If you get Starbucks with your kids present, do you always buy Starbucks for your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

Right. Totally agree. Now, if I stop for a coffee and my kid wanted an herbal tea or a white milk, sure. But I’m not buying them processed garbage because I stopped for a black coffee.

[Anonymous]

That’s rude. We have made the rule that kids can order drinks anytime adults do. (We made this because they always wanted to order sodas with meals, not because I want to order drinks without them). It makes us think more about our own habits - do I need this $20 cocktail, because it means the kids get soda also?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

Right. Totally agree. Now, if I stop for a coffee and my kid wanted an herbal tea or a white milk, sure. But I’m not buying them processed garbage because I stopped for a black coffee.

Y'all sound like addicts all "Coffee isn't a treat, it's an important adult beverage I am getting out of necessity. No of course you may not have something enjoyable during this excursion -- do you see me enjoying this coffee? No. I am simply mainlining straight, black coffee in order to function as a human being. My substance dependency is an adult matter and has nothing to do with you. No, you may not have a freaking cake pop, Larla, please stop asking."

Coffee is 100% a treat and it's worse for you than a little bit of processed sugar is for your kid, but anyway...

[Anonymous]

I don’t judge you, OP, I promise, but I would never. They have kids’ hot chocolates for cheap. Maybe if they wanted something fancier I’d make them pay with their own money but I wouldn’t just order something in front of them and just let them go without while I enjoyed my beverage.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t do this to my kids even when they become adults. That’s very strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Starbucks is a treat because it's not a necessity (like groceries, or meals at mealtime). I would get my kid something at Starbucks but I might put parameters on it. Like maybe they can get a small tea but not a XXL milkshake.

It’s a necessity if I’m out and didn’t have time to make coffee this am.

I’m getting coffee. No you're not getting anything.

No, coffee is not a necessity. Perhaps you don't understand the meaning of the word?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I was getting something utilitarian like a drip coffee to start the day, I wouldn't necessarily get my kids something because coffee is for adults.

European here - disagree with pretty much everything in this sentence.

[Anonymous]

I think it's not that a parent can't decide that the child should/shouldn't have something, it's the idea of going to a place and only getting something for yourself. That to me is weird. It also teaches weird values. TO ME. YMMV

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

Right. Totally agree. Now, if I stop for a coffee and my kid wanted an herbal tea or a white milk, sure. But I’m not buying them processed garbage because I stopped for a black coffee.

The irony in that you won't give your kid "processed garbage" but act like Starbucks black coffee is some natural elixir. You probably also buy "organic" at the food store and think you are super healthy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

Right. Totally agree. Now, if I stop for a coffee and my kid wanted an herbal tea or a white milk, sure. But I’m not buying them processed garbage because I stopped for a black coffee.

Y'all sound like addicts all "Coffee isn't a treat, it's an important adult beverage I am getting out of necessity. No of course you may not have something enjoyable during this excursion -- do you see me enjoying this coffee? No. I am simply mainlining straight, black coffee in order to function as a human being. My substance dependency is an adult matter and has nothing to do with you. No, you may not have a freaking cake pop, Larla, please stop asking."

Coffee is 100% a treat and it's worse for you than a little bit of processed sugar is for your kid, but anyway...

Coffee is actually good for you and way better than sugar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's not that a parent can't decide that the child should/shouldn't have something, it's the idea of going to a place and only getting something for yourself. That to me is weird. It also teaches weird values. TO ME. YMMV

Agree with this. If I go with a friend or coworker, I would offer to get them something. If I went and someone went with me an didn't get something, it would be weird.

I think it's the perspective of how you view your kids. Are they just an extension of you to be dragged around to watch you drink your "black coffee" (as if that's better than a latte or whatever) or are they actual people who you should show consideration and respect.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

Right. Totally agree. Now, if I stop for a coffee and my kid wanted an herbal tea or a white milk, sure. But I’m not buying them processed garbage because I stopped for a black coffee.

Y'all sound like addicts all "Coffee isn't a treat, it's an important adult beverage I am getting out of necessity. No of course you may not have something enjoyable during this excursion -- do you see me enjoying this coffee? No. I am simply mainlining straight, black coffee in order to function as a human being. My substance dependency is an adult matter and has nothing to do with you. No, you may not have a freaking cake pop, Larla, please stop asking."

Coffee is 100% a treat and it's worse for you than a little bit of processed sugar is for your kid, but anyway...

Coffee is actually good for you and way better than sugar.

Coffee is better than sugar - fact.
Coffee is actually good for you is one of the most ignorant things I've seen on DCUM. And I've been here since it was a local listserv.

[Anonymous]

I don't see the problem. Isn't that what exactly what allowance/savings are for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have food or drink (whatever it is) and your family or guests are there, you should offer to share. This is why I often save my treats to eat after they are asleep. I would just skip SB if my kids are present but I don’t want to buy for them.

Coffee isn’t a treat. It’s for adults like alcohol. I made it abundant clear since my kids were toddlers: no caffeinated drinks until you’re done growing. That’s how I grew up and I don’t see any problem with it. So no, I’m not buying you any sugary garbage just because I’m getting my coffee.

Right. Totally agree. Now, if I stop for a coffee and my kid wanted an herbal tea or a white milk, sure. But I’m not buying them processed garbage because I stopped for a black coffee.

Using your logic decaf coffee with milk should be an option.

[Anonymous]

My kids don't drink coffee.