Chill applications thread

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM where good ideas go to get mocked mercilessly and die...

Only at the hands of those wound ridiculously tight. This thread was clearly not for them. Let the rest of us have our fun!

What fun would that be?

There is no point to this thread other than to post self-congratulatory anecdotes about how relaxed, cool you and your kids are and how well you are doing.

This thread is also a way to reassure parents that applying to college doesn't have to be a source of nonstop conflict and anxiety. There are a ton of posts elsewhere about parents battling their kids over applications, and some of them probably enjoy complaining about it. Years ago, one parent posted about filling out her daughter's applications.

For a lot of us, there's another way, and it minimizes friction while maximizing natural consequences.

This is how I read this thread, too. I find it very reassuring.

Now the threads about top SAT scores, 4.8 GPAs, and 12 APs? Or the threads about how it’s Ivy or bust? Those threads fill me with dread and anxiety. They make me feel that a “mere” state school means that I have failed as a parent.

The relaxed PPs on this thread are my type of people. It’s refreshing to see that not everything has to be hyper-competitive and anxiety-inducing. Thank you, OP.

You are welcome! I knew there were many of us out there, so I figured starting a thread like this could bring us all together. People like us DO exist!! 😂

Right, many of you out there who think you are the best parents in the world, when in reality, you were lucky enough not to have children with ADHD or a learning disability, for starters. The ableism on DCUM will never cease to amaze me. I hope at least you are spending some time effectively parenting and teaching your children the importance of sympathy.

One of the best posts I have read on this DCUM in years.

+1000 SO many parents assume they are great parents just because they got an easy kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Why am I looking at the college forums? Because sometimes I like laughing and shaking my head at the kind of insecure people who ask stupid questions like, "should we not submit a 1500 sat score?" Or, "my younger son only has an UW 3.7 from a top 20 private school. What will he do with his life because he can't go to Princeton like his older brother?"

I find it tragi-comical that you can have such high-achieving kids and still make them feel like they failed.

And all of us who find of smirking self-satisfied and also super defensive OP who started this thread to be
tragi-comic" as well, please raise your hand!

OP if you are so chill and happy with your great calm, self-sufficient child (and with your ability to have no worries about the process financial or otherwise) why are you getting upset? You may be chill, but your insecurity is apparent in all your shrill defensive responses asking us to "just allow you" to have your self-congratulatory back-slapping party that judges OTHERS. You also show no ability to self reflect when others explain they are on this forum because they may have pressures (money problems, kids with learning challenges, lack of experience with the process) that you do not.

I'm not the OP, but I think you're so busy attacking them that you're missing the point.

As parents of course we all worry about all of that crap. Affording college. Will our kids get in. Will they be happy. Etc. It's just that for some of us it's not thunderdome.

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Anonymous wrote:Why am I looking at the college forums? Because sometimes I like laughing and shaking my head at the kind of insecure people who ask stupid questions like, "should we not submit a 1500 sat score?" Or, "my younger son only has an UW 3.7 from a top 20 private school. What will he do with his life because he can't go to Princeton like his older brother?"

I find it tragi-comical that you can have such high-achieving kids and still make them feel like they failed.

And all of us who find of smirking self-satisfied and also super defensive OP who started this thread to be
tragi-comic" as well, please raise your hand!

OP if you are so chill and happy with your great calm, self-sufficient child (and with your ability to have no worries about the process financial or otherwise) why are you getting upset? You may be chill, but your insecurity is apparent in all your shrill defensive responses asking us to "just allow you" to have your self-congratulatory back-slapping party that judges OTHERS. You also show no ability to self reflect when others explain they are on this forum because they may have pressures (money problems, kids with learning challenges, lack of experience with the process) that you do not.

There are plenty of other threads for you in this forum. Why do you need to post this on a thread that is clearly not for you? If you’re not chill about applications, why crap on those of us who are? Find a thread full of people with kids with learning challenges or money problems or whatever and have at it. No one is taking that away from you.

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Anonymous wrote:Very few in this thread are familiar with the old saying “don’t count the chickens before they hatch.” Come back in April, op.

OP here with an update for other chill parents -
DD was accepted to her top choice with $15K scholarship and is THRILLED. This was an EA app at a school with rolling admissions so she just found out 2 days ago. She has 9 more apps in but to her, they’re now just a bonus if she gets in (there is one school she’d probably choose over this acceptance if she got in, but with an acceptance rate of <15% she knows it really isn’t an option).

Chill parents, continue to not stress! We got this!

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Congrats!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Very few in this thread are familiar with the old saying “don’t count the chickens before they hatch.” Come back in April, op.

OP here with an update for other chill parents -
DD was accepted to her top choice with $15K scholarship and is THRILLED. This was an EA app at a school with rolling admissions so she just found out 2 days ago. She has 9 more apps in but to her, they’re now just a bonus if she gets in (there is one school she’d probably choose over this acceptance if she got in, but with an acceptance rate of <15% she knows it really isn’t an option).

Chill parents, continue to not stress! We got this!

And there it is....the point of this thread- so Chill OP can brag and lord it over the non-chill lesser parents. My kid is are not applying to any places that are rolling. They have worked hard and their college list reflects that. We hope for merit aid in the regular round. Do you honestly think you are doing a great job parenting just bc encouraged your child to go for a rolling easy admit? I'm genuinely happy for your child if they are happy about this option- that's great. But making other parents feel like they are doing something wrong if they worry is ALL OVER your tone in ALL of your posts. It's really not chill or cool. And you completely ignore the fact that CHILL or not, for some families is does not work out. In the end unfortunately some people DON'T "have this."

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Anonymous wrote:Very few in this thread are familiar with the old saying “don’t count the chickens before they hatch.” Come back in April, op.

OP here with an update for other chill parents -
DD was accepted to her top choice with $15K scholarship and is THRILLED. This was an EA app at a school with rolling admissions so she just found out 2 days ago. She has 9 more apps in but to her, they’re now just a bonus if she gets in (there is one school she’d probably choose over this acceptance if she got in, but with an acceptance rate of <15% she knows it really isn’t an option).

Chill parents, continue to not stress! We got this!

CongratsOP!

It is nice to have "early acceptances", especially for a top choice.

With my kid they had 2 EA acceptances before xmas both with excellent merit (one with top notch merit) and that helped take the sting out of the ED rejection and let the holidays be relaxing when you know you are in at several of your "top choices" (for my kid it was their Top safety which they really loved and what because their 2nd choice ultimately). As our CC said--"congrats, you are going to college next fall" After that, the waiting for the other schools doesn't matter as much. That is why I encourage everyone I know to apply to a rolling admission and a few EA that let you know in Dec/early Jan. Definatley takes the pressure off

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It may just be me, but I find it kinda sad how many people have said they haven’t read their DC’s common app essay.

The whole point is to write about yourself. It’s like not looking at your 2nd grader’s all-about-me poster. Aren’t you curious to see how they express themselves?