First period - how do you handle it with male members of family

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Anonymous wrote:I never talked about it with my husband. I’m sure he realized that at some point it would happen and that I’d deal with it.

Why should 100% of it fall on the mom? Thats very sexist.

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Anonymous wrote:We had sort of a "period party" where we celebrated her transition from girl to young woman with a lot of pomp and flair. We thought it was important to recognize the event with a grand celebration.

Do the same for your son's first wet dream?

I don’t expect parents to celebrate their children having orgasms , no. Not the same.

I think the point is that puberty is a biological process and nothing to celebrate. It’s very peculiar to celebrate a first period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dd got her period for the first time. Handling it well. Did you tell their dad, male siblings. Do you discuss period out in the open? I grew up in a conservative household with this stuff so wondering what others do.

We have a celebration after a girl gets her first period and her relatives and close friends are invited. The girl gets pampered and given gifts by every one. There is a prayer ceremony and a feast given by her parents. So there is no question of hiding anything and making her feel self-conscious. It's a celebration of her good health.

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It’s okay if people think it’s weird that it’s talked about openly in a household; I personally don’t GAF, because my DD certainly doesn’t. We are very open in my house and my DD feels no shame or embarrassment. If she were very private, like a lot of teen girls, of course we would respect that. We follow her cues.

She has a heavy flow - she’s leaked in hotel beds on vacation and we’ve had to clean it. My DH and DS are unfazed. It’s just a part of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

GMAFB. There’s nothing wrong with a 14 year old’s parent filling out their medical form.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never talked about it with my husband. I’m sure he realized that at some point it would happen and that I’d deal with it.

Why should 100% of it fall on the mom? Thats very sexist.

What girl wants to discuss her period with her dad? He has zero experience because it is about sex.

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Why does it need to be "handled" with the men in the house? I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

GMAFB. There’s nothing wrong with a 14 year old’s parent filling out their medical form.

there’s nothing wrong with it but it’s infantilizing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never talked about it with my husband. I’m sure he realized that at some point it would happen and that I’d deal with it.

Why should 100% of it fall on the mom? Thats very sexist.

What girl wants to discuss her period with her dad? He has zero experience because it is about sex.

My DD? I mean she doesn’t particularly want to discuss her period I don’t think, but “can you grab me some pads - I am out” or “my cramps are really bad - would you rub my back” is addressed to whichever parent is nearby at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never talked about it with my husband. I’m sure he realized that at some point it would happen and that I’d deal with it.

Why should 100% of it fall on the mom? Thats very sexist.

What girl wants to discuss her period with her dad? He has zero experience because it is about sex.

My DD? I mean she doesn’t particularly want to discuss her period I don’t think, but “can you grab me some pads - I am out” or “my cramps are really bad - would you rub my back” is addressed to whichever parent is nearby at the time.

Buying pads is so burdensome? Feels like you are trying too hard to make sure you bean count fairly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This would be a matter of fact, daughter has started menstruating to her dad because I do not nor should I fill out all school, camp, doctors’ forms, etc., and they all ask in a check box about menstruation. I presume like for me, it’s so the doctor can then ask about her last cycle, any issues, etc. While they don’t ask me or dad about that on her behalf and she’s old enough we are no longer in the room for this discussion, it does happen.

FWIW, our daughter is nearly 14 and hasn’t had it yet, but the last time we went to her regular appointment at the doctor, the doctor definitely asked again after I left the room, thinking maybe she was hiding it from me or something, because she came out really confused as to why the dr asked more questions when she knew I checked the no box on her forms.

she should be filling out her own medical forms

GMAFB. There’s nothing wrong with a 14 year old’s parent filling out their medical form.

there’s nothing wrong with it but it’s infantilizing

They ask stuff about mom’s delivery, c-section, etc. Regardless, I disagree with you. It’s fine if they want to do it and it’s fine if they don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had sort of a "period party" where we celebrated her transition from girl to young woman with a lot of pomp and flair. We thought it was important to recognize the event with a grand celebration.

This just feels so instagram inspired.

Should I be throwing a parade every time I take a massive dump?

Point being, it’s just a bodily function.

[Anonymous]

I took the opportunity to install a hand-held massage showerhead in my DD's bathroom. I just explained to DH that her bathroom needed some plumbing work and he was okay with that. I told DD (with a wink and a smile) that I was installing something into her bathroom that would help with her cramps. Definitely did not help with the water bill.

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This is a very strange post