Fifty isn't old

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Given that my life expectancy is about 70, yes, I consider 50 to be the sunset of my life. I’m not delusional.

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Anonymous wrote:Given that my life expectancy is about 70, yes, I consider 50 to be the sunset of my life. I’m not delusional.

Life expectancy in the US has actually gone down. Agree.

I'm 54 and the sheer number of 'healthy' people I know dying from cancers and other issues by 76 is huge.

Additionally, the rate of cancer diagnosed in people under 50 (particularly 30s/40s) has increased wildly.

I look and feel great, still exercise 6 days per week---but I don't for a minute take for granted that I have 20, 30, 40 years left.

I also have seen a lot of people whose own parents lived well into their mid-80s-90s, but didn't make it to 80 themselves.

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The chance you will be someone who is 60 or older's caregiver is great.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally agree with you, OP, but please don't use celebrities as examples of what 50s people look like.

-53 yr old.

It all depends on the person. Many examples of two people roughly the same age, one looks great and the other one looks old and broken.

Very true. I am 42 and younger men tell me I don't look a day over 21. My mother also is 65 and has no wrinkles. So i get away with dating younger men and I often look younger than those younger men as well

I’m the same age. Younger men and women say the same to me. Hate to break it to you, but they’re lying. You look youthful, but you don’t look 21.

When I was 40, I looked my absolute best and I was a mom of 3. I don’t think I looked 21 but I could easily pass as 30.

I am now 46 and wow, I feel pretty told now. I move slower. I’m tired. I have aches and pains. DH said 43 is when people start to no longer feel young.

I dont doubt the 42yo looks younger, especially if she is single and taking good care of yourself. But 50 is a long way from 42. Even the most beautiful celebrities can’t fight age in their fifties.

I looked my best at 42. I am 46. I don’t feel any different. I don’t look quite as good but everyone thinks I am in my 30s. They are shocked when I tell them my age. I date 27-36 usually.

Most people are not mean. They act shock for an act don't get it twisted. It's human nature to be kind to someone and say kind things that make them look good. So in reality they may think you really look 50 but they will tell you that you look 30 to make you feel good. And that's good take the compliment. Aging is part of life. The most important thing is to enjoy life everyday you are alive.

I’m not 50; I’m 46, and on a regular basis people in a work environment mistaken me for being early 30s. I literally just started another job and my direct report insinuated that we could be the same age. She is 30. Happened to me multiple times in my career
People accuse me of being too young for my job and then I tell them my age and they shut up.

My grandmother looked between 37 and 40 when she was 50 and the same with my mother. When I was I was 25. I was getting carded for buying a lot lotto ticket because they didn’t believe that I was over 18. When I was 32, I looked 22.

I still don’t have wrinkles. My mom is 71 but could pass for late 50s.

there is research that says 10% of the population looks 10 years younger than their age and I am one of those people and so is my mother and my grandmother who just passed away at 96 and looked liked she was in her late 70s.

In some cases, people are just being nice, but in my case, my appearance has actually caused me professional problems because people assume that I am much younger than I am.

I don’t know why people assume people are lying when they say they look younger. Some people do.

I look about 35, in my opinion, but people have said younger. I can pass for 35 easily. My cousin is 34…I look younger than she does.

Ok I’m the 38 above. I believe you look younger. I do. Cool. Within 10 years. I work in a superficial job with 20 year olds. I got the job because of my looks. My husband even said I’m competing at that level.

But you are not younger. That’s the point. You are not about to have kids at 46, your demeanor is different, but it’s not a bad thing. A 19 year old I work with thought her mom was going to menopause at 42. lol This is how the young ones think.

And I don’t the threshold yet because I’m not there. But no one is lusting after 50 year olds over 20 year olds. Or prefer sexually. Maybe as a « package »

This point wasn’t about that though. People can find love at any age. Even women just steer clear of men wanting youth because they don’t want to commit. That’s it.

I never said I was younger. I said I look younger. I can compete a 30-year-old any day of the week. I am not 50 yet. At 50, I will still be able to compete with 35 for men's attention.

No, no, no, none of this is true, you are utterly deluded.

Tell that to the men ages 27-46 chasing me. I won't go higher than that. If I could put a photo up here, I would. Zero wrinkles. Not one. hourglass shape. No sagging. I look better than most early 30s women now at 46. I am not going to suddenly have a sharp decline in 3.5 years.

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You can post a photo. It’s been done. Imgur among others. No one is chasing you for marriage and kids. Just committed sex. We are waiting.

Such jealousy.
I believe you PP because im older than you and very good looking.
I wont say the age of my very handsome younger bf cause seems some posters would faint haha.

They must be very unattractive themselves (?) to completely disregard the possibility of sexy older ladies. Why they dont get that if you havent drunk, smoked and burned in the sun, plus stay super fit, you are going to look really good esp if naturally pretty.
I will disregard any responses of indignation and incredulousness lol.

It is silly that they don't believe people because this does actually happen. When strangers, coworkers, other parents, acquaintances are continually suprised and when much younger men are interested, I (and other women in simliar positions) are not lying. Believe just can't believe it because they don't look that good themselves. My mom and grandmother are the same. It is pathetic how people think everyone must tank at 40. Not at all.

Truly laughing. I don’t know who the other posters are. But I’m not jealous in the least. First I’m younger than this person. In my thirties. I also can pull 19 year old men. Not the flex that people think it is. She’s competing at work but not in full resources to full potential ratio of looks/life.

Everyone believes she looks younger. OK. Whatever.

This post is titled « fifty isn’t old ». That’s the entire point of the thread. It’s not old in a sense to live life. But in a stage of life no 50, 60 year old is on the same level as a 30 year old. Math is math. It’s like a ripe banana. Your ovaries aren’t the same. Yes it doesn’t mean you don’t look good. This person is going on and on about her lack of wrinkles. Again OK, whatever. Both are true. You look good but aren’t young and 50 is old to the younger people. But to someone is 70, you’re young.

Here’s the link pp. to post. And everyone is asking her because she’s doesn’t get the point and is so full of herself.
https://imgur.com/

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Anonymous wrote:Given that my life expectancy is about 70, yes, I consider 50 to be the sunset of my life. I’m not delusional.

All of my great grandparents lived until their Mid90s and my grandmother just passed away at 97. I’m more concerned about outliving my money.

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Anonymous wrote:The many threads here about how people over 40 who divorce shouldn't want a life partner again are perplexing. For most UMC people in their 40s, they're only halfway through their life.

And I'm confused by the people who imagine that people in their 50s no longer have an interest in sex, as if they are old rickety people whose bones can't handle it or something. I understand that those who are very young, like under 25, see anyone over 50 as an ancient grandma. But anyone in their 30s or older who has a job and is in daily contact with "peers" who are over 50 has no excuse. This IG post features celebrities who look better at 50 than most of us looked at 25. But it still makes this point. https://www.instagram.com/reel/C6mfFgnyCuf/?igsh=MXRvd2ZneWRlOWo1eg%3D%3D&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR31Ty3JF-tpzWN64lH0xcGxI3HrY9Pfyx9Ttxam-uh7duQBGPVoVqwiBiY_aem_AYHNq9AAyzOCxpCtWqPYY7ELdZw_rSov4ToJG91b0njRYAYXowqjjCEyqBxxJgBGYXA6qYUS1IRrwaRvYjGXnJK9

No matter how you slice it, 50+ is downhill, everyone's speed differs but its beginning of the old age. Biological aging begins at 30.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally agree with you, OP, but please don't use celebrities as examples of what 50s people look like.

-53 yr old.

It all depends on the person. Many examples of two people roughly the same age, one looks great and the other one looks old and broken.

Very true. I am 42 and younger men tell me I don't look a day over 21. My mother also is 65 and has no wrinkles. So i get away with dating younger men and I often look younger than those younger men as well

I’m the same age. Younger men and women say the same to me. Hate to break it to you, but they’re lying. You look youthful, but you don’t look 21.

When I was 40, I looked my absolute best and I was a mom of 3. I don’t think I looked 21 but I could easily pass as 30.

I am now 46 and wow, I feel pretty told now. I move slower. I’m tired. I have aches and pains. DH said 43 is when people start to no longer feel young.

I dont doubt the 42yo looks younger, especially if she is single and taking good care of yourself. But 50 is a long way from 42. Even the most beautiful celebrities can’t fight age in their fifties.

I looked my best at 42. I am 46. I don’t feel any different. I don’t look quite as good but everyone thinks I am in my 30s. They are shocked when I tell them my age. I date 27-36 usually.

Most people are not mean. They act shock for an act don't get it twisted. It's human nature to be kind to someone and say kind things that make them look good. So in reality they may think you really look 50 but they will tell you that you look 30 to make you feel good. And that's good take the compliment. Aging is part of life. The most important thing is to enjoy life everyday you are alive.

I’m not 50; I’m 46, and on a regular basis people in a work environment mistaken me for being early 30s. I literally just started another job and my direct report insinuated that we could be the same age. She is 30. Happened to me multiple times in my career
People accuse me of being too young for my job and then I tell them my age and they shut up.

My grandmother looked between 37 and 40 when she was 50 and the same with my mother. When I was I was 25. I was getting carded for buying a lot lotto ticket because they didn’t believe that I was over 18. When I was 32, I looked 22.

I still don’t have wrinkles. My mom is 71 but could pass for late 50s.

there is research that says 10% of the population looks 10 years younger than their age and I am one of those people and so is my mother and my grandmother who just passed away at 96 and looked liked she was in her late 70s.

In some cases, people are just being nice, but in my case, my appearance has actually caused me professional problems because people assume that I am much younger than I am.

I don’t know why people assume people are lying when they say they look younger. Some people do.

I look about 35, in my opinion, but people have said younger. I can pass for 35 easily. My cousin is 34…I look younger than she does.

Ok I’m the 38 above. I believe you look younger. I do. Cool. Within 10 years. I work in a superficial job with 20 year olds. I got the job because of my looks. My husband even said I’m competing at that level.

But you are not younger. That’s the point. You are not about to have kids at 46, your demeanor is different, but it’s not a bad thing. A 19 year old I work with thought her mom was going to menopause at 42. lol This is how the young ones think.

And I don’t the threshold yet because I’m not there. But no one is lusting after 50 year olds over 20 year olds. Or prefer sexually. Maybe as a « package »

This point wasn’t about that though. People can find love at any age. Even women just steer clear of men wanting youth because they don’t want to commit. That’s it.

I never said I was younger. I said I look younger. I can compete a 30-year-old any day of the week. I am not 50 yet. At 50, I will still be able to compete with 35 for men's attention.

No, no, no, none of this is true, you are utterly deluded.

Tell that to the men ages 27-46 chasing me. I won't go higher than that. If I could put a photo up here, I would. Zero wrinkles. Not one. hourglass shape. No sagging. I look better than most early 30s women now at 46. I am not going to suddenly have a sharp decline in 3.5 years.

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You can post a photo. It’s been done. Imgur among others. No one is chasing you for marriage and kids. Just committed sex. We are waiting.

Such jealousy.
I believe you PP because im older than you and very good looking.
I wont say the age of my very handsome younger bf cause seems some posters would faint haha.

They must be very unattractive themselves (?) to completely disregard the possibility of sexy older ladies. Why they dont get that if you havent drunk, smoked and burned in the sun, plus stay super fit, you are going to look really good esp if naturally pretty.
I will disregard any responses of indignation and incredulousness lol.

It is silly that they don't believe people because this does actually happen. When strangers, coworkers, other parents, acquaintances are continually suprised and when much younger men are interested, I (and other women in simliar positions) are not lying. Believe just can't believe it because they don't look that good themselves. My mom and grandmother are the same. It is pathetic how people think everyone must tank at 40. Not at all.

Truly laughing. I don’t know who the other posters are. But I’m not jealous in the least. First I’m younger than this person. In my thirties. I also can pull 19 year old men. Not the flex that people think it is. She’s competing at work but not in full resources to full potential ratio of looks/life.

Everyone believes she looks younger. OK. Whatever.

This post is titled « fifty isn’t old ». That’s the entire point of the thread. It’s not old in a sense to live life. But in a stage of life no 50, 60 year old is on the same level as a 30 year old. Math is math. It’s like a ripe banana. Your ovaries aren’t the same. Yes it doesn’t mean you don’t look good. This person is going on and on about her lack of wrinkles. Again OK, whatever. Both are true. You look good but aren’t young and 50 is old to the younger people. But to someone is 70, you’re young.

Here’s the link pp. to post. And everyone is asking her because she’s doesn’t get the point and is so full of herself.
https://imgur.com/

Who cares
Youre 30 and boring
This post is just so boring. We all know 50 is 'more' than 30 lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given that my life expectancy is about 70, yes, I consider 50 to be the sunset of my life. I’m not delusional.

That is too bad for you. My parents both lived to be 90, and I hope to do the same. I have decades to go.

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If you are a woman, you are considered old after 30-35. I don’t think many women end up marrying again in their 40s and 50s because men only want 20- or MAYBE early 30-somethings. Look at the posts on this forum about sugar daddies and cheating spouses and big age gaps.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a woman, you are considered old after 30-35. I don’t think many women end up marrying again in their 40s and 50s because men only want 20- or MAYBE early 30-somethings. Look at the posts on this forum about sugar daddies and cheating spouses and big age gaps.

I am in my mid forties and know several divorced women in their forties and fifties who still want the total package. They don’t want to settle after too much compromise with their ex husbands. I’m not sure they will get what they want. I have one friend who seems to especially have unrealistic expectations since she is in her late forties thinking she can compete with the twenty somethings and thirty somethings for the perfect package man.

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Anonymous wrote:I generally agree with you, OP, but please don't use celebrities as examples of what 50s people look like.

-53 yr old.

It all depends on the person. Many examples of two people roughly the same age, one looks great and the other one looks old and broken.

Very true. I am 42 and younger men tell me I don't look a day over 21. My mother also is 65 and has no wrinkles. So i get away with dating younger men and I often look younger than those younger men as well

I’m the same age. Younger men and women say the same to me. Hate to break it to you, but they’re lying. You look youthful, but you don’t look 21.

When I was 40, I looked my absolute best and I was a mom of 3. I don’t think I looked 21 but I could easily pass as 30.

I am now 46 and wow, I feel pretty told now. I move slower. I’m tired. I have aches and pains. DH said 43 is when people start to no longer feel young.

I dont doubt the 42yo looks younger, especially if she is single and taking good care of yourself. But 50 is a long way from 42. Even the most beautiful celebrities can’t fight age in their fifties.

I looked my best at 42. I am 46. I don’t feel any different. I don’t look quite as good but everyone thinks I am in my 30s. They are shocked when I tell them my age. I date 27-36 usually.

Most people are not mean. They act shock for an act don't get it twisted. It's human nature to be kind to someone and say kind things that make them look good. So in reality they may think you really look 50 but they will tell you that you look 30 to make you feel good. And that's good take the compliment. Aging is part of life. The most important thing is to enjoy life everyday you are alive.

I’m not 50; I’m 46, and on a regular basis people in a work environment mistaken me for being early 30s. I literally just started another job and my direct report insinuated that we could be the same age. She is 30. Happened to me multiple times in my career
People accuse me of being too young for my job and then I tell them my age and they shut up.

My grandmother looked between 37 and 40 when she was 50 and the same with my mother. When I was I was 25. I was getting carded for buying a lot lotto ticket because they didn’t believe that I was over 18. When I was 32, I looked 22.

I still don’t have wrinkles. My mom is 71 but could pass for late 50s.

there is research that says 10% of the population looks 10 years younger than their age and I am one of those people and so is my mother and my grandmother who just passed away at 96 and looked liked she was in her late 70s.

In some cases, people are just being nice, but in my case, my appearance has actually caused me professional problems because people assume that I am much younger than I am.

I don’t know why people assume people are lying when they say they look younger. Some people do.

I look about 35, in my opinion, but people have said younger. I can pass for 35 easily. My cousin is 34…I look younger than she does.

Ok I’m the 38 above. I believe you look younger. I do. Cool. Within 10 years. I work in a superficial job with 20 year olds. I got the job because of my looks. My husband even said I’m competing at that level.

But you are not younger. That’s the point. You are not about to have kids at 46, your demeanor is different, but it’s not a bad thing. A 19 year old I work with thought her mom was going to menopause at 42. lol This is how the young ones think.

And I don’t the threshold yet because I’m not there. But no one is lusting after 50 year olds over 20 year olds. Or prefer sexually. Maybe as a « package »

This point wasn’t about that though. People can find love at any age. Even women just steer clear of men wanting youth because they don’t want to commit. That’s it.

I never said I was younger. I said I look younger. I can compete a 30-year-old any day of the week. I am not 50 yet. At 50, I will still be able to compete with 35 for men's attention.

No, no, no, none of this is true, you are utterly deluded.

Tell that to the men ages 27-46 chasing me. I won't go higher than that. If I could put a photo up here, I would. Zero wrinkles. Not one. hourglass shape. No sagging. I look better than most early 30s women now at 46. I am not going to suddenly have a sharp decline in 3.5 years.

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You can post a photo. It’s been done. Imgur among others. No one is chasing you for marriage and kids. Just committed sex. We are waiting.

Such jealousy.
I believe you PP because im older than you and very good looking.
I wont say the age of my very handsome younger bf cause seems some posters would faint haha.

They must be very unattractive themselves (?) to completely disregard the possibility of sexy older ladies. Why they dont get that if you havent drunk, smoked and burned in the sun, plus stay super fit, you are going to look really good esp if naturally pretty.
I will disregard any responses of indignation and incredulousness lol.

It is silly that they don't believe people because this does actually happen. When strangers, coworkers, other parents, acquaintances are continually suprised and when much younger men are interested, I (and other women in simliar positions) are not lying. Believe just can't believe it because they don't look that good themselves. My mom and grandmother are the same. It is pathetic how people think everyone must tank at 40. Not at all.

Truly laughing. I don’t know who the other posters are. But I’m not jealous in the least. First I’m younger than this person. In my thirties. I also can pull 19 year old men. Not the flex that people think it is. She’s competing at work but not in full resources to full potential ratio of looks/life.

Everyone believes she looks younger. OK. Whatever.

This post is titled « fifty isn’t old ». That’s the entire point of the thread. It’s not old in a sense to live life. But in a stage of life no 50, 60 year old is on the same level as a 30 year old. Math is math. It’s like a ripe banana. Your ovaries aren’t the same. Yes it doesn’t mean you don’t look good. This person is going on and on about her lack of wrinkles. Again OK, whatever. Both are true. You look good but aren’t young and 50 is old to the younger people. But to someone is 70, you’re young.

Here’s the link pp. to post. And everyone is asking her because she’s doesn’t get the point and is so full of herself.
https://imgur.com/

Who cares
Youre 30 and boring
This post is just so boring. We all know 50 is 'more' than 30 lol

I am the same age as the pp and she does seem overly full of herself. Sure, she may look younger but she is still not young.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a woman, you are considered old after 30-35. I don’t think many women end up marrying again in their 40s and 50s because men only want 20- or MAYBE early 30-somethings. Look at the posts on this forum about sugar daddies and cheating spouses and big age gaps.

I am in my mid forties and know several divorced women in their forties and fifties who still want the total package. They don’t want to settle after too much compromise with their ex husbands. I’m not sure they will get what they want. I have one friend who seems to especially have unrealistic expectations since she is in her late forties thinking she can compete with the twenty somethings and thirty somethings for the perfect package man.

They don’t need to settle. They know staying single is better than less than ideal.

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Anonymous wrote:You're all going to think I'm crazy but I am a 50 year old male who absolutely finds women in their 40's and 50's way more attractive than women in their 20's. I'm not sure what it is but I like a bit of minor weathering (not exactly what I mean but can't think of a good descriptive word). Middle aged women are so sexy that sometimes I just want to explode. When I see a stereotypical hot younger woman, they of course look really good, but it's almost like too perfect or something (this isn't exactly what I mean either) and it just doesn't do it for me. Sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with me.

No you are normal! We are naturally attracted to our cohort. This whole thread is ridiculous. Have you never seen an 80 year old couple in love? They are generally excited about each other!

When you have a lot of mental problems you tend to focus on younger people or trophy partners, so you can prove to yourself you’re not dying soon. Well, guess what, we are all dying pretty soon.

Have fun people, don’t obsess over age!

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I am 54 and I was sad when I turned 50 cause I felt I had gotten “old”.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 54 and I was sad when I turned 50 cause I felt I had gotten “old”.

I’m not looking forward to turning 50. 50 absolutely is old. Anyone who says otherwise is fooling themselves. Sure, maybe next to a 70 year old, you are still young but it is all downhill from 50.