When you meet other moms and their kids, what signals upper class?

[Anonymous]

I am so tired of rich people playing poor on DCUM and bragging about their Hondas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF kind of question is this? OP your post makes you sound jealous and kind of piggish.

I am upper class, we live in an older home, drive average cars, take nice vacations, but OMG I AM FAT, FAT, FAT. You probably think I'm LMC.

If you're female you are not UC if you're fat. Its part of the culture. You can be an alcoholic or drug addict, but not fat. It just doesnt happen. I literally can't think of one.... maybe Oprah, but she is exceptional in so many ways. Can anyone else think of a fat UC woman who puts herself in the spotlight? I they are an extreme minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF kind of question is this? OP your post makes you sound jealous and kind of piggish.

I am upper class, we live in an older home, drive average cars, take nice vacations, but OMG I AM FAT, FAT, FAT. You probably think I'm LMC.

If you're female you are not UC if you're fat. Its part of the culture. You can be an alcoholic or drug addict, but not fat. It just doesnt happen. I literally can't think of one.... maybe Oprah, but she is exceptional in so many ways. Can anyone else think of a fat UC woman who puts herself in the spotlight? I they are an extreme minority.

This isn’t true, it’s just more likely she inherited it. Fat women tend to be invisible so we fly under the radar in this too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do some of your brain cells self-combust when writing idiotic statements such as '[all] UMC women are pretty'?

See: Camilla Parker Bowles. I actually like her but I wouldn’t say she’s pretty. Also see: Kate/Meghan. They were both UMC by American standards before they got married and much prettier.

[Anonymous]

Here are some of my instant observations and takeaways;

DC’s first names are markers. Never trendy or invented but staid and boring.

Never a word or complaint about prices, tuition, bills.

Low key demeanor bordering on quiet and reserved. Not attention-seeking.

Clear, articulate speech not peppered with swear words.

Tends to be more private; not a social climber or interested in joining in cliques. Already had a small group of family and friends and that will suffice.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have to work, but I do and am in a low paying field and will never make 6 figures. Never.

I inherited enough money to buy our first home as newlyweds. Lived there a few years, flipped and bought newer, larger home. SAHM for years.

Parent died and left enough money to have DC graduate college debt free. Almost enough to get second DC through college but supplementing with my paycheck.

I fly under the radar.

[Anonymous]

The richest family I know is all about work. I had to google their net worth, because it doesn't show at all.
I know they are rich (or important when it comes to business) only because the people they meet at our restaurant for business are nervous, shaking, super polite with staff, keep asking where they should sit and so on.
Their clothes, cars, bling (non-existent), behavior does not hint their net worth. They might be ruthless when it comes to business though. I wouldn't want to meet them for business either. Enough that I have to wait on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know many, many moms who come from UMC who aren't trim, put together, don't drive nice cars, etc. I find women who come from poorer backgrounds but have made it to the UMC are more apt to cling to outward virtue signaling.

As for kids, I have known some lower middle class kids who are well spoken, confident, insightful vs some UMC children who are bratty, entitled, etc.

The question isn't about UMC, it is in regards to UC. To which no, there are not many UC obese women in their 20s-40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here are some of my instant observations and takeaways;

DC’s first names are markers. Never trendy or invented but staid and boring.

Never a word or complaint about prices, tuition, bills.

Low key demeanor bordering on quiet and reserved. Not attention-seeking.

Clear, articulate speech not peppered with swear words.

Tends to be more private; not a social climber or interested in joining in cliques. Already had a small group of family and friends and that will suffice.

I agree with this. Also, calm and never visibly harried or stressed because child care/meal prep/shopping is always easily managed and complaints go only to their therapist, who minimizes the chance of gossip and who they employ in the same way they might schedule their hair stylist or masseuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF kind of question is this? OP your post makes you sound jealous and kind of piggish.

I am upper class, we live in an older home, drive average cars, take nice vacations, but OMG I AM FAT, FAT, FAT. You probably think I'm LMC.

If you're female you are not UC if you're fat. Its part of the culture. You can be an alcoholic or drug addict, but not fat. It just doesnt happen. I literally can't think of one.... maybe Oprah, but she is exceptional in so many ways. Can anyone else think of a fat UC woman who puts herself in the spotlight? I they are an extreme minority.

I don't know what to tell you except that I am both upper class and fat. I'm sorry if you can't accept it. You sound kind of sad and pathetic, honestly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know many, many moms who come from UMC who aren't trim, put together, don't drive nice cars, etc. I find women who come from poorer backgrounds but have made it to the UMC are more apt to cling to outward virtue signaling.

As for kids, I have known some lower middle class kids who are well spoken, confident, insightful vs some UMC children who are bratty, entitled, etc.

The question isn't about UMC, it is in regards to UC. To which no, there are not many UC obese women in their 20s-40s.

I AM ONE. SUCK IT JEALOUS B_TCHES!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know many, many moms who come from UMC who aren't trim, put together, don't drive nice cars, etc. I find women who come from poorer backgrounds but have made it to the UMC are more apt to cling to outward virtue signaling.

As for kids, I have known some lower middle class kids who are well spoken, confident, insightful vs some UMC children who are bratty, entitled, etc.

The question isn't about UMC, it is in regards to UC. To which no, there are not many UC obese women in their 20s-40s.

True.

Even heiresses tend to be slim. It IS part of the culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know many, many moms who come from UMC who aren't trim, put together, don't drive nice cars, etc. I find women who come from poorer backgrounds but have made it to the UMC are more apt to cling to outward virtue signaling.

As for kids, I have known some lower middle class kids who are well spoken, confident, insightful vs some UMC children who are bratty, entitled, etc.

The question isn't about UMC, it is in regards to UC. To which no, there are not many UC obese women in their 20s-40s.

I AM ONE. SUCK IT JEALOUS B_TCHES!

Your language just told us that your not. Thanks for playing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know many, many moms who come from UMC who aren't trim, put together, don't drive nice cars, etc. I find women who come from poorer backgrounds but have made it to the UMC are more apt to cling to outward virtue signaling.

As for kids, I have known some lower middle class kids who are well spoken, confident, insightful vs some UMC children who are bratty, entitled, etc.

The question isn't about UMC, it is in regards to UC. To which no, there are not many UC obese women in their 20s-40s.

Ina Garten ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know many, many moms who come from UMC who aren't trim, put together, don't drive nice cars, etc. I find women who come from poorer backgrounds but have made it to the UMC are more apt to cling to outward virtue signaling.

As for kids, I have known some lower middle class kids who are well spoken, confident, insightful vs some UMC children who are bratty, entitled, etc.

The question isn't about UMC, it is in regards to UC. To which no, there are not many UC obese women in their 20s-40s.

I AM ONE. SUCK IT JEALOUS B_TCHES!

Your language just told us that your not. Thanks for playing.

NP but do you really think that just because someone is so-called "upper class", that they all look and speak the same way and they all buy the same things? I don't understand the people on this board who are obsessed with being "upper class" or wealthy. There is seriously something wrong with you. Be happy with what you have and stop putting people that are wealthier than you or you feel have some kind of status up on a pedestal. This is like the whole false idolatry thing. Stop worshiping something you know nothing about, ladies. It's pretty pathetic, to be honest.