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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've lived in San Francisco a long time apparently - I had to read this twice to try to figure out what the problem is. DD had a friend wear a onesie to school every day for a month. Kids would wear a cape or a tail. [b]Nobody cares here. It's okay to be weird,[/b] and self-expression is fine as long as it doesn't endorse violence, drugs, or hate speech.[/quote]

But even you recognize that it's "weird." Why encourage someone to dress in a way that will [b]ultimately result in teasing[/b]?[/quote]

Too bad this seems to be the ultimate fear of parents these days. Your kid will be teased, your kid will be left out...

See what happens when a basic has kids[/quote]

I work in middle school settings. Some of you are very naive or so nonconforming that you either do not care or don't get it.[/quote]

Maybe you are not getting it. This teen boy knows what it is to wear a tutu to school and he's still doing it. Who knows why? Is it the parent's job to stop him because some kids might bully him? At this age, does he not know what he is getting himself into as far as sticking out at school?
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Yup. There was one boy who consistently wore girls' clothing in DD's ES. There is a different boy that does it at her MS. I have asked DD if they get bullied, and she said no, nobody cares.[/quote]

I’ve seen kids get bullied for lesser things. Don’t be naive. [/quote]

That's the point a bunch of us are trying to make.  Kids are bullied for anything and everything, if bullies want to bully.  NOT wearing the tutu won't prevent it and it's honestly possible wearing the tutu will, since bullies are more likely to target people they think are squashable or vulnerable.  I was bullied in middle school.  I don't think attempting to help your child conform when they don't want to isn't the answer some of you think it is.  If they're *asking* for advice on conforming or being cool, that's one thing, but if they want to stand out it's different.[/quote]

This. A self-confident kid wearing what makes them comfortable, surrounded by like-minded peers, is actually less vulnerable to bullying than the kid trying desperately to be cool but not quite getting it right.

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+1 Boy in a tutu’s gonna be just fine.[/quote]

PPs are clueless about MS dynamics. 
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+1 I don’t think anyone would hardly bat an eye at a boy in a tutu at my kid’s middle school, for real. Maybe out in some very conservative, homogeneous suburbs? [/quote]

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