24-yo Sofia Richie ties the knot in France. Marrying in your early 20s is trendy!

[Anonymous]

I agree with your post about men not being ready. But they are not supposed to be. All of the men I dated who were 4-5 years older were excellent marriage prospects and great partners who appreciated me, valued me and felt ready for stability and a family. I think the issue is women expecting a 20 something male to be on par with most women. That is just unrealistic. I wish I married the older 30 year old men that I met in my 20s.

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL so many defensive little "I got married in my 20s" b__tches here today!

And one very special sub-literate spinster

[Anonymous]

I wanted to marry at 24. No twenty something man I dated was even thinking of marriage let alone a serious relationship. I met my now husband at 26 and we married at 30. TTC now at 35 due to not having high paying careers.

[Anonymous]

DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Funny how nobody is pressuring young men to marry

Women are in their prime from 22-28. Men from about 27-35. Men don’t have to.

LOL what do you think happens to a woman when she turns 28? Does her uterus fall out?

First time babies over the age of 35 means old eggs, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Funny how nobody is pressuring young men to marry

Women are in their prime from 22-28. Men from about 27-35. Men don’t have to.

LOL what do you think happens to a woman when she turns 28? Does her uterus fall out?

First time babies over the age of 35 means old eggs, etc.

NP. Wow how do second or third babies know how to use the youngest eggs, that’s amazing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

Literally anyone can marry & have kids. It’s not a sign of maturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

Literally anyone can marry & have kids. It’s not a sign of maturity.

Thinking a 20-something is too young to get married and have kids is a sign that you were immature in your 20s. I sure hope my kids (especially my sons) are fully formed adults ready to marry by 27.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

Many people have zero interest in “mating” at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that celebrities are doing this! I hope more American kids marry right after college. Marrying your high school or college sweetheart is so much smarter than waiting until you're in your late 20s or 30s. Being a young bride in your early 20s and then quickly having babies is beautiful.



https://pagesix.com/2023/04/22/sofia-richie-marries-elliot-grainge-in-france/

She looks gorgeous and best of luck to them both but you are a weirdo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

How about don’t tell other people how to live their lives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll. Studies show someone's brain isn't fully formed until the age of 25.

However did humanity live without knowing what studies show? I mean how ever did society survive thousands and thousands of years getting married and making decisions before the age of 25.

1/2 of the problems today is because we treat everyone like a child and don’t hold anyone accountable or make them do it themselves. Parents are coddling and handholding until their kids are in their mid-thirties!

Just this week, my cousin asked me if I would write her 18-year-old daughter, a letter of recommendation-why isn’t her 18-year-old daughter asking me that?

Do you have kids? Maybe niece is shy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got married in our 20s right after law school, in 2015. I find the rabid DCUM defense of old marriage and parenthood pretty silly. I hope I am raising kids who are mature enough to follow in our footsteps, not stuck in a decade-long adolescence.

So you got lucky and met your life partner in your early/mid 20s. Why do you think that makes you better than someone who doesn’t meet the right person until they’re 30? I would’ve loved to marry my college BF in a different life, except he cheated on me.

I don’t think I’m “better than” you. I think that people should universally be ready to pick out a mate by 26-29, and actively be looking for that, rather than indulging in prolonged adolescence.

How about don’t tell other people how to live their lives.

Ah. So you aren’t judgmental about young marriage? Or, wait, you just don’t like when I’m judgmental about your old marriage.