Thoughts on the “other woman”?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A cuckold or cuquean is a fetish where they enjoy it. They hide in a closet and watch or get off on welcoming the spouse home and telling them what they just did to another women. It does not apply to a betrayed spouse that had no idea. Christ people can’t even use terminology correctly and are insulting POS.

Wrong. You are referring to a cuckold fetish. Just because some use it as a fetish doesn't mean that defines the word. Christ, people!!

Cuckold:

"a man whose wife deceives him by having a sexual relationship with another man"

cuckold
kŭk′əld, koo͝k′-
noun

A man whose wife is unfaithful.
A corrupt form of cockle.
A man whose wife is false to him;
the husband of an adulteress.

Yes, but the word has fallen out of fashion- maybe because of a slightly misogynist air that pervades its use. Cuckhold is now much more part of the fetish lexicon.

*cuckold

Why would it be mysogynistic? It makes the man look bad.

It makes the man look bad because he looks weak- like he can’t CONTROL his woman. Also, it reveals a double standard: men are expected to cheat, when women do, insults such as “cuck” are hurled at the man in a form of toxic masculinity.

That's not revealed by this word at all. I don't even think it's true that men are expected to cheat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I noticed with the Adam Levine controversy that the super feminist take among younger millennials and Gen Z is to victimize the “other woman” and make the husband the sole perpetrator, including situations where the husband is famous and known to be married with kids. The husband IS most responsible for cheating on his wife, I agree with that. He’s the one who made promises he broke. But do women really not owe anything to other women anymore? It’s totally fine to be a side chick now , even when it’s publicly known that the wife has little kids at home?

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills watching all these young women fall all over themselves to defend that TikToker who had the affair with Adam Levine. I don’t care what lies he fed her, she knew he was married and she was an adult when their affair started. It’s interesting to me that it’s considered “unfeminist” to call her out for being a homewrecker or to tell her t9 shut her legs to married men. Why can’t two things be true at once? Adam Levine is a trash husband and I hope his wife leaves with half his fortune. But knowingly sleeping with married men is trash behavior too.

So is your thesis “we are not being adequately cruel as a society to a woman who exposed a man for cheating on his wife”? Are you afraid that the scarlet letter she embroidered for herself was too beautiful?

She wasn’t even apologetic though. I only watched 2 of her videos so idk, maybe she talks about being sorry somewhere else. But in the first two videos she released she makes herself out to be the victim when really the victim is the wife and kids. She knew he was married! What did she expect? The least she can do now is say she is sorry and regrets it.

She doesn’t need to be apologetic to “us” as in the general public. The only person she *may have* contributed harm to is the wife of the man, and for all you or I know she told the wife as soon as the story was going to break and the wife was happy that she went public because it pushed a bunch of OTHER people to expose his creeping. That’s only going to help the wife in the long run if she decides to divorce him or get a post nup. She doesn’t owe you an apology. She doesn’t owe me an apology. And the idea that we all have to get together and call her a “slut” and tell her to “keep her legs closed” even though she never did anything to harm us is literally taken from A Scarlet Letter.

Sumner is no Hester Prynne. Women that basically sell sex, especially White, educated (she evidently has a marketing degree) women with options are not helping the feminist cause. I agree that she doesn’t owe anyone an insincere apology.

Wait wait wait. The reason all the very angry people on this thread are calling her names they would discipline their teenage children for using is because they don’t consider her adequately feminist? That’s…literally insane. A feminist perspective would be to look at the lack of symmetrical name calling and vitriol targeted at the man in question and wonder how deep the societal misogyny goes— and this is even after the thread ostensibly acknowledge that he’s “more”’in the wrong.

At least in this corner of the internet she’s quite a lot like Hester Prynne: she hasn’t done a thing to anyone posting here but they need to freak out and call her names and complain she has no “shame” and hasn’t carried out her punishment correctly. It’s really a lot more telling about this group than it is about the woman in question.

[Anonymous]

She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

anyone remember the DCUM thread about the woman who went to the OW's house during the holidays and went on a rampage of slashing her inflatables?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

That's how they manage that trick -- they hate the OW instead. It's the only way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

That's how they manage that trick -- they hate the OW instead. It's the only way.

Conversely, the OW often obsesses about the wife, as well. Competition over limited resources, the actual man is secondary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

That's how they manage that trick -- they hate the OW instead. It's the only way.

Conversely, the OW often obsesses about the wife, as well. Competition over limited resources, the actual man is secondary.

And wishes her harm, stalks her on the Internet …all while the wife has zero idea she even exists. She’s in a competition with a wife that doesn’t even know she’s in one and sadly they still can’t get them to leave the wife 98% of the time…when he only sees her at her absolute best in a fantasy world for an hour at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

That's how they manage that trick -- they hate the OW instead. It's the only way.

Conversely, the OW often obsesses about the wife, as well. Competition over limited resources, the actual man is secondary.

A lot of the wives have successful careers so these ow are essentially after the wife’s resources too. Her years of work directly contributed to much of the portfolio and homes the couple owns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

anyone remember the DCUM thread about the woman who went to the OW's house during the holidays and went on a rampage of slashing her inflatables?

I absolutely love that woman. Never met her, but it’s absolutely hilarious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

That's how they manage that trick -- they hate the OW instead. It's the only way.

Conversely, the OW often obsesses about the wife, as well. Competition over limited resources, the actual man is secondary.

And wishes her harm, stalks her on the Internet …all while the wife has zero idea she even exists. She’s in a competition with a wife that doesn’t even know she’s in one and sadly they still can’t get them to leave the wife 98% of the time…when he only sees her at her absolute best in a fantasy world for an hour at a time.

OH MY GOD you are so tiresome. For the millionth time: Your H's one experience is not representative of all affairs. Every time you post this stuff, you just remind us what a loser YOUR husband was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I noticed with the Adam Levine controversy that the super feminist take among younger millennials and Gen Z is to victimize the “other woman” and make the husband the sole perpetrator, including situations where the husband is famous and known to be married with kids. The husband IS most responsible for cheating on his wife, I agree with that. He’s the one who made promises he broke. But do women really not owe anything to other women anymore? It’s totally fine to be a side chick now , even when it’s publicly known that the wife has little kids at home?

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills watching all these young women fall all over themselves to defend that TikToker who had the affair with Adam Levine. I don’t care what lies he fed her, she knew he was married and she was an adult when their affair started. It’s interesting to me that it’s considered “unfeminist” to call her out for being a homewrecker or to tell her t9 shut her legs to married men. Why can’t two things be true at once? Adam Levine is a trash husband and I hope his wife leaves with half his fortune. But knowingly sleeping with married men is trash behavior too.

So is your thesis “we are not being adequately cruel as a society to a woman who exposed a man for cheating on his wife”? Are you afraid that the scarlet letter she embroidered for herself was too beautiful?

She wasn’t even apologetic though. I only watched 2 of her videos so idk, maybe she talks about being sorry somewhere else. But in the first two videos she released she makes herself out to be the victim when really the victim is the wife and kids. She knew he was married! What did she expect? The least she can do now is say she is sorry and regrets it.

She doesn’t need to be apologetic to “us” as in the general public. The only person she *may have* contributed harm to is the wife of the man, and for all you or I know she told the wife as soon as the story was going to break and the wife was happy that she went public because it pushed a bunch of OTHER people to expose his creeping. That’s only going to help the wife in the long run if she decides to divorce him or get a post nup. She doesn’t owe you an apology. She doesn’t owe me an apology. And the idea that we all have to get together and call her a “slut” and tell her to “keep her legs closed” even though she never did anything to harm us is literally taken from A Scarlet Letter.

Sumner is no Hester Prynne. Women that basically sell sex, especially White, educated (she evidently has a marketing degree) women with options are not helping the feminist cause. I agree that she doesn’t owe anyone an insincere apology.

Wait wait wait. The reason all the very angry people on this thread are calling her names they would discipline their teenage children for using is because they don’t consider her adequately feminist? That’s…literally insane. A feminist perspective would be to look at the lack of symmetrical name calling and vitriol targeted at the man in question and wonder how deep the societal misogyny goes— and this is even after the thread ostensibly acknowledge that he’s “more”’in the wrong.

At least in this corner of the internet she’s quite a lot like Hester Prynne: she hasn’t done a thing to anyone posting here but they need to freak out and call her names and complain she has no “shame” and hasn’t carried out her punishment correctly. It’s really a lot more telling about this group than it is about the woman in question.

Being a feminist doesn’t mean taking all the worst parts of the male gender and emulating them.

Somewhere along the way women began thinking feminist meant having affairs with other people’s spouses and rampant promiscuous sex.

How many straight/heterosexual men are selling their bodies on only fans or exploiting their sexuality to get ahead? Not using their brains, but getting paid for dic pics? I don’t believe Hester was selling her body for $ or trying to gain a book deal out of the affair she had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

That's how they manage that trick -- they hate the OW instead. It's the only way.

Conversely, the OW often obsesses about the wife, as well. Competition over limited resources, the actual man is secondary.

And wishes her harm, stalks her on the Internet …all while the wife has zero idea she even exists. She’s in a competition with a wife that doesn’t even know she’s in one and sadly they still can’t get them to leave the wife 98% of the time…when he only sees her at her absolute best in a fantasy world for an hour at a time.

OH MY GOD you are so tiresome. For the millionth time: Your H's one experience is not representative of all affairs. Every time you post this stuff, you just remind us what a loser YOUR husband was.

If I had a husband …huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I noticed with the Adam Levine controversy that the super feminist take among younger millennials and Gen Z is to victimize the “other woman” and make the husband the sole perpetrator, including situations where the husband is famous and known to be married with kids. The husband IS most responsible for cheating on his wife, I agree with that. He’s the one who made promises he broke. But do women really not owe anything to other women anymore? It’s totally fine to be a side chick now , even when it’s publicly known that the wife has little kids at home?

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills watching all these young women fall all over themselves to defend that TikToker who had the affair with Adam Levine. I don’t care what lies he fed her, she knew he was married and she was an adult when their affair started. It’s interesting to me that it’s considered “unfeminist” to call her out for being a homewrecker or to tell her t9 shut her legs to married men. Why can’t two things be true at once? Adam Levine is a trash husband and I hope his wife leaves with half his fortune. But knowingly sleeping with married men is trash behavior too.

So is your thesis “we are not being adequately cruel as a society to a woman who exposed a man for cheating on his wife”? Are you afraid that the scarlet letter she embroidered for herself was too beautiful?

She wasn’t even apologetic though. I only watched 2 of her videos so idk, maybe she talks about being sorry somewhere else. But in the first two videos she released she makes herself out to be the victim when really the victim is the wife and kids. She knew he was married! What did she expect? The least she can do now is say she is sorry and regrets it.

She doesn’t need to be apologetic to “us” as in the general public. The only person she *may have* contributed harm to is the wife of the man, and for all you or I know she told the wife as soon as the story was going to break and the wife was happy that she went public because it pushed a bunch of OTHER people to expose his creeping. That’s only going to help the wife in the long run if she decides to divorce him or get a post nup. She doesn’t owe you an apology. She doesn’t owe me an apology. And the idea that we all have to get together and call her a “slut” and tell her to “keep her legs closed” even though she never did anything to harm us is literally taken from A Scarlet Letter.

Sumner is no Hester Prynne. Women that basically sell sex, especially White, educated (she evidently has a marketing degree) women with options are not helping the feminist cause. I agree that she doesn’t owe anyone an insincere apology.

Wait wait wait. The reason all the very angry people on this thread are calling her names they would discipline their teenage children for using is because they don’t consider her adequately feminist? That’s…literally insane. A feminist perspective would be to look at the lack of symmetrical name calling and vitriol targeted at the man in question and wonder how deep the societal misogyny goes— and this is even after the thread ostensibly acknowledge that he’s “more”’in the wrong.

At least in this corner of the internet she’s quite a lot like Hester Prynne: she hasn’t done a thing to anyone posting here but they need to freak out and call her names and complain she has no “shame” and hasn’t carried out her punishment correctly. It’s really a lot more telling about this group than it is about the woman in question.

Being a feminist doesn’t mean taking all the worst parts of the male gender and emulating them.

Somewhere along the way women began thinking feminist meant having affairs with other people’s spouses and rampant promiscuous sex.

How many straight/heterosexual men are selling their bodies on only fans or exploiting their sexuality to get ahead? Not using their brains, but getting paid for dic pics? I don’t believe Hester was selling her body for $ or trying to gain a book deal out of the affair she had.

Exactly. They think sinking to their level to be part of the boys’ club is feminism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I noticed with the Adam Levine controversy that the super feminist take among younger millennials and Gen Z is to victimize the “other woman” and make the husband the sole perpetrator, including situations where the husband is famous and known to be married with kids. The husband IS most responsible for cheating on his wife, I agree with that. He’s the one who made promises he broke. But do women really not owe anything to other women anymore? It’s totally fine to be a side chick now , even when it’s publicly known that the wife has little kids at home?

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills watching all these young women fall all over themselves to defend that TikToker who had the affair with Adam Levine. I don’t care what lies he fed her, she knew he was married and she was an adult when their affair started. It’s interesting to me that it’s considered “unfeminist” to call her out for being a homewrecker or to tell her t9 shut her legs to married men. Why can’t two things be true at once? Adam Levine is a trash husband and I hope his wife leaves with half his fortune. But knowingly sleeping with married men is trash behavior too.

So is your thesis “we are not being adequately cruel as a society to a woman who exposed a man for cheating on his wife”? Are you afraid that the scarlet letter she embroidered for herself was too beautiful?

She wasn’t even apologetic though. I only watched 2 of her videos so idk, maybe she talks about being sorry somewhere else. But in the first two videos she released she makes herself out to be the victim when really the victim is the wife and kids. She knew he was married! What did she expect? The least she can do now is say she is sorry and regrets it.

She doesn’t need to be apologetic to “us” as in the general public. The only person she *may have* contributed harm to is the wife of the man, and for all you or I know she told the wife as soon as the story was going to break and the wife was happy that she went public because it pushed a bunch of OTHER people to expose his creeping. That’s only going to help the wife in the long run if she decides to divorce him or get a post nup. She doesn’t owe you an apology. She doesn’t owe me an apology. And the idea that we all have to get together and call her a “slut” and tell her to “keep her legs closed” even though she never did anything to harm us is literally taken from A Scarlet Letter.

Sumner is no Hester Prynne. Women that basically sell sex, especially White, educated (she evidently has a marketing degree) women with options are not helping the feminist cause. I agree that she doesn’t owe anyone an insincere apology.

Wait wait wait. The reason all the very angry people on this thread are calling her names they would discipline their teenage children for using is because they don’t consider her adequately feminist? That’s…literally insane. A feminist perspective would be to look at the lack of symmetrical name calling and vitriol targeted at the man in question and wonder how deep the societal misogyny goes— and this is even after the thread ostensibly acknowledge that he’s “more”’in the wrong.

At least in this corner of the internet she’s quite a lot like Hester Prynne: she hasn’t done a thing to anyone posting here but they need to freak out and call her names and complain she has no “shame” and hasn’t carried out her punishment correctly. It’s really a lot more telling about this group than it is about the woman in question.

Have you read the Internet? Listened to a talk show or late night television? Seen the memes? Levine is getting shredded. A giant huge mockery is being made of him, what he did and his ridiculous text messages. YES- people are tearing him apart. AND the Celtics head coach is taking way more heat in public opinion then his consensual married co-worker. It was a man that ratted him out. Men and women are condemning these cheating men, but that doesn’t fit your narrative I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is not a victim, but all the fault is with the married person looking to step out and betray their spouse.

The betrayed spouse needs to let go of the anger if they decide to stay with the cheating spouse. I know several women that obsess over the OW and hate her, but have forgiven their husbands.

That's how they manage that trick -- they hate the OW instead. It's the only way.

Conversely, the OW often obsesses about the wife, as well. Competition over limited resources, the actual man is secondary.

And wishes her harm, stalks her on the Internet …all while the wife has zero idea she even exists. She’s in a competition with a wife that doesn’t even know she’s in one and sadly they still can’t get them to leave the wife 98% of the time…when he only sees her at her absolute best in a fantasy world for an hour at a time.

OH MY GOD you are so tiresome. For the millionth time: Your H's one experience is not representative of all affairs. Every time you post this stuff, you just remind us what a loser YOUR husband was.

If I had a husband …huh?

Then your ex husband. The one who had the affair that you've been ranting about for 2+ years.