Kicked out of summer camp-last day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this thread is a giant pile on and no one really read the OP. The camp knew about the condition ahead of time. Kicking him out on the last day just seems petty.

The rule for working moms is this: you are not allowed to actually need childcare. Childcare is a bonus, regardless of your employment situation. If you express frustration over lack of childcare, we’ll, you should have thought about that before you had kids. You are also an irresponsible parent who doesn’t want to care for their own kid.

If they said ok it’s fine for him to have diarrhea, and then changed their mind, that’s sucky. But this is the most standard of all rules, even pre-COVID. I think they are being flexible allowing him to wear pull ups. OP said she has a sitter picking him up, sounds like she has a solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this thread is a giant pile on and no one really read the OP. The camp knew about the condition ahead of time. Kicking him out on the last day just seems petty.

The rule for working moms is this: you are not allowed to actually need childcare. Childcare is a bonus, regardless of your employment situation. If you express frustration over lack of childcare, we’ll, you should have thought about that before you had kids. You are also an irresponsible parent who doesn’t want to care for their own kid.

No. The rule for working parents is: no one cares about your child’s health and well being more than you do, or as much as you do. So if your child gets diarrhea that is primarily your problem before it is someone else’s problem. If your childcare gripes are legitimate (a daycare near me just gave parents two weeks to comply with a 40% price hike. That’s legitimate!) people will be willing to help and be sympathetic to you but no one feels bad for a mother sending her child to camp on laxatives and then complaining about a diarrhea problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this thread is a giant pile on and no one really read the OP. The camp knew about the condition ahead of time. Kicking him out on the last day just seems petty.

The rule for working moms is this: you are not allowed to actually need childcare. Childcare is a bonus, regardless of your employment situation. If you express frustration over lack of childcare, we’ll, you should have thought about that before you had kids. You are also an irresponsible parent who doesn’t want to care for their own kid.

I think the issue was the tone/expectation that OP get special treatment. If she’d come to say “ugh so frustrating; I hate this; piecing together childcare is hard enough without adding medical issues into the mix” I for one would have had a lot more sympathy for her. But this whole “the CAMP is specially targeting my CHILD and RUINING his summer!!!” post really rubbed me the wrong way. Who amongst us has not had to deal with an unexpectedly sick (or not sick but randomly symptomatic) child having to come home early at massive inconvenience to ourselves and our work? It’s a fairly standard if frustrating situation and at least she’s only losing one day of childcare.

[Anonymous]

It’s not special treatment when OP was upfront about the issue from the start and on the last day was summarily dismissed.

[Anonymous]

They may have been fine with him attending with the diarrhea as long as he was making it to the bathroom in time. Having accidents due to the diarrhea may have been more than they were willing to mess with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not special treatment when OP was upfront about the issue from the start and on the last day was summarily dismissed.

I suspect he blew out his clothes and a staff person had to spend 20 minutes and half a package of wipes cleaning up watery diarrhea. That was probably not what they were bargaining for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not special treatment when OP was upfront about the issue from the start and on the last day was summarily dismissed.

I suspect he blew out his clothes and a staff person had to spend 20 minutes and half a package of wipes cleaning up watery diarrhea. That was probably not what they were bargaining for.

And it sounds like they told her to come pick him up and she said "No LOL I'm working I have a job."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this thread is a giant pile on and no one really read the OP. The camp knew about the condition ahead of time. Kicking him out on the last day just seems petty.

The rule for working moms is this: you are not allowed to actually need childcare. Childcare is a bonus, regardless of your employment situation. If you express frustration over lack of childcare, we’ll, you should have thought about that before you had kids. You are also an irresponsible parent who doesn’t want to care for their own kid.

I think the issue was the tone/expectation that OP get special treatment. If she’d come to say “ugh so frustrating; I hate this; piecing together childcare is hard enough without adding medical issues into the mix” I for one would have had a lot more sympathy for her. But this whole “the CAMP is specially targeting my CHILD and RUINING his summer!!!” post really rubbed me the wrong way. Who amongst us has not had to deal with an unexpectedly sick (or not sick but randomly symptomatic) child having to come home early at massive inconvenience to ourselves and our work? It’s a fairly standard if frustrating situation and at least she’s only losing one day of childcare.

Yep. Was already to leave for the day once and kid fell and split his chin open and instead spent half the day at the hospital. Some days you have to kiss your best laid plans goodbye.

[Anonymous]

Having diarrhea has nothing to do with "deserving" to be "kicked out". Your kid needs to stay home if they have diarrhea, or you needed to wait to start the laxative until after the last day of camp. It is totally unreasonable to expect a camp to deal with this multiple times, since he clearly can't manage it by himself. This is unrelated to the area you live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is this kid? I think if you sent a kid who is essentially not potty trained to a camp that requires potty training, you were kinda asking for this.

Regardless, if he’s 4 or under, he’s probably not even going to remember this.

DD's BFF couldn't attend summer camp at their preschool because she was not potty trained. They are 3. The preschool makes accommodations for kids who aren't potty trained (or are training) during the academic year, but not summer camp. This may be true of other summer camps (even if they are run by preschools).

I'm sorry, OP. It sounds like you are going through a lot and it sounds like DS is also going through a lot. This situation sucks. I know you want this for him, but PP's have raised good points about his comfort at camp if he's going to the bathroom in his pants and needing to have an adult clean it up. That's a lot. I hope he starts feeling better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is this kid? I think if you sent a kid who is essentially not potty trained to a camp that requires potty training, you were kinda asking for this.

Regardless, if he’s 4 or under, he’s probably not even going to remember this.

DD's BFF couldn't attend summer camp at their preschool because she was not potty trained. They are 3. The preschool makes accommodations for kids who aren't potty trained (or are training) during the academic year, but not summer camp. This may be true of other summer camps (even if they are run by preschools).

I'm sorry, OP. It sounds like you are going through a lot and it sounds like DS is also going through a lot. This situation sucks. I know you want this for him, but PP's have raised good points about his comfort at camp if he's going to the bathroom in his pants and needing to have an adult clean it up. That's a lot. I hope he starts feeling better.

This may be the time to ask your parents or DH's parents to help (or aunts, uncles, etc.). Even if you aren't super close with your family, assuming they are not abusive or totally incapable of caring for a child...I would reach out. This is why people move to be close to family (I don't live close to my in-laws, but I can see why people do it), take higher paying jobs that suck the life out of them, etc.

[Anonymous]

Read through the rest of the thread and I still think OP is gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not special treatment when OP was upfront about the issue from the start and on the last day was summarily dismissed.

Camps are allowed to change their decision making if new info arises. Plus we don't know what the OP exactly said to them. She may have mentioned he has constipation and had occasionall diahrea which the kid was capable of cleaning up. And perhaps it evolved into--"holy heck, this kid is on laxatives and having blowouts that are taking 20 minutes of a counselor's time to clean up when that counselor needs to be watching 7 other kids."

In any case, I feel like whatever OP communicated, sending a kid on a laxative cleanse to camp would make for an uncomfortable day for the child and that she did that more because she needed childcare. Which I feel empathy for, but there's time when no daycare/camp/groupcare setting is going to want to deal with your child and you need a relative/one-on-one babysitter to deal with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not special treatment when OP was upfront about the issue from the start and on the last day was summarily dismissed.

You, and OP, are completely missing the point. It doesn't matter WHY the diarrhea is happening (virus or brought on by meds for another medical reason), your child cannot attend camp with diarrhea.

Why you think your child is an acception to the rule/policy is beyond me. The rule exists for a reason, probably COMUS (camp rules from the state), and everyone has to follow it no matter what the reason

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not special treatment when OP was upfront about the issue from the start and on the last day was summarily dismissed.

You, and OP, are completely missing the point. It doesn't matter WHY the diarrhea is happening (virus or brought on by meds for another medical reason), your child cannot attend camp with diarrhea.

Why you think your child is an acception to the rule/policy is beyond me. The rule exists for a reason, probably COMUS (camp rules from the state), and everyone has to follow it no matter what the reason

The camp probably thought there was an understanding that they could call her to come pick him up. She didn't tell them they'd be cleaning up diarrhea with 50 baby wipes. Who would agree to that?