Where are people’s manners?

[Anonymous]

OP, lately of BYOSnacks fame, and previously known for her obsession with vacation bacon, has earned herself the title of:

The Baconator

Welcome to the DCUM Hall of Fame, The Baconator. You’ve earned your place next to Burger King Lady, Bobcat Girl, Boring Water, Lightly Fried Tuna, and Burgundy Washcloth.

[Anonymous]

You wrote that you " invited " this family to spend the day with you OP. Either you do not know what the word "invite" means or you had an improper upbringing or both. A proper host provides refreshments. There is no problem if you cannot afford them or are too miserly to provide them. Then, do not " invite" people to join you. Where did you grow up OP? How old? What economic class?

My DH + I were " invited" to someone's beach house for a few days. I bought a huge gift basket with food, wines, etc. to present to the hosts. Instead of offering any thanks whatsoever, the guy who was my husband's friend and who I had never met, pulled me aside to ask me for money for food ( not my husband).it was terrible.. He should have given us an invoice in advance and set our expectations about what everyone was to pay for.

If I " invite" someone to something, I pay; otherwise I do not invite them.

[Anonymous]

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+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

Is this really that rude?
I can imagine doing this if my kids were bored. Letting them go watch TV in one of the bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids eat afternoon snacks. They don't go from lunch to dinner without a snack.

First of all, these are older kids, age 11 and 14 and not toddlers and they can go without snacks.

Second of all, I told the parents to bring snacks and they didn’t’. These two kids literally ate every snack we had. Like locusts.

So roll your eyes (rightfully, by the way) and go to the store for more snacks. Life is too short to let this affect you.

No, you go to the store. I’m on vacation and it’s not my responsibility to feed your family.

Then don’t invite my family over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids eat afternoon snacks. They don't go from lunch to dinner without a snack.

First of all, these are older kids, age 11 and 14 and not toddlers and they can go without snacks.

Second of all, I told the parents to bring snacks and they didn’t’. These two kids literally ate every snack we had. Like locusts.

So roll your eyes (rightfully, by the way) and go to the store for more snacks. Life is too short to let this affect you.

No, you go to the store. I’m on vacation and it’s not my responsibility to feed your family.

Would the other family refuse go to the store to get more food when you asked them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, lately of BYOSnacks fame, and previously known for her obsession with vacation bacon, has earned herself the title of:

The Baconator

Welcome to the DCUM Hall of Fame, The Baconator. You’ve earned your place next to Burger King Lady, Bobcat Girl, Boring Water, Lightly Fried Tuna, and Burgundy Washcloth.

I want to know about this one. Did they go on about water being boring to drink? Or did someone take them on a nice vacation to Nevis and they found the ocean boring to look at? What was it???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, lately of BYOSnacks fame, and previously known for her obsession with vacation bacon, has earned herself the title of:

The Baconator

Welcome to the DCUM Hall of Fame, The Baconator. You’ve earned your place next to Burger King Lady, Bobcat Girl, Boring Water, Lightly Fried Tuna, and Burgundy Washcloth.

I want to know about this one. Did they go on about water being boring to drink? Or did someone take them on a nice vacation to Nevis and they found the ocean boring to look at? What was it???

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/715974.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, lately of BYOSnacks fame, and previously known for her obsession with vacation bacon, has earned herself the title of:

The Baconator

Welcome to the DCUM Hall of Fame, The Baconator. You’ve earned your place next to Burger King Lady, Bobcat Girl, Boring Water, Lightly Fried Tuna, and Burgundy Washcloth.

I want to know about this one. Did they go on about water being boring to drink? Or did someone take them on a nice vacation to Nevis and they found the ocean boring to look at? What was it???

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/715974.page

Well, now I know what I’m going to read before bed . Thanks for posting, pp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the eleven year old felt unwelcome. She picked up on your angry vibe. Needed to get away from you.

What a ridiculous comment.

[Anonymous]

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Admittedly, we rarely travel with other families who aren’t related to us, but we always load up on food (a mix of healthy and junk) and the goal is for everyone to help themselves.

I can’t imagine baking muffins and only giving them to my kids while others watch.

Let me clarify. You are saying that when your family lets say of 3 travels, you make breakfast and lunch for 10 people very day to share everything?

This sounds like bs.

We do what pp does; we all get get groceries for the house and people make their own breakfast/lunch/snacks and generally we take turns making dinner (each family does 1 night or something like that).

Anyway, it sounds like op really dislikes these kids and that the family was not being considerate. That said, why on earth would you be so strict about snacks? Is it a money issue? It doesn’t seem like a big deal to share snacks with hungry guests and it’s so rude and strange to insist guests byo snacks so they don’t touch yours. How was this even communicated?

She said their kids ate ALL of the snacks they had. That is rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids eat afternoon snacks. They don't go from lunch to dinner without a snack.

First of all, these are older kids, age 11 and 14 and not toddlers and they can go without snacks.

Second of all, I told the parents to bring snacks and they didn’t’. These two kids literally ate every snack we had. Like locusts.

So roll your eyes (rightfully, by the way) and go to the store for more snacks. Life is too short to let this affect you.

No, you go to the store. I’m on vacation and it’s not my responsibility to feed your family.

100%. They were invited for dinner and took advantage. They sound like parasites.

[Anonymous]

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+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

Is this really that rude?
I can imagine doing this if my kids were bored. Letting them go watch TV in one of the bedrooms.

Yes that is rude. Op and the other family paid for the cabin. You assume the space is like their home particularly the bedrooms. Would you just go into op’s bedroom at home and make your kid comfortable?

[Anonymous]

Can someone link the bacon thread??

I think both sides were rude, but most rudeness goes to the OP. If you are too poor to provide appropriate food, do not invite anyone!! When you invite someone over, you are expected to provide food. You should have had food and drinks out at arrival to greet them and thank them for making the drive! If you have a bunch of snacks out and they still went searching thru the fridge, that would have been rude. And you would have been within your boundaries to ask them to please leave the yogurt/bacon/cheese because that’s for breakfast, but please help yourself to fruit, crackers, chips and Queso etc from the spread you laid out on the counter. And the guests were rude for not showing up with anything either! They should have brought wine or baked goods or some other food as a hostess gift.

Floaties are for everyone’s use. Unless they stole something out of the hands of your tiny children, it’s all fair game.

The bed thing is iffy. Were there no other TVs she could watch? The towel thing seem like they were trying to be considerate for you and not get the bed dirty! I think it’s rude they didn’t ask first, but you saying no would have been just as rude. It sounds like you were enjoying talking with this family so you benefited by the girl finding someplace to hang out. If you found her going thru your makeup bag or making a mess of the sheets, then yeah, that’s not cool. But just sitting on a rented piece of furniture, on a towel to keep it clean, it’s fine.

I don’t have a dog and don’t get it. Do you also have a dog with dog food? Could you not spare a scoop for hungry rover? I assume it’s like diapers when I had a baby - I usually carried them with me everywhere, but if I went to a friends house with a same age baby, I would assume I could use one of her kids diapers.

I am so thrown off by the not sharing breakfast and lunch food. I’ve taken many many many beach and weekend trips with friends and all food is basically communal and we always have WAY too much. I bring a box of instant oatmeal my kids like, but a friends kids has some while mine has some of the eggs a different family makes for their kids and DH eats a muffin another family brought. Why would we want to take a trip with families and then count out every granola bar and egg?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the eleven year old felt unwelcome. She picked up on your angry vibe. Needed to get away from you.

What a ridiculous comment.

Not really. The kid was probably chastised for eating some goldfish, stealing a pool noodle, and letting her poor dog STARVE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

+2. Was it a house or a cabin? The third family was driving up for the day and yet their kid was lying down on a bed at 8:30pm? What time were they driving home?

Does it matter what you call it - house or cabin?

The kids ate and the girl was bored after that. She announced she was ready to go home. Her parents were not ready.

So her mom took her to our bedroom and turned the TV on.

They left around 10.

Any more details you want to know?

Is this really that rude?
I can imagine doing this if my kids were bored. Letting them go watch TV in one of the bedrooms.

Yes that is rude. Op and the other family paid for the cabin. You assume the space is like their home particularly the bedrooms. Would you just go into op’s bedroom at home and make your kid comfortable?

Well, yeah. If that was the only television in the house.
I mean, I wouldn’t go in the OP’s room. I don’t know her. But I would go in my friend’s room or my sister’s room.
I mean, I would ask if they were right there, but I wouldn’t go looking for them or call them if they were out. I would assume it was ok.