless DH stories" in a thread entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories"?

No, because of your 8 pages of nonsense.

Thank you by the way. I couldn't have done it alone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Back to the topic of the thread, when I was pregnant DH suggested we take shifts taking care of the baby. Except his shift would be in the early morning hours and he would go to the gym during his shift since the baby would be sleeping 🤔

What was his response when you communicated to him this arrangement was not acceptable?

He got really defensive. Super fun time.

Not fun. Dysfunctional. Bad for children.

You both resolved the defensiveness through communication. Right? Are you not able to resolve issues with your spouse using communication?

Why do you ask? Is it distressing to you that my DH is a flawed human being and therefore want to soothe that distress by finding a way to blame me?

I ask because you have a child who deserves parents who are able to resolve issues through communication.

finding a way to blame me?

This isn't about you. It's about your child.

Actually this thread is entitled "Lazy, careless DH stories" not "how women are to blame for men being lazy and careless and how women are thereby hurting their children"

Yes it is. So just to be clear, you don't want to consider the possibility that parents who are unable to resolve issues through communication are hurting their children. That topic you want to avoid. You prefer to share lazy, careless DH stories.