69, zero assets, social security is not enough

[Anonymous]

She will have to keep working or live in a homeless shelter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to get her on more public benefits. Call your Area Agency on Aging. This kind of thing is their bread and butter and they may have ideas for you to get her more non-family support.

This. She will have groceries and medical care and a roof over her head, the rest is her problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get her on more public benefits. Call your Area Agency on Aging. This kind of thing is their bread and butter and they may have ideas for you to get her more non-family support.

This. She will have groceries and medical care and a roof over her head, the rest is her problem.

Why do so many people think there are abundant resources provided to care for seniors? Seniors 50+ are the faster growing segment of the unhoused population. While a few jurisdictions have good programs, they are the exception rather than the rule. And any reliance on federal dollars needs to be carefully considered in the current climate.

https://endhomelessness.org/blog/paint-by-numbers-older-americans-and-homelessness/#:~:text=The%20percentage%20of%20single%20adults,50%20percent%20in%20the%202020s.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s a horrible attitude and you should treat her better than you are. She’s family.

NP in a similar situation to OP. The thing is, with finite resources, it becomes a choice: the next generation or the previous one? Do I support my parent, or do I set my kids up as best as possible for what is almost certainly going to be a much harder, more expensive, less certain future? What if one of the kids has health issues and needs lifelong access to medication? Is it okay to not support mom then? Am I looking backward or forward?

I hate being in this situation. Hate it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That’s a horrible attitude and you should treat her better than you are. She’s family.

NP in a similar situation to OP. The thing is, with finite resources, it becomes a choice: the next generation or the previous one? Do I support my parent, or do I set my kids up as best as possible for what is almost certainly going to be a much harder, more expensive, less certain future? What if one of the kids has health issues and needs lifelong access to medication? Is it okay to not support mom then? Am I looking backward or forward?

I hate being in this situation. Hate it.

+1 from a NP - I'm in a very similar situation, PP. There's only so much someone can do, at least in cases of limited resources and wanting to maintain some semblance of health.

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Anonymous wrote:lmao where are all you "wait until you're old! you childfree people will have no one to take care of you!" people now?

see, even if you have kids, there's no guarantee that they'll care for you when you're older.

Because you have to earn that, if you treat your kids like crap throughout their lives, they might be done with you. Also, financially, they have to first look out for their own immediate family (spouse/partner and kids). They cannot put themselves into debt/financial troubles because you didn't plan for retirement

[Anonymous]

OP, where does your Mom live now (state/county)? Does she want to stay there? Bc available resources vary from place to place...

[Anonymous]

Not OP, but I am looking for information to help my 75+ year old mom. We are in Virginia, she has no income, no health insurance. Could someone please provide some resources or information on senior citizen benefits, especially in Fairfax area? Thank you.

[Anonymous]

So many people with the same issue. I don't blame any child that doesn't want to take care of a parent who made bad choices. Not at all.
But I also, as a taxpayer, don't want to be paying the burden of these people who made bad choices either!

Does this make me a conservative? Where does this leave us as a society?

[Anonymous]

No first world country tosses seniors into the trash heap to fend for themselves. Too much rationalization in this thread on how the parents deserve it. That comes from a society that has no social contract. In the Scandi countries they don't expect the kids to do everything, it is a lifelong social contract.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s a horrible attitude and you should treat her better than you are. She’s family.

Each + every family is unique and no two families are ever identical.

So judging the OP like this is really just ignorance.

OP >> hopefully you will not let this mean poster affect you.

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Anonymous wrote:No first world country tosses seniors into the trash heap to fend for themselves. Too much rationalization in this thread on how the parents deserve it. That comes from a society that has no social contract. In the Scandi countries they don't expect the kids to do everything, it is a lifelong social contract.

What do I owe someone who made decisions that not only hurt themselves but hurt US, the children? There are 2 sides to every contract. It’s give and take. My mom only takes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get her on more public benefits. Call your Area Agency on Aging. This kind of thing is their bread and butter and they may have ideas for you to get her more non-family support.

This. She will have groceries and medical care and a roof over her head, the rest is her problem.

Why do so many people think there are abundant resources provided to care for seniors? Seniors 50+ are the faster growing segment of the unhoused population. While a few jurisdictions have good programs, they are the exception rather than the rule. And any reliance on federal dollars needs to be carefully considered in the current climate.

https://endhomelessness.org/blog/paint-by-numbers-older-americans-and-homelessness/#:~:text=The%20percentage%20of%20single%20adults,50%20percent%20in%20the%202020s.

All my rich IT friends in silicon valley have their immigrant parents in subsidized housing, getting SSI and food stamps and free medical care

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Anonymous wrote:No first world country tosses seniors into the trash heap to fend for themselves. Too much rationalization in this thread on how the parents deserve it. That comes from a society that has no social contract. In the Scandi countries they don't expect the kids to do everything, it is a lifelong social contract.

The US is no longer a first world country.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to get her on more public benefits. Call your Area Agency on Aging. This kind of thing is their bread and butter and they may have ideas for you to get her more non-family support.

This. She will have groceries and medical care and a roof over her head, the rest is her problem.

Why do so many people think there are abundant resources provided to care for seniors? Seniors 50+ are the faster growing segment of the unhoused population. While a few jurisdictions have good programs, they are the exception rather than the rule. And any reliance on federal dollars needs to be carefully considered in the current climate.

https://endhomelessness.org/blog/paint-by-numbers-older-americans-and-homelessness/#:~:text=The%20percentage%20of%20single%20adults,50%20percent%20in%20the%202020s.

All my rich IT friends in silicon valley have their immigrant parents in subsidized housing, getting SSI and food stamps and free medical care

Yes, your anecdata/lie is definitely more representative than actual evidence

Weirdly my mega rich FAANG friends have kept their parents in their own homes with 24/7 care. Guess our friends have different priorities