24-yo Sofia Richie ties the knot in France. Marrying in your early 20s is trendy!

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Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

This plus men aren't going to college or learning a trade and so who are all these women supposed to date and marry at that age if the men aren't in college to meet and don't launch until much later if at all?

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Anonymous wrote:I married at 24. We met at 18, and our fifth child was born last year.

Do you homeschool? Are you a submissive wife?

No, I went to Northwestern journalism school.

So a string of bad choices then?

-- Signed, A journalist

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

How about don’t tell other people how to live their lives.

Ah. So you aren’t judgmental about young marriage? Or, wait, you just don’t like when I’m judgmental about your old marriage.

You’re the one calling “old marriage” “extended adolescence.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

Getting married in your 20's doesn't make you magically more mature than someone else who hasn't met the right person yet. Blame the men in the age bracket, not the women.

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Anonymous wrote:I married at 24. We met at 18, and our fifth child was born last year.

Do you homeschool? Are you a submissive wife?

No, I went to Northwestern journalism school.

So a string of bad choices then?

-- Signed, A journalist

I think this is what the young people call a “self-own”.

- NP

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I didn't meet a man who I wanted to marry until I was 27. We got engaged at 29 after two years of dating (and yes, I was pretty adamant that we would not be dating indefinitely and that if he did want to get married, he needed to propose, if not, we needed to split). We'll be getting married at 30/31.

When I was 24, I was SO immature and the guys were even more so. Can't imagine having married any of them. And I'm glad I had my single years, I grew up a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn't meet a man who I wanted to marry until I was 27. We got engaged at 29 after two years of dating (and yes, I was pretty adamant that we would not be dating indefinitely and that if he did want to get married, he needed to propose, if not, we needed to split). We'll be getting married at 30/31.

When I was 24, I was SO immature and the guys were even more so. Can't imagine having married any of them. And I'm glad I had my single years, I grew up a lot.

Respectfully, you’re still oblivious. Report back after you’re actually married, when you actually get pregnant and have a child (if possible) and when you actually try to have another one or two. Or when you’re in your 40s and your friends who settled down quickly have their kids heading to college and yours (again, if you have any) are in primary school. When they retire and you still have ten years left. Then get on here and tell us how smart it was to waste ten years of fertility. Your tune will change.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

How about don’t tell other people how to live their lives.

Ah. So you aren’t judgmental about young marriage? Or, wait, you just don’t like when I’m judgmental about your old marriage.

You’re the one calling “old marriage” “extended adolescence.”

It is. You don’t have a clue if you’re unwed and/or don’t have a child. Marriage and especially a child changes you in ways you can’t fathom.

[Anonymous]

I found another one of brunch granny’s threads: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/240/1033269.page right down to the SATC reference

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Anonymous wrote:Funny how nobody is pressuring young men to marry

Women are in their prime from 22-28. Men from about 27-35. Men don’t have to.

LOL what do you think happens to a woman when she turns 28? Does her uterus fall out?

First time babies over the age of 35 means old eggs, etc.

¾NP. Wow how do second or third babies know how to use the youngest eggs, that’s amazing

PP here. We have an explosion of kids with special needs. I said etc. Waiting 20+ years past the start of menstruation is a big risk for first time moms.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

How about don’t tell other people how to live their lives.

Ah. So you aren’t judgmental about young marriage? Or, wait, you just don’t like when I’m judgmental about your old marriage.

You’re the one calling “old marriage” “extended adolescence.”

It is. You don’t have a clue if you’re unwed and/or don’t have a child. Marriage and especially a child changes you in ways you can’t fathom.

The 1950s called.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

How about don’t tell other people how to live their lives.

Ah. So you aren’t judgmental about young marriage? Or, wait, you just don’t like when I’m judgmental about your old marriage.

You’re the one calling “old marriage” “extended adolescence.”

It is. You don’t have a clue if you’re unwed and/or don’t have a child. Marriage and especially a child changes you in ways you can’t fathom.

I’m pretty sure the kids who were having babies at my high school never had a clue, and never will

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

How about don’t tell other people how to live their lives.

Ah. So you aren’t judgmental about young marriage? Or, wait, you just don’t like when I’m judgmental about your old marriage.

You’re the one calling “old marriage” “extended adolescence.”

It is. You don’t have a clue if you’re unwed and/or don’t have a child. Marriage and especially a child changes you in ways you can’t fathom.

Unwed?!?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't meet a man who I wanted to marry until I was 27. We got engaged at 29 after two years of dating (and yes, I was pretty adamant that we would not be dating indefinitely and that if he did want to get married, he needed to propose, if not, we needed to split). We'll be getting married at 30/31.

When I was 24, I was SO immature and the guys were even more so. Can't imagine having married any of them. And I'm glad I had my single years, I grew up a lot.

Respectfully, you’re still oblivious. Report back after you’re actually married, when you actually get pregnant and have a child (if possible) and when you actually try to have another one or two. Or when you’re in your 40s and your friends who settled down quickly have their kids heading to college and yours (again, if you have any) are in primary school. When they retire and you still have ten years left. Then get on here and tell us how smart it was to waste ten years of fertility. Your tune will change.

Because a woman’s only purpose in life is to pop out babies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't meet a man who I wanted to marry until I was 27. We got engaged at 29 after two years of dating (and yes, I was pretty adamant that we would not be dating indefinitely and that if he did want to get married, he needed to propose, if not, we needed to split). We'll be getting married at 30/31.

When I was 24, I was SO immature and the guys were even more so. Can't imagine having married any of them. And I'm glad I had my single years, I grew up a lot.

Respectfully, you’re still oblivious. Report back after you’re actually married, when you actually get pregnant and have a child (if possible) and when you actually try to have another one or two. Or when you’re in your 40s and your friends who settled down quickly have their kids heading to college and yours (again, if you have any) are in primary school. When they retire and you still have ten years left. Then get on here and tell us how smart it was to waste ten years of fertility. Your tune will change.

For one thing, you're a complete POS. For another thing - I didn't meet anyone worth marrying 'earlier on', and I don't have any friends who 'settled down quickly' aside from the uber religious acquaintances, half of whom are divorced. F you.