Chill applications thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the parents on here who are congratulating themselves… be careful. Your next kid might need you to be involved. I for one thought I was amazingly chill and so laidback with my first kid, but my second has needed more nudges and has wanted my involvement more. So it might just be your particular kid.

I'm not sure parents are congratulating themselves. My kid did most of the college application process on his own (with strong reminders for deadlines). Other than that, we were not involved other than taking him on college tours that he requested. We were sure of his ability and he made the right decisions for him. He is very happy as a freshman in college. We are proud of him.

That being said, you are absolutely correct that each of our children are different. We will need to be much more involved with our other kids.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

This thread is also a way to reassure parents that applying to college doesn't have to be a source of nonstop conflict and anxiety. There are a ton of posts elsewhere about parents battling their kids over applications, and some of them probably enjoy complaining about it. Years ago, one parent posted about filling out her daughter's applications.

For a lot of us, there's another way, and it minimizes friction while maximizing natural consequences.

This is how I read this thread, too. I find it very reassuring.

Now the threads about top SAT scores, 4.8 GPAs, and 12 APs? Or the threads about how it’s Ivy or bust? Those threads fill me with dread and anxiety. They make me feel that a “mere” state school means that I have failed as a parent.

The relaxed PPs on this thread are my type of people. It’s refreshing to see that not everything has to be hyper-competitive and anxiety-inducing. Thank you, OP.

You are welcome! I knew there were many of us out there, so I figured starting a thread like this could bring us all together. People like us DO exist!! 😂

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

Your "fun" seems to be feeling chill and superior over others. There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

And then you are surprised and affronted when others read your post and find it obnoxious and privileged? Whoops, sorry. Getting upset and rattled when others call you out is decidedly not "chill."

Man, for a bunch of smart educated parents many of you sure are acting stupid.

This thread is for chill people. Not wound up thread monitors. If you don’t have a chill story to share why post at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very few in this thread are familiar with the old saying “don’t count the chickens before they hatch.” Come back in April, op.

Why? My daughters #1 choice has a 78% acceptance rate. As do a few of her other top choices. There’s always a possibility that she won’t get accepted but she’s got tons of options. If she had to do community college for a year that would be ok with me. But I’m guessing she won’t. She’s applying EA to 9 of 10 schools, and if she doesn’t get accepted to any of them we just go RD for a bunch more.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

Your "fun" seems to be feeling chill and superior over others. There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

And then you are surprised and affronted when others read your post and find it obnoxious and privileged? Whoops, sorry. Getting upset and rattled when others call you out is decidedly not "chill."

Man, for a bunch of smart educated parents many of you sure are acting stupid.

This thread is for chill people. Not wound up thread monitors. If you don’t have a chill story to share why post at all?

People who have to post about how chill they are typically aren’t actually chill.

Again, this thread is so premature, like celebrating a victory after the first quarter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I helped my now-college junior with the initial common app, mainly answering questions he didn't know (his father's colleges and degrees, etc.) but didn't even see his essays, didn't prep him for the handful of interviews he did, didn't remind him of deadlines.

And this was not an organized, proactive kid. He just wanted very minimal hand-holding and a sense of accomplishment.

This is op - I guess I helped then. I had to let my daughter know what our degrees were! Didn’t even think of that…😂

I also think my daughter wants a sense of accomplishment out of this. I’m running with it!

I learned that my dad, who lived in our house, had a PhD in chemistry while doing my own college applications. My goal is that the same thing happen to my kid.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

Your "fun" seems to be feeling chill and superior over others. There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

And then you are surprised and affronted when others read your post and find it obnoxious and privileged? Whoops, sorry. Getting upset and rattled when others call you out is decidedly not "chill."

Man, for a bunch of smart educated parents many of you sure are acting stupid.

This thread is for chill people. Not wound up thread monitors. If you don’t have a chill story to share why post at all?

People who have to post about how chill they are typically aren’t actually chill.

Again, this thread is so premature, like celebrating a victory after the first quarter.

I’m going to echo another poster above. My child is applying primarily to schools with 60-70%+ acceptance rates. She’s done very well in high school and has a great chance at all of these schools. She elected not to apply to a single reach. I support this. Our family doesn’t really worry about prestige.

Why do we need to panic about this? How is panicking going to help this process? It won’t make the time to acceptances go quickly, nor will it improve her chances. So we choose not to stress.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

Your "fun" seems to be feeling chill and superior over others. There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

And then you are surprised and affronted when others read your post and find it obnoxious and privileged? Whoops, sorry. Getting upset and rattled when others call you out is decidedly not "chill."

Man, for a bunch of smart educated parents many of you sure are acting stupid.

This thread is for chill people. Not wound up thread monitors. If you don’t have a chill story to share why post at all?

People who have to post about how chill they are typically aren’t actually chill.

Again, this thread is so premature, like celebrating a victory after the first quarter.

Why are you digging your heels in? What do you hope to gain by repeating this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

Your "fun" seems to be feeling chill and superior over others. There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

And then you are surprised and affronted when others read your post and find it obnoxious and privileged? Whoops, sorry. Getting upset and rattled when others call you out is decidedly not "chill."

Man, for a bunch of smart educated parents many of you sure are acting stupid.

This thread is for chill people. Not wound up thread monitors. If you don’t have a chill story to share why post at all?

People who have to post about how chill they are typically aren’t actually chill.

Again, this thread is so premature, like celebrating a victory after the first quarter.

You’ve internalized the COLLEGE ADMISSIONS IS RUTHLESSLY COMPETITIVE mindset so much you come to a thread where people are posing their kids are applying to schools that take 80% of applicants and are test blind and are saying it’s a premature celebration, SOMETHING WILL DEFINITELY GO WRONG BECAUSE NOBODY EVER GETS IN ANYWHERE.

My brother, if your college list is Radford, CNU, and George Mason - and you have a B+ average or better and $100k in the 529 then it’s all set, go ahead and start picking out dorm decor.

[Anonymous]

This thread is a bit sad its not about being "chill" its about disengaged parents and disengaged kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a bit sad its not about being "chill" its about disengaged parents and disengaged kids.

You can assume that we are disengaged, and you would be very wrong. We simply value something different than you.

I’m very engaged when it comes to raising a healthy, mature, responsible, and happy child. She can be that at a state university. What would some big-name elite school give her that a state university can’t? Nothing that our family cares about.

So, we are chill about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a bit sad its not about being "chill" its about disengaged parents and disengaged kids.

No it’s not. But I realize you need to keep telling yourself to rationalize your choices, so have at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that private school parents can sit back and chill more because of the hands on help from their counselors. Public school parents have to fill in.

I’m a chill PP from page 1 and my kid went to a big public school. I went to a “big 3” where the college counselor was no help and said I’d never get into my first choice, which I then did anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

I can have a lot of fun with the $25K per year my kid got in merit aid for not being desperate to attend the reachiest reach that ever reached.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

Your "fun" seems to be feeling chill and superior over others. There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

And then you are surprised and affronted when others read your post and find it obnoxious and privileged? Whoops, sorry. Getting upset and rattled when others call you out is decidedly not "chill."

Man, for a bunch of smart educated parents many of you sure are acting stupid.

This thread is for chill people. Not wound up thread monitors. If you don’t have a chill story to share why post at all?

People who have to post about how chill they are typically aren’t actually chill.

Again, this thread is so premature, like celebrating a victory after the first quarter.

You’ve internalized the COLLEGE ADMISSIONS IS RUTHLESSLY COMPETITIVE mindset so much you come to a thread where people are posing their kids are applying to schools that take 80% of applicants and are test blind and are saying it’s a premature celebration, SOMETHING WILL DEFINITELY GO WRONG BECAUSE NOBODY EVER GETS IN ANYWHERE.

My brother, if your college list is Radford, CNU, and George Mason - and you have a B+ average or better and $100k in the 529 then it’s all set, go ahead and start picking out dorm decor.

but it's not close to the list