Why are older men attracted to very young women when they are older?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

You’re dating someone 30 yrs younger than you. Yes, I know you have sex; it’s great. But what else do you do together outside of the house? What do you talk about? Do you have any kids and if so, how old are they? How long have you been dating her? Have you met any of her friends or her parents?

She's amazingly intelligent. Finishing a PhD in science. We talk about everything, and lose track of the time. She grew up respecting her father so she appreciates my wisdom and life experience. We have had many dates outside the house and a short road trip. We will go for longer trips once school is out. We also enjoy cooking together. I have late-teens kids. She had met one of my kids and that went well. I'll meet her parents soon.

Vomit.

In other words, she has daddy issues. Double vomit.

When I was 27 I would have gagged at the thought of dating someone older than my father. Any woman in her 20s who is serious about a guy in his late 50s is dealing with some messed up s**t.

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[Anonymous]

Maybe because they enjoy being in control.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

You’re dating someone 30 yrs younger than you. Yes, I know you have sex; it’s great. But what else do you do together outside of the house? What do you talk about? Do you have any kids and if so, how old are they? How long have you been dating her? Have you met any of her friends or her parents?

She's amazingly intelligent. Finishing a PhD in science. We talk about everything, and lose track of the time. She grew up respecting her father so she appreciates my wisdom and life experience. We have had many dates outside the house and a short road trip. We will go for longer trips once school is out. We also enjoy cooking together. I have late-teens kids. She had met one of my kids and that went well. I'll meet her parents soon.

Vomit.

In other words, she has daddy issues. Double vomit.

When I was 27 I would have gagged at the thought of dating someone older than my father. Any woman in her 20s who is serious about a guy in his late 50s is dealing with some messed up s**t.

OP here. Yes. Can't imagine from a woman's perspective. Both people to me are seriously messed up but still studies show men spend their energy here when they are single and older so it's interesting to me.

[Anonymous]

People have always hated on non-traditional dating and relationships. Whether its interracial, gay, age gap, rich/poor, etc - there’s always been someone to give dirty looks and have their opinions. Honestly, people should just mind their own business and let everyone else pursue their happiness while they pursue their own.

[Anonymous]

As someone with relatives in a European country where a generation ago there was frequently a 15+ age gap between husbands and wives (primarily for economic reasons), I can tell you how it ends: the younger wife eventually becomes a caretaker as chronic diseases emerge, as early as in their 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

You’re dating someone 30 yrs younger than you. Yes, I know you have sex; it’s great. But what else do you do together outside of the house? What do you talk about? Do you have any kids and if so, how old are they? How long have you been dating her? Have you met any of her friends or her parents?

She's amazingly intelligent. Finishing a PhD in science. We talk about everything, and lose track of the time. She grew up respecting her father so she appreciates my wisdom and life experience. We have had many dates outside the house and a short road trip. We will go for longer trips once school is out. We also enjoy cooking together. I have late-teens kids. She had met one of my kids and that went well. I'll meet her parents soon.

Vomit.

In other words, she has daddy issues. Double vomit.

When I was 27 I would have gagged at the thought of dating someone older than my father. Any woman in her 20s who is serious about a guy in his late 50s is dealing with some messed up s**t.

OP here. Yes. Can't imagine from a woman's perspective. Both people to me are seriously messed up but still studies show men spend their energy here when they are single and older so it's interesting to me.

As long as they have no issues, who are you to say they are f'ed up? You women are just jealous that 20-something hot girls are taking your men

[Anonymous]

I think older men who are chronically attracted to younger women (19-23ish, not so much the 25+ females) tend to have not ever developed an ability to relate and have genuine friendship or partnership with the opposite sex that isn’t in a dynamic where one is agreeing or submitting to the other side.

I think most people can all around agree that females in their youth have many attractive aspects, but this is very different then wanting to fornicate and spend all of one’s free time with someone who is the same age as your own daughter or grand-daughter.

I also this the 25 age is a big one for females. The frontal cortex in women literally doesn’t fully develop until around 25, so dating younger than that you are dating someone who still fits the bill for child development despite legally being an adult. I think mid 20’s is also big identity milestone for women. 23 versus 26 is much bigger difference than 18 versus 21 in terms of overall growth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think older men who are chronically attracted to younger women (19-23ish, not so much the 25+ females) tend to have not ever developed an ability to relate and have genuine friendship or partnership with the opposite sex that isn’t in a dynamic where one is agreeing or submitting to the other side.

I think most people can all around agree that females in their youth have many attractive aspects, but this is very different then wanting to fornicate and spend all of one’s free time with someone who is the same age as your own daughter or grand-daughter.

I also this the 25 age is a big one for females. The frontal cortex in women literally doesn’t fully develop until around 25, so dating younger than that you are dating someone who still fits the bill for child development despite legally being an adult. I think mid 20’s is also big identity milestone for women. 23 versus 26 is much bigger difference than 18 versus 21 in terms of overall growth.

And in this vein a female around 20 trying to date 40+ also has relational issues. This is different than a 20 year old thinking a 40, 50 year old is attractive.

Ultimately people paid off quite well. So regardless of age if a 50 year old man is pairing off with a 20 year old woman it’s because they are both comparable in their emotional maturity.

[Anonymous]

pair* off (not paid off)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Younger women are prettier, have better bodies, and most important, they have better personalities. I'm a 56 year old man dating a 27 year old.

In this scenario (almost 30 year age difference) the young woman is often (not always, but often) using the older man for what she can get. I had a friend who was very open about the fact that she didn't want to live through the "lean years" where she could not afford the house, vehicle and lifestyle that she wanted. She married a much older man, stayed with him for 10 years and then left with everything she could.

She was less open (shared with a close circle of our female friends) about how easy it was to "land" and older man. She would openly flirt with him (something his ex-wife had stopped doing a few years into their marriage), flatter him and praise him in front of his male friends. Basically she played him like a fiddle. Was it manipulation? Sure, but he was old enough to make his own choices.

[Anonymous]

Because older women tend to be combative instead of cooperative. Younger women don't have the emotional damage and baggage that older women do, either. If he wants children and family, then he doesn't want a woman who is already careening toward 40 (or is over 40), being with you for more than a bit of fun is a non-starter. That's it in a nutshell. Sorry the truth hurts.

[Anonymous]

Let's just be honest. Younger women look better. If you can get them, why not?

How many women on here wouldn't want to look like their younger self?

Stop trying to figure it out. It's pretty basic.

[Anonymous]

Older man who wants a prettier (usually means younger) wife and a younger woman who wants a more financially secure husband = match. What's the question...it's two consenting adults and they both get what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think older men who are chronically attracted to younger women (19-23ish, not so much the 25+ females) tend to have not ever developed an ability to relate and have genuine friendship or partnership with the opposite sex that isn’t in a dynamic where one is agreeing or submitting to the other side.

I think most people can all around agree that females in their youth have many attractive aspects, but this is very different then wanting to fornicate and spend all of one’s free time with someone who is the same age as your own daughter or grand-daughter.

I also this the 25 age is a big one for females. The frontal cortex in women literally doesn’t fully develop until around 25, so dating younger than that you are dating someone who still fits the bill for child development despite legally being an adult. I think mid 20’s is also big identity milestone for women. 23 versus 26 is much bigger difference than 18 versus 21 in terms of overall growth.

Well you lose all credibility when you refer to two adults having sex as fornicating.

[Anonymous]

Because they are delusional.