Kid wearing a tutu to class

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

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Anonymous wrote:I've lived in San Francisco a long time apparently - I had to read this twice to try to figure out what the problem is. DD had a friend wear a onesie to school every day for a month. Kids would wear a cape or a tail. Nobody cares here. It's okay to be weird, and self-expression is fine as long as it doesn't endorse violence, drugs, or hate speech.

But even you recognize that it's "weird." Why encourage someone to dress in a way that will ultimately result in teasing?

Too bad this seems to be the ultimate fear of parents these days. Your kid will be teased, your kid will be left out...

See what happens when a basic has kids

I work in middle school settings. Some of you are very naive or so nonconforming that you either do not care or don't get it.

Maybe you are not getting it. This teen boy knows what it is to wear a tutu to school and he's still doing it. Who knows why? Is it the parent's job to stop him because some kids might bully him? At this age, does he not know what he is getting himself into as far as sticking out at school?

Yup. There was one boy who consistently wore girls' clothing in DD's ES. There is a different boy that does it at her MS. I have asked DD if they get bullied, and she said no, nobody cares.

I’ve seen kids get bullied for lesser things. Don’t be naive.

That's the point a bunch of us are trying to make. Kids are bullied for anything and everything, if bullies want to bully. NOT wearing the tutu won't prevent it and it's honestly possible wearing the tutu will, since bullies are more likely to target people they think are squashable or vulnerable. I was bullied in middle school. I don't think attempting to help your child conform when they don't want to isn't the answer some of you think it is. If they're *asking* for advice on conforming or being cool, that's one thing, but if they want to stand out it's different.

This. A self-confident kid wearing what makes them comfortable, surrounded by like-minded peers, is actually less vulnerable to bullying than the kid trying desperately to be cool but not quite getting it right.

+1 Boy in a tutu’s gonna be just fine.

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PPs are clueless about MS dynamics.

+1 I don’t think anyone would hardly bat an eye at a boy in a tutu at my kid’s middle school, for real. Maybe out in some very conservative, homogeneous suburbs?

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Anonymous wrote:I've lived in San Francisco a long time apparently - I had to read this twice to try to figure out what the problem is. DD had a friend wear a onesie to school every day for a month. Kids would wear a cape or a tail. Nobody cares here. It's okay to be weird, and self-expression is fine as long as it doesn't endorse violence, drugs, or hate speech.

But even you recognize that it's "weird." Why encourage someone to dress in a way that will ultimately result in teasing?

Too bad this seems to be the ultimate fear of parents these days. Your kid will be teased, your kid will be left out...

See what happens when a basic has kids

I work in middle school settings. Some of you are very naive or so nonconforming that you either do not care or don't get it.

Maybe you are not getting it. This teen boy knows what it is to wear a tutu to school and he's still doing it. Who knows why? Is it the parent's job to stop him because some kids might bully him? At this age, does he not know what he is getting himself into as far as sticking out at school?

Yup. There was one boy who consistently wore girls' clothing in DD's ES. There is a different boy that does it at her MS. I have asked DD if they get bullied, and she said no, nobody cares.

I’ve seen kids get bullied for lesser things. Don’t be naive.

That's the point a bunch of us are trying to make. Kids are bullied for anything and everything, if bullies want to bully. NOT wearing the tutu won't prevent it and it's honestly possible wearing the tutu will, since bullies are more likely to target people they think are squashable or vulnerable. I was bullied in middle school. I don't think attempting to help your child conform when they don't want to isn't the answer some of you think it is. If they're *asking* for advice on conforming or being cool, that's one thing, but if they want to stand out it's different.

This. A self-confident kid wearing what makes them comfortable, surrounded by like-minded peers, is actually less vulnerable to bullying than the kid trying desperately to be cool but not quite getting it right.

+1 Boy in a tutu’s gonna be just fine.

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PPs are clueless about MS dynamics.

+1 I don’t think anyone would hardly bat an eye at a boy in a tutu at my kid’s middle school, for real. Maybe out in some very conservative, homogeneous suburbs?

Glad you clarified with “for real.” I wasn’t sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

I don’t think these women are homophobes. They aren’t scared of gay people, they just hate them. It’s not a phobia. It’s bigotry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

You are trying so hard to make this about bigotry. No student or teacher should be wearing a tutu to school. Fortunately, most schools have codes about what can be worn to school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

I don’t think these women are homophobes. They aren’t scared of gay people, they just hate them. It’s not a phobia. It’s bigotry.

Similar to your bigotry.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

You are trying so hard to make this about bigotry. No student or teacher should be wearing a tutu to school. Fortunately, most schools have codes about what can be worn to school.

Do schools actually care about dress codes anymore? From what I’ve seen, they can’t possibly.

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

You are trying so hard to make this about bigotry. No student or teacher should be wearing a tutu to school. Fortunately, most schools have codes about what can be worn to school.

Do schools actually care about dress codes anymore? From what I’ve seen, they can’t possibly.

Good schools do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

You are trying so hard to make this about bigotry. No student or teacher should be wearing a tutu to school. Fortunately, most schools have codes about what can be worn to school.

Do schools actually care about dress codes anymore? From what I’ve seen, they can’t possibly.

Good schools do.

+1 yes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

You are trying so hard to make this about bigotry. No student or teacher should be wearing a tutu to school. Fortunately, most schools have codes about what can be worn to school.

Maybe in your evangelical school that teaches creationism

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

You are trying so hard to make this about bigotry. No student or teacher should be wearing a tutu to school. Fortunately, most schools have codes about what can be worn to school.

Do schools actually care about dress codes anymore? From what I’ve seen, they can’t possibly.

Good schools do.

Private schools allow girls to wear pants and boys to wear skirts, so yea… no.

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Anonymous wrote:A boy who wears a tutu to middle school is deliberately inviting the teasing. He wants the confrontation.

As an out gay man (and a dad), I'm proud of this kid. It takes guts. Let him have the confrontation! I just hope he will also tell off all of the pearl clutching homophobe moms on this thread, too!

Please. This isn't about pearl clutching because someone is gay. Schools are trying to educate kids and don't need the distraction of anyone sitting in class in a tutu. Grow up, dad.

Already grew up. Stopped listening to people who said that others couldn't (have purple hair) (have piercings) (be goth) (act gay) (fill in the blank) because "distraction" & started affirming that people can be who they are & you have no power over them.

You are right that you have no power over us.

but isn't it you people who are saying the boy shouldn't wear the tutu?

Ignore the Bible beating bigots.

You are trying so hard to make this about bigotry. No student or teacher should be wearing a tutu to school. Fortunately, most schools have codes about what can be worn to school.

Maybe in your evangelical school that teaches creationism

LOL. Not at all. It's a large city school system; however, we do have a dress code for all students and teachers. Focus is on academics, music, art, athletics, and after school activities, as well as afternoon study opportunities with teachers representing different subjects -- not clothing and outfits designed to grab attention from instruction and learning.