Running moms ragged with Teacher Appreciation right before Mother’s Day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I admittedly didn’t read all 8 pages here, but I’m confused about the relationship between teacher appreciation week and Mother’s Day. My husband sat with my kid to make cards. He venmoed the room mom money for the class gift. And I don’t do a thing for Mother’s Day, he does. We’re only martyrs if we want to be.

Room MOM. What is she doing then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every. Year.

Every year, someone starts this thread.

Every year, Teacher Appreciation Week is just before Mother’s Day.

Every. Year.

So plan for it. Buy whatever in February, write a note and stick it in your tickler file. Send it in for Teacher Appreciation Week and then do whatever else you feel like doing that week. No one is forcing you.

So much whining.

Every year. Every YEAR. Every year, apparently, you click into a thread you think is whining/beneath you, and you make it longer. You’re sooo above it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are all you moms doing all the work? Where are the kids’ dads?

You are doing this wrong.

My husband died six months ago. Any other questions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I admittedly didn’t read all 8 pages here, but I’m confused about the relationship between teacher appreciation week and Mother’s Day. My husband sat with my kid to make cards. He venmoed the room mom money for the class gift. And I don’t do a thing for Mother’s Day, he does. We’re only martyrs if we want to be.

Oh, sweetie. You tried so hard to make your little point, but all your roads led back to a Room Mom, eh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are all you moms doing all the work? Where are the kids’ dads?

You are doing this wrong.

My husband died six months ago. Any other questions?

Why are you doing all this? I don’t know a single teacher who would want you to do any of the miscellaneous Teacher Appreciation Week stuff. Give yourself a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every. Year.

Every year, someone starts this thread.

Every year, Teacher Appreciation Week is just before Mother’s Day.

Every. Year.

So plan for it. Buy whatever in February, write a note and stick it in your tickler file. Send it in for Teacher Appreciation Week and then do whatever else you feel like doing that week. No one is forcing you.

So much whining.

Every year. Every YEAR. Every year, apparently, you click into a thread you think is whining/beneath you, and you make it longer. You’re sooo above it!

It is whining. A huge whine-fest.

[Anonymous]

This is comical.

First of all, you’re “run ragged” because of … teacher appreciation week at your kids school? I don’t even know what that means. You can literally do absolutely NOTHING for teacher appreciation week and it’ll be just fine.

Second, and just so I’m clear, we’re now blocking out not only Mothers Day but the entire week beforehand? Jesus Christ. I’ll bet you also throw yourself a “birthday week”.

Grow up.

[Anonymous]

i gave money this year. the amount that made me feel better for not doing anything else. and im the room mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are all you moms doing all the work? Where are the kids’ dads?

You are doing this wrong.

You mean administration. The moms didn’t hire the teachers and they aren’t aren’t personal employees. Administration should be planning and executing teacher appreciation. If they don’t, oh well. Join the rest of us that get no “appreciation week” of gift cards and free food

You missed it.

If a family wants to show appreciation for a teacher, a dad can do it just as well as a mom.

We will be showing appreciation because we view our kids’ teachers as important members of the team.

You don’t have to do anything at all and it seems like that would suit you best.

You might want to work on that bitterness.

Dads won’t/don’t do it because they don’t care. Really. They just don’t and at their jobs this doesn’t exist. It wouldn’t even occur to them to buy the teacher a week of stuff/gift cards in the name of teacher approximation. Moms do it out of social obligation and pressure. But moms don’t have to do it either. As several teachers have pointed out; nothing is necessary. Better yet, send well behaved kids and a thank you note outlining how they have made a different. This week of stuff is bananas

Sure they do/will. You say “Brian, did you see the email about teacher appreciation week? Can you handle that please?”

And you’re done. And not at all ragged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are all you moms doing all the work? Where are the kids’ dads?

You are doing this wrong.

+1

[Anonymous]

Our school has a committee for this. So no burden on all the parents. Problem solved. But really he’s not hard to have your kid make a card for the teacher, and if you want you can include some flowers or a gift card. It should not be stressful, just a small extra thing to show the teacher you appreciate them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is comical.

First of all, you’re “run ragged” because of … teacher appreciation week at your kids school? I don’t even know what that means. You can literally do absolutely NOTHING for teacher appreciation week and it’ll be just fine.

Second, and just so I’m clear, we’re now blocking out not only Mothers Day but the entire week beforehand? Jesus Christ. I’ll bet you also throw yourself a “birthday week”.

Grow up.

Are you somehow saying that OP, personally, turned a nationally-recognized week into a “Week”? Are you saying that she and she alone chose to stretch this out? I’ve had kids in elementary and daycare for 11 years now, and it has always been a week. Numerous theme days, sign-ups, food carts, etc. Of course “no one has to participate” but you know who would notice if our family didn’t participate? My kids. They are now old enough to write their own notes, but that hasn’t always been the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is comical.

First of all, you’re “run ragged” because of … teacher appreciation week at your kids school? I don’t even know what that means. You can literally do absolutely NOTHING for teacher appreciation week and it’ll be just fine.

Second, and just so I’m clear, we’re now blocking out not only Mothers Day but the entire week beforehand? Jesus Christ. I’ll bet you also throw yourself a “birthday week”.

Grow up.

Are you somehow saying that OP, personally, turned a nationally-recognized week into a “Week”? Are you saying that she and she alone chose to stretch this out? I’ve had kids in elementary and daycare for 11 years now, and it has always been a week. Numerous theme days, sign-ups, food carts, etc. Of course “no one has to participate” but you know who would notice if our family didn’t participate? My kids. They are now old enough to write their own notes, but that hasn’t always been the case.

OP is whining about teacher appreciation week occurring immediately before Mother’s Day. That’s the entire point of the post. Read the title.

The implicit statement is that the Put-Upon UMC Suburban Housewife is entitled not only to Mother's Day, but also (apparently) to a week of leisure beforehand that shouldn’t be crowded with any other tasks or obligations—including the overwhelming burden of buying a GD gift card from Starbucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is comical.

First of all, you’re “run ragged” because of … teacher appreciation week at your kids school? I don’t even know what that means. You can literally do absolutely NOTHING for teacher appreciation week and it’ll be just fine.

Second, and just so I’m clear, we’re now blocking out not only Mothers Day but the entire week beforehand? Jesus Christ. I’ll bet you also throw yourself a “birthday week”.

Grow up.

Are you somehow saying that OP, personally, turned a nationally-recognized week into a “Week”? Are you saying that she and she alone chose to stretch this out? I’ve had kids in elementary and daycare for 11 years now, and it has always been a week. Numerous theme days, sign-ups, food carts, etc. Of course “no one has to participate” but you know who would notice if our family didn’t participate? My kids. They are now old enough to write their own notes, but that hasn’t always been the case.

OP is whining about teacher appreciation week occurring immediately before Mother’s Day. That’s the entire point of the post. Read the title.

The implicit statement is that the Put-Upon UMC Suburban Housewife is entitled not only to Mother's Day, but also (apparently) to a week of leisure beforehand that shouldn’t be crowded with any other tasks or obligations—including the overwhelming burden of buying a GD gift card from Starbucks.

Well, OP says she’s got a FT job so why are you making this a SAHM thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is comical.

First of all, you’re “run ragged” because of … teacher appreciation week at your kids school? I don’t even know what that means. You can literally do absolutely NOTHING for teacher appreciation week and it’ll be just fine.

Second, and just so I’m clear, we’re now blocking out not only Mothers Day but the entire week beforehand? Jesus Christ. I’ll bet you also throw yourself a “birthday week”.

Grow up.

Are you somehow saying that OP, personally, turned a nationally-recognized week into a “Week”? Are you saying that she and she alone chose to stretch this out? I’ve had kids in elementary and daycare for 11 years now, and it has always been a week. Numerous theme days, sign-ups, food carts, etc. Of course “no one has to participate” but you know who would notice if our family didn’t participate? My kids. They are now old enough to write their own notes, but that hasn’t always been the case.

OP is whining about teacher appreciation week occurring immediately before Mother’s Day. That’s the entire point of the post. Read the title.

The implicit statement is that the Put-Upon UMC Suburban Housewife is entitled not only to Mother's Day, but also (apparently) to a week of leisure beforehand that shouldn’t be crowded with any other tasks or obligations—including the overwhelming burden of buying a GD gift card from Starbucks.

NP. I don’t think that’s what she’s saying. I don’t think she’s advocating for a week of leisure, but rather pointing out how crappy the timing is. Yes, it’s optional, but we’ve all been “one more thing-ed” to the point of stress before. There’s a huge difference between saying OP is asking to be feted for a week and what she actually seems to be saying, which is let’s not put a big burden on moms for a week and then be like “oh yeah, and here’s your day.”