Why are you being weirdly aggressive about this? The low-key gathering w/pizza does not include alcohol. There are adults in the home. |
The point of this thread is “disinvitation” I guess the party hosts involved in these exclusive parties don’t care about the kids who fall to the side. We know you do it because you fear your kid being left out. You want to be the cool mom. |
It’s social engineering. But people are claiming it’s not. |
PP here and this is probably more what I was trying to get at. I’m having a bit of a Charlie Brown moment. I don’t begrudge anyone having get togethers or kids having a tight group, but it really does bite when your kids are left out. If you haven’t felt it, consider yourself lucky. Feeling relieved this morning that both Homecoming and Halloween season are over! |
I really don't know my kids friends. I see new faces all the time. Unless the kid was particularly disrepectful on a previous visit I don't care who drops by. Do you have teens? |
How so? I would agree if these kids had asked to invite OP's kid, and the mom said "no, only kids XYZ can come." Or if we had evidence that the kid was left off the list because the host parent had something against him or his mom. But here, it could just as well be a group of kids being cliquey and deciding to leave a kid out, which happens in middle school, unfortunately, including to my son. Or because OP's kid didn't come to mind as one of the closer friends to invite, and the host kid never spoke up to ask for him to come. |
I see. Your kid is a user and you’re proud of it. Great job mom. |
Are you the thread "nazi" now, weirdly triggered pp? I have no desire to be a cool mom for other kids. I am a very loving and thoughtful mom for my own kid. And no one is excluding any kid. Our invites go out on our neighborhood listserv. Besides, my children always have companionship of kids of relatives and my own friends, their school friends etc, so we always have a critical mass of guests to have a party. Yes, why would I want my own kid to be left out and feel bad because of Karens and their children? Are you insane? I also want them to learn how to be social and inclusive. I don't want them to be some helpless, isolated, anti-social, depressed adult once they are away from home. Are you on the spectrum? Because your posts are really weird. |
^ Exactly the type of “cool mom” who wants to have the party at her house. |
Wow, you’re really going off the deep end now. So defensive! |
Does some social engineering exist? Yes. Is letting your kid and their friends decide completely on their own what to do, where to go, and who to invite (and then change it all multiple times) considered social engineering? No. |
Completely on their own, sure. Just a day or two ago was a party hosting mom wanting to disinvite her son’s friend b/c of something he said on Discord. |
Yeah, that must be it. Just like I am a user for having one friend that I play pickleball with, but don't invite to my book club, or another who I do water walking with, but have never invited to a happy hour. Every person must be invited to every event, or you are a bad person. |
Yes, teens. I was saying yes to the PP who asked if I have no idea who is coming. |
So now nobody knows where their teens are going or who they are hanging out with? Where did all these completely hands off parents come from? |