Where are people’s manners?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You wrote that you " invited " this family to spend the day with you OP. Either you do not know what the word "invite" means or you had an improper upbringing or both. A proper host provides refreshments. There is no problem if you cannot afford them or are too miserly to provide them. Then, do not " invite" people to join you. Where did you grow up OP? How old? What economic class?

My DH + I were " invited" to someone's beach house for a few days. I bought a huge gift basket with food, wines, etc. to present to the hosts. Instead of offering any thanks whatsoever, the guy who was my husband's friend and who I had never met, pulled me aside to ask me for money for food ( not my husband).it was terrible.. He should have given us an invoice in advance and set our expectations about what everyone was to pay for.

If I " invite" someone to something, I pay; otherwise I do not invite them.

You went on vacation with someone you’d never met? Bold!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You wrote that you " invited " this family to spend the day with you OP. Either you do not know what the word "invite" means or you had an improper upbringing or both. A proper host provides refreshments. There is no problem if you cannot afford them or are too miserly to provide them. Then, do not " invite" people to join you. Where did you grow up OP? How old? What economic class?

My DH + I were " invited" to someone's beach house for a few days. I bought a huge gift basket with food, wines, etc. to present to the hosts. Instead of offering any thanks whatsoever, the guy who was my husband's friend and who I had never met, pulled me aside to ask me for money for food ( not my husband).it was terrible.. He should have given us an invoice in advance and set our expectations about what everyone was to pay for.

If I " invite" someone to something, I pay; otherwise I do not invite them.

You went on vacation with someone you’d never met? Bold!

I think the husbands are the friends. Also it's pretty outing. Although husband asking the wife he just met for money prob does not read DCUM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, lately of BYOSnacks fame, and previously known for her obsession with vacation bacon, has earned herself the title of:

The Baconator

Welcome to the DCUM Hall of Fame, The Baconator. You’ve earned your place next to Burger King Lady, Bobcat Girl, Boring Water, Lightly Fried Tuna, and Burgundy Washcloth.

Someone would be a DCUM saint if they could post links to all of these threads so I could have some good pool reading today, LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You wrote that you " invited " this family to spend the day with you OP. Either you do not know what the word "invite" means or you had an improper upbringing or both. A proper host provides refreshments. There is no problem if you cannot afford them or are too miserly to provide them. Then, do not " invite" people to join you. Where did you grow up OP? How old? What economic class?

My DH + I were " invited" to someone's beach house for a few days. I bought a huge gift basket with food, wines, etc. to present to the hosts. Instead of offering any thanks whatsoever, the guy who was my husband's friend and who I had never met, pulled me aside to ask me for money for food ( not my husband).it was terrible.. He should have given us an invoice in advance and set our expectations about what everyone was to pay for.

If I " invite" someone to something, I pay; otherwise I do not invite them.

Families share the cost of renting a beach house house together and they share the cost of food.

Why would someone invite you to stay for free at their beach rental and feed you for free? Are you struggling financially and this is a charity act?

In this case, they were not invited to stay at the house, but to swim at the lake and share dinner which was also outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Is this really that rude?
I can imagine doing this if my kids were bored. Letting them go watch TV in one of the bedrooms.

Were you raised in a barn?

I can’t imagine being invited to someone’s property and then sneaking in master bedroom and propping myself on their bed to watch TV.

Do you feel your kids are entitled to everything? They can’t handle a couple of hours not being entertained? You are what’s wrong with our society.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s equally rude to invite people over for the day and tell them to bring their own snacks and dinner for potluck. Their behavior isn’t great but this is crazy host behavior especially while criticizing them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s equally rude to invite people over for the day and tell them to bring their own snacks and dinner for potluck. Their behavior isn’t great but this is crazy host behavior especially while criticizing them.

It’s not crazy. All our dinners are like this where every family brings something to the dinner. We split up who will provide protein and who will bring side dishes. What’s crazy about that? Why should one person cook for 15-20 people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s really missing here is the following:

1. Full accounting of the snacks, what was eaten, and when

2. More about the dog

3. Which child, 11 or 14, was put into the bedroom to chill? How did this happen?

and borrowed floaties.... like the little arm things when you can't swim well????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s equally rude to invite people over for the day and tell them to bring their own snacks and dinner for potluck. Their behavior isn’t great but this is crazy host behavior especially while criticizing them.

It’s not crazy. All our dinners are like this where every family brings something to the dinner. We split up who will provide protein and who will bring side dishes. What’s crazy about that? Why should one person cook for 15-20 people?

It’s kinda lame, sorry. They invited over a family of 4 and couldn’t provide dinner? Why bother inviting people then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s equally rude to invite people over for the day and tell them to bring their own snacks and dinner for potluck. Their behavior isn’t great but this is crazy host behavior especially while criticizing them.

It’s not crazy. All our dinners are like this where every family brings something to the dinner. We split up who will provide protein and who will bring side dishes. What’s crazy about that? Why should one person cook for 15-20 people?

It’s kinda lame, sorry. They invited over a family of 4 and couldn’t provide dinner? Why bother inviting people then.

They are ill bred people.

[Anonymous]

ICYMI: pool toys are for everyone. They are universally known to be communal property.

Didn’t you teach your kids that when they were little? Anytime we went to the neighborhood pool I brought extra toys and reminded my little ones that anything we brought to the pool would be shared.

As an adult hosting guests at a vacation home, you let the other kid use the item for 15 minutes and then you let the other parent know that your Larla shared her floaties with Johnny and now she would like to have a turn.

Adulting really isn’t hard…

[Anonymous]

OP, are you aware that you can request this thread be closed?

This is dumb piling on at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, lately of BYOSnacks fame, and previously known for her obsession with vacation bacon, has earned herself the title of:

The Baconator

Welcome to the DCUM Hall of Fame, The Baconator. You’ve earned your place next to Burger King Lady, Bobcat Girl, Boring Water, Lightly Fried Tuna, and Burgundy Washcloth.

Someone would be a DCUM saint if they could post links to all of these threads so I could have some good pool reading today, LOL.

Lotsa, lotsa links in this thread https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/433826.page
Remember your sunscreen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ICYMI: pool toys are for everyone. They are universally known to be communal property.

Didn’t you teach your kids that when they were little? Anytime we went to the neighborhood pool I brought extra toys and reminded my little ones that anything we brought to the pool would be shared.

As an adult hosting guests at a vacation home, you let the other kid use the item for 15 minutes and then you let the other parent know that your Larla shared her floaties with Johnny and now she would like to have a turn.

Adulting really isn’t hard…

First of all, these are not little kids. These are teenagers and they don’t take turns.

Secondly, not in our pool. Who told you others’ pool toys are yours to take?

You have no concept of personal boundaries, do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ICYMI: pool toys are for everyone. They are universally known to be communal property.

Didn’t you teach your kids that when they were little? Anytime we went to the neighborhood pool I brought extra toys and reminded my little ones that anything we brought to the pool would be shared.

As an adult hosting guests at a vacation home, you let the other kid use the item for 15 minutes and then you let the other parent know that your Larla shared her floaties with Johnny and now she would like to have a turn.

Adulting really isn’t hard…

First of all, these are not little kids. These are teenagers and they don’t take turns.

Secondly, not in our pool. Who told you others’ pool toys are yours to take?

You have no concept of personal boundaries, do you?

Please tell us what really happened.

If a kid you invited to your house used a pool toy, why not let him use it for a while and then ask for it back so Larla can use it?

I get it…you only have one child, so you don’t really understand the concept of sharing in a group dynamic. But it is thing…especially when you have a group of kids.

Another question: do you belong to a country club or neighborhood pool? Do you sit in a corner and avoid interacting with others? It’s normal for little kids to play together and share toys rather than play alone.