S/O - Why does DCUM hate this kind of woman so much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are these women in DC?? I don’t know any of these women. I’m not poor or even dcum poor. Our HHI is >800k. I guess maybe I’m just not paying attention.

Have you ever been an attendee at the CharityWorks Dream Ball?

No.

[Anonymous]

It’s privilege performance art.

[Anonymous]

This thread is funny because the truth is people don't hate this kind of woman and especially not on DCUM. Her entire look is designed to be broadly pleasing.

I have genuinely unique style. I wear a lot of oversized menswear. I love Japanese brands. I love a severe haircut, statement glasses, and weird purses. I do not dress for men (a lot of my clothes totally conceal my body even though I'm in great shape) nor do I dress for other women. I dress for myself, for comfort, to make myself smile when I look in a mirror, to experiment with colors or shapes or patterns, to evoke a mood or to remind myself of a favorite movie or work of art.

Lots of people HATE the way I dress. It actually makes some people visibly angry. I have had total stranger or acquaintances challenge me on my appearance. "Why would you cut your hair like that?" "Why do you wear such baggy clothes?" I've also had people I know criticize me endlessly -- "can't you just wear a regular dress?" or "why do you dress like a man?"

I don't care. This is who I am, I like it. It brings me joy.

The idea that a thin, rich white woman wearing this-season Lululemon, and Cartier bracelet, and with long highlighted blonde hair and Kardashian-inspired contouring is somehow a fashion pariah is laughable. Are you seriously so sensitive to criticism that you can't deal with the occasional eye roll about your totally unoriginal and trend-following style being... well, unoriginal and trend-following? You need a thicker skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where are these women in DC?? I don’t know any of these women. I’m not poor or even dcum poor. Our HHI is >800k. I guess maybe I’m just not paying attention.

Have you ever been an attendee at the CharityWorks Dream Ball?

Or the drop off line to any of the Bethesda area private schools…

[Anonymous]

As a guy nothing is hotter than the classic well put together lookThe higher end brands lend themselves more to this aesthetic. Unfortunately a lot of these brands have more visible labeling/branding/identifiers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are these women in DC?? I don’t know any of these women. I’m not poor or even dcum poor. Our HHI is >800k. I guess maybe I’m just not paying attention.

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever been an attendee at the CharityWorks Dream Ball?

Anonymous wrote:No.

Then start there.

[Anonymous]

I don’t like people who think they are better than someone else because of how much their purse cost. And I don’t like third parties who admire people for their material possessions, like it’s an accomplishment or something. It’s really not more complicated than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a guy nothing is hotter than the classic well put together lookThe higher end brands lend themselves more to this aesthetic. Unfortunately a lot of these brands have more visible labeling/branding/identifiers.

Yes, this is a totally guy, real manly man kind of thing to say and not at all suspicious sounding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s privilege performance art.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

I don’t hate this woman (why would I hate someone because of how they dress? That seems stupid) but I also don’t aspire to look like a white woman so don’t own these things or dress this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ETA - I posted this in Relationships because I would also love to get a male perspective.

Male here, since you asked. Cartier bangles and van clef necklace, WTF is that ? I don’t even look at hair, it’s all about T&A. That’s all any hetro man is thinking about. And if your wearing LuLu, better not be fat.

You’ve got a lot of nerve, considering you can’t write a grammatically correct sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is funny because the truth is people don't hate this kind of woman and especially not on DCUM. Her entire look is designed to be broadly pleasing.

I have genuinely unique style. I wear a lot of oversized menswear. I love Japanese brands. I love a severe haircut, statement glasses, and weird purses. I do not dress for men (a lot of my clothes totally conceal my body even though I'm in great shape) nor do I dress for other women. I dress for myself, for comfort, to make myself smile when I look in a mirror, to experiment with colors or shapes or patterns, to evoke a mood or to remind myself of a favorite movie or work of art.

Lots of people HATE the way I dress. It actually makes some people visibly angry. I have had total stranger or acquaintances challenge me on my appearance. "Why would you cut your hair like that?" "Why do you wear such baggy clothes?" I've also had people I know criticize me endlessly -- "can't you just wear a regular dress?" or "why do you dress like a man?"

Wow, you’re NLOG

I don't care. This is who I am, I like it. It brings me joy.

The idea that a thin, rich white woman wearing this-season Lululemon, and Cartier bracelet, and with long highlighted blonde hair and Kardashian-inspired contouring is somehow a fashion pariah is laughable. Are you seriously so sensitive to criticism that you can't deal with the occasional eye roll about your totally unoriginal and trend-following style being... well, unoriginal and trend-following? You need a thicker skin.

[Anonymous]

My husband can’t tell the difference between Lilly Pulitzer and Vera Bradley, or Lululemon and Old Navy. He wouldn’t have the foggiest idea what a “Neverfull” is or a “Birkin.”

He prefers people clean, trim and tidy, looking like they put in at least minimum effort, but that’s about it. If you are showered, have a recent haircut, and have clothes that fit you and are from the last decade, you’re good.

[Anonymous]

Well, this devolved quickly. We got some really insightful posts up front, but no, it’s not that anyone “hates” this woman. It’s just that she’s stupid, a sheep, and a lemming. Ouch.

Now who’s the mean girl?

[Anonymous]

I generally don't like the suburban rich woman look and especially the big brand name announcements. I prefer the women who are stylish but more independent thinking. They see unbranded things that look good and buy them. Could be from a thrift store or eBay or Bloomingdales. I have no idea.

I will admit that I do appreciate women with style. DC government worker and BigLaw drab doesn't do much for me.

I'm male and middle aged.