Was having kids worth the risk it took on your looks?

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Anonymous wrote:Wondering. Lot of women gain a lot of weight they can't lose after a baby. Some I see with gray or white hair immediately after or while pregnant. Melasma and new wrinkles. I'd like kids but wondering if the reason most celebrities use surrogates is because they don't want a baby to wreck their body. A lot of celebs over 30 are using surrogates.

Looks fade with or without kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Sophie Turner has two kids and a killer body.

I don’t think stars are using surrogates unless they truly can’t get pregnant. I do t think Prianka Chopra would have used a surrogate if she could conceive naturally. In that way it’s similar to regular people. The only reason it looks more common because celebrities don’t face the same financial limitations that regular people do.

Explain Amber Heard then

Amber Heard has not confirmed (she should not have to, btw) but the media reported that she could not carry a child

There are many more stars who gave birth so you can't use one surrogacy example as proof of anything, especially when we aren't privy to Amber Heard's reasons. What about Sophie Turner? What about Gwyneth Paltrow? What about Serena Williams? What about Tori Spelling? What about Jennifer Garner? What about Olivia Wilde? What about Jennifer Lawrence?

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Yes bc I never got fat during pregnancies. I only gained 10lbs each pregnancy and was back in my regular jeans 2 weeks after each c section.

I'm now in perimeno and still weigh the same. It's all about lifestyle, overall health, diet, exercise, and genetics. Everyone on my Mother's side of the family are naturally thin. My kids are thin too.

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Also I still don't have gray hair or wrinkles. Sunscreen is so important.

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Honestly, OP, you don't sound like you're cut out for motherhood.
-signed a 45 year old mother of 2 who still looks good

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Anonymous wrote:Also I still don't have gray hair or wrinkles. Sunscreen is so important.

Gray hair is genetic. Sunscreen helps.

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Anonymous wrote:Sophie Turner has two kids and a killer body.

I don’t think stars are using surrogates unless they truly can’t get pregnant. I do t think Prianka Chopra would have used a surrogate if she could conceive naturally. In that way it’s similar to regular people. The only reason it looks more common because celebrities don’t face the same financial limitations that regular people do.

Explain Amber Heard then

Amber Heard has not confirmed (she should not have to, btw) but the media reported that she could not carry a child

All these celebrities under 40 can't carry one? I heard that she didn't want to take time off from work.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, OP, you don't sound like you're cut out for motherhood.
-signed a 45 year old mother of 2 who still looks good

Honestly Anonymous, you sound like a critical tool and did a disservice to the world birthing those kids.
-signed someone with an open mind who reads before responding

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Anonymous wrote:Of course it is worth it! But not everyone looks like a train wreck after.

I had no trouble losing the weight and getting back in shape. My only motherhood scars are a couple lower abdomen stretch marks and a small varicose vein in my leg. Otherwise, I think I look great for 40 and am aging just as I would otherwise

You literally have no way of knowing this.

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Anonymous wrote:I lost the weight very quickly after each pregnancy. I have a few childless by choice friends and we are all 50 and I have, by far, aged the best out if the group.

If you do say so yourself!

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Anonymous wrote:Of course it is worth it! But not everyone looks like a train wreck after.

I had no trouble losing the weight and getting back in shape. My only motherhood scars are a couple lower abdomen stretch marks and a small varicose vein in my leg. Otherwise, I think I look great for 40 and am aging just as I would otherwise

You literally have no way of knowing this.

There are no 80 year olds who look 28.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course it is worth it! But not everyone looks like a train wreck after.

I had no trouble losing the weight and getting back in shape. My only motherhood scars are a couple lower abdomen stretch marks and a small varicose vein in my leg. Otherwise, I think I look great for 40 and am aging just as I would otherwise

You literally have no way of knowing this.

There are no 80 year olds who look 28.

Straw man, weak.

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Anonymous wrote:For me, there was no question. I always wanted kids and am happy to have them. I also got lucky and got two awesome kids.

But, seriously, if you are even asking this question, just don't have kids. Your priorities are screwed up. If you were asking about risks to your -health- and the changes that can happen with pregnancy to your health, that would be one thing. But your looks? Nope. Don't have kids. Just do what you do best and focus on yourself.

+1 to all of this. If you are even asking this question, do not have children.

Disagree. It’s okay to be vain and prioritize looks and still have kids.

Assuming you are one of these vain people, did worries about your looks even factor into your *decision-making* about having kids? No one is saying a person who places value on their own appearance cannot be a good parent. But that is not what OP was asking.

OP here. Nowhere did I say it factored into MY decision making process. I asked if it factored into other women's decision making process because I have seen women look aged as much as 10 or 15 yrs older than their ages. I looked like a kid next to them and I'm probably older than them.

What's the end game here? Do you want to look back when you're in your eighties to say you looked better than your friends with kids when you were 40?

My childless friends who spent too much time in the sun look older than those with kids who avoided the sun. Those who smoke and drank look older. Some of my childless friends have white hair, some friends with kids aren't even using hair dye. Some of my friends with dark hair were going grey in high school, way before kids.

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Anonymous wrote:It's absolutely worth it, and people are absolutely kidding themselves when they say they've aged the same way as childless women. The sleep factor alone is huge.

In the little kid years that’s true but it all catches up in your 50s.

No way. There was a childfree woman at my gym that I thought was 32 yrs old max. Someone told her she would lose her physique after she had kids and to “wait until you also hit menopause.” She responded saying she is 55 and post menopause. Mic drop. I would not have believed it in a million years but is true. Totally shut down that conversation. 😁

How do you know it’s true?

Because I was there and witnessed the conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:It's absolutely worth it, and people are absolutely kidding themselves when they say they've aged the same way as childless women. The sleep factor alone is huge.

In the little kid years that’s true but it all catches up in your 50s.

No way. There was a childfree woman at my gym that I thought was 32 yrs old max. Someone told her she would lose her physique after she had kids and to “wait until you also hit menopause.” She responded saying she is 55 and post menopause. Mic drop. I would not have believed it in a million years but is true. Totally shut down that conversation. 😁

It's called the genetic lottery. That woman would probably look fantastic with kids too.

No. You need to take care of yourself to do this. Even with good genetics you can look like crap if you don’t take care of yourself.