Am I wrong to be upset with DH?

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Anonymous wrote:How come OP never came back?

Because some people don't stay here all day monitoring threads.

How about answering the questions? Who is attending this dinner?

What's up with the aggressive questioning? My DH and I had this on our calendar for quite some time. I file my project at 5 p.m. and dinner was at 6. Basically hitting "send" and then celebrating after a long arduous work journey. It's not a work dinner.

But honestly...your tone is kind of pointlessly rude.

I once had something like that except at 5 the thing didn’t go through and I was there two hours late troubleshooting with IT. It's cutting it close.

I get that it sucks and you're disappointed but his thing isn't changeable. You have some options for Friday. Go home and relax in an empty house with a glass of wine. Use those reservations to go out and celebrate with a friend or colleague. Go to the kid's game and maybe they will even win! Then you can have a nice family dinner celebrating all of you together. Make a new reservation with husband and have another month of looking forward to that dinner.

This is one thing that no one has mentioned, or at least focused on - OP's kid(s) hockey team made the playoffs! They must be very excited, and I'm sure would love to have their mother there. But not only has OP shown *no* inclination to go to the game, she wants the kids' other parent, who also happens to be the head coach of the team, to miss the came as well and attend a previously scheduled *date night,* because she just finished a big work project and has hard-to-get reservations.

That's self-centered on a level you rarely see, even on DCUM.

I agree.

I can't really picture enjoying my date night knowing my kid is playing his exciting playoff game with neither parent there.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t pay $2-5k for my kids top team sport so that the Head Coach can go out to dinner on the sudden death playoff games.
Hell no.

Those kids have been practicing their butts off all year and earned another playoff game. That cannot be rescheduled.

Some overpriced dinner restaurant can be rescheduled.

Op reads like a troll frankly.

Lol

Agree this is likely a Troll post. No family doing 5am rink times, all that gear, all those practices goes AWOL during the end of season playoffs.

Lol

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Anonymous wrote:It is mind-boggling the amount of importance placed on CHILD'S SPORTS. It's just a game with it appears other coaches? Are they inept? Why do other coaches exist if not to help?

Lame troll attempt.

Same BS could be said for one if your 365 dinners a year. It’s just a meal. Boo hoo.

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Btw, where on earth is this where there is a parent hockey coach?

Not around Maryland. No pee wees and up have parent coaches.

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Anonymous wrote:Btw, where on earth is this where there is a parent hockey coach?

Not around Maryland. No pee wees and up have parent coaches.

Caps Academy travel has parent coaches. Several teams are in the playoffs this weekend.

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I don't even know how you would tell your kid this.

"Mom, why aren't you and dad coming to my playoff game?"
"We are celebrating my accomplishments at work over dinner. That is more important"

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Anonymous wrote:He married a narcissist.

+1, if I were op’s spouse this incident would definitely make me lose respect for them and would be hard to forget

It is obvious to all of us, but not to OP who has NPD and hence is a victim in her own mind. Not only does she not have the right to be upset with DH, DH has every right to be upset with her.
Many of us work, many of us have huge projects, but generally our kids come before a dinner.

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"You won't be here for the playoffs game, coach, dad?"
No, we are celebrating mom finishing a work project because if we don't she will narc even more.

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"Narc" is the most juvenile abbreviation ever and also so shallowly demeaning. Yes, professional pride and expecting a bit of household respect for a date set for many months is being a "narc."

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Anonymous wrote:"Narc" is the most juvenile abbreviation ever and also so shallowly demeaning. Yes, professional pride and expecting a bit of household respect for a date set for many months is being a "narc."

Says the NARC!

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I think you are being bratty OP. Reschedule the dinner. The hockey season will clearly end after this game and you can find another weekend night to do it.

DH doesn't owe you anything, or need to make up to you for this. The hockey game scheduling was not up to him.

You sound like a massive diva for not understanding this.

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Anonymous wrote:"Narc" is the most juvenile abbreviation ever and also so shallowly demeaning. Yes, professional pride and expecting a bit of household respect for a date set for many months is being a "narc."

Says the NARC!

I don't like the abbreviation because it sounds like it should be said nark with a hard c whereas it's pronounced with a soft c in the full word!

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Anonymous wrote:It is mind-boggling the amount of importance placed on CHILD'S SPORTS. It's just a game with it appears other coaches? Are they inept? Why do other coaches exist if not to help?

Each coach usually has a specific role they play during a game. In some sports, there is a defensive coach, or a particular one for something else. Also, there are a lot of kids on a team and they usually need multiple adults to wrangle them and have everything go smoothly. What is truly mid-boggling is the fact that OP thinks this special dinner should trump a playoff game.

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Anonymous wrote:"Narc" is the most juvenile abbreviation ever and also so shallowly demeaning. Yes, professional pride and expecting a bit of household respect for a date set for many months is being a "narc."

Off topic, but I obviously don't know what Narc means anymore.

I thought it was somebody that ratted to the police about drugs? Or somebody pretending to be into something so they can get the others in trouble?

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Anonymous wrote:He married a narcissist.

+1, if I were op’s spouse this incident would definitely make me lose respect for them and would be hard to forget

It is obvious to all of us, but not to OP who has NPD and hence is a victim in her own mind. Not only does she not have the right to be upset with DH, DH has every right to be upset with her.
Many of us work, many of us have huge projects, but generally our kids come before a dinner.

She’s that or in the autism spectrum or both. Narc and aspergers