Anonymous wrote:Give cash to teachers. That is what I do. I give gift cards to all my kid's teachers.
OP here. I…literally said in my original post that I give gift cards to teachers. I don’t get them cutesy crap, just a gift card and a note, and then I also make a contribution to whatever the PTA is doing, like muffins or napkins or something. I consider that to be pretty bare bones, but still…all of it is a lot on top of everything else moms do. I think it would be much nicer if Teacher Appreciation was at the end of the school year or something, not right before Mother’s Day.
Seriously? Getting a gift card and card is so easy. Buy it in April if you must.
Anonymous wrote:Look I’m not going to pretend there’s not a vast amount of misogyny baked into ALL aspects of this— paying teachers so little that “appreciation” gifts matter, expecting teachers to be “appreciated” by free breakfast something provided every day in Silicon Valley…expecting mothers to spend time being “appreciation chairs” as an unpaid activity…all of it. All of it.
But, you are making this way too hard on yourself and there is no excuse for that other than poor planning. Let me help you make 2023 the last year this sucks for you:
On prime day or cyber week, gift cards are discounted (I think last year target did $10 off every $50). Purchase $400 worth of $50 gift cards, put them in your top desk drawer.
If you or anyone in your group chat go to Aldi you will find occasionally nice-looking but inexpensive thank you cards. Buy 8. If you must make your life harder also grab a holiday themed card or two.
Every time there is a request for teacher appreciation, Venmo the organizer, have your kid scribble in a card, add a gift card and send the card to school. Do not “scramble”. Do not volunteer for anything extra. Do not stress further. Do not continue to think about this after confirming the card reached the teacher.
Tone deaf, much? Not all of us have $400 to “just” throw around at any one time, let alone to pre-pay a long-term investment for some future date. Wow, $50 each for teacher gift cards? Must be freaking nice. Wow, how organized you are, what a planner you are. Oh, wait. You’re just rich.
I mean... I'm definitely not rich, solidly MC by DCUM standards but I basically do what this PP suggests. It's a priority to me to be able to give to DC's teachers.
I SAH now but was a teacher. Gift cards are best, no need for much of anything else. Of course I had many students who genuinely could not afford gifts of any type but when their parents thanked me for helping them or whatever that was just as awesome as a gift card.
I started out working at a wealthy school and during TAW the PTA did a catered lunch from a very nice restaurant and that was the only time I felt like it was worth the effort they put in...but I'm sure it was $$.
NP. Ohhhhh, so people who can afford to pre-pay $400 at a time for teacher gift cards are able to do so because it’s a “priority.” Got it. Sorry, poors, you’re going to have to make $400 for gift cards a *priority.* It has to be important to you. Go put the bread, green beans, cereal and milk back, because Good People Prioritize Gift Cards. It’s a matter of priorities, you see. Not means.
Yeah this is crazy to me. We don't make a lot for DCUM and $50 is more than our budget for Christmas or birthday gifts for any adults, including each other (we usually try to keep it $20-40 max). $400 is close to what we'd spend at Christmas for the entire extended family. Teachers are important but not a higher priority than everyone else in my life.
JFC. Do you people have no imagination or problem solving ability? If you can’t buy $50, buy $20. If you can’t buy $20, buy $10. If you can’t afford $10, have your kid make a free card at home. The point is that all of these things can be planned in ADVANCE instead of throwing tantrums when the dates show up just as they do every year.
If the room parent asks for specific things every day of a week, it is not a requirement. If it’s sooooo harrrrd and you’re soooo buuuuusy, just don’t do it. But we all know you won’t, because then you wouldn’t get attention for whining about your mEnTal LoAd.
NP and yes, your privilege is showing, too. I can afford $10 gift cards, but not until the paycheck immediately before the event. Stop acting like some of us are not “planning ahead” or “prioritizing” when we CANNOT AFFORD TO BUY AHEAD.
Since you can’t read, here, let me help you.
“If you can’t afford $10, have your kid make a free card at home.”
You’re welcome, No more need for you to engage in any further melodrama, attention-seeking, whining or ALL CAPS.
Done.
Why do we need to give teachers cards for doing their jobs?
I am seriously beginning to wonder if a non-insignificant subset of DCUM Moms are illiterate.
As has been said 9,583,487, every single thing about TA is optional (I know. It’s a big word. Look it up).
If you and/or your kid don’t want to make a card, then D-O-N’-T.
Just put a sock in your asinine whining.
What I hear you saying is that you’re a teacher. Hence the attitude.
I’m not a teacher. I’m a parent. You know what they say about when you a-s-s-ume.
Anonymous wrote:Teachers are helping the future. Be empathetic towards early educators. Many of them has to get a second job to survive.
Give them visa money, gift cards, anything that can help them to their daily lives.
Help the teachers
Parents aren’t supposed to supplement their income. They agree to their contact.
Lots of people have a second job or a side hustle to supplement main job- all year round. Without getting summer off, a week of spring break, 2 weeks at Xmas, mid winter break, and the many other days off teachers have. It makes sense teachers would want/need a second job considering the significant amount of days they aren’t working
Anonymous wrote:Teachers are helping the future. Be empathetic towards early educators. Many of them has to get a second job to survive.
Give them visa money, gift cards, anything that can help them to their daily lives.
Help the teachers
Parents aren’t supposed to supplement their income. They agree to their contact.
Lots of people have a second job or a side hustle to supplement main job- all year round. Without getting summer off, a week of spring break, 2 weeks at Xmas, mid winter break, and the many other days off teachers have. It makes sense teachers would want/need a second job considering the significant amount of days they aren’t working
Anonymous wrote:Teachers are helping the future. Be empathetic towards early educators. Many of them has to get a second job to survive.
Give them visa money, gift cards, anything that can help them to their daily lives.
Help the teachers
Parents aren’t supposed to supplement their income. They agree to their contact.
Lots of people have a second job or a side hustle to supplement main job- all year round. Without getting summer off, a week of spring break, 2 weeks at Xmas, mid winter break, and the many other days off teachers have. It makes sense teachers would want/need a second job considering the significant amount of days they aren’t working
I rather give my money to a teacher than those greedy fks capitalism rich aholes who are not paying thier fair share of taxes like everyone else
Anonymous wrote:Teachers are helping the future. Be empathetic towards early educators. Many of them has to get a second job to survive.
Give them visa money, gift cards, anything that can help them to their daily lives.
Help the teachers
Parents aren’t supposed to supplement their income. They agree to their contact.
Lots of people have a second job or a side hustle to supplement main job- all year round. Without getting summer off, a week of spring break, 2 weeks at Xmas, mid winter break, and the many other days off teachers have. It makes sense teachers would want/need a second job considering the significant amount of days they aren’t working
I rather give my money to a teacher than those greedy fks capitalism rich aholes who are not paying thier fair share of taxes like everyone else
Anonymous wrote:Teachers are helping the future. Be empathetic towards early educators. Many of them has to get a second job to survive.
Give them visa money, gift cards, anything that can help them to their daily lives.
Help the teachers
Parents aren’t supposed to supplement their income. They agree to their contact.
Lots of people have a second job or a side hustle to supplement main job- all year round. Without getting summer off, a week of spring break, 2 weeks at Xmas, mid winter break, and the many other days off teachers have. It makes sense teachers would want/need a second job considering the significant amount of days they aren’t working
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