Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

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Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

Why? What if your long-lost friend who you worked with 20 years ago before you became a SAHM and your friend moved across the country also has a child who is gong to be a classmate of your kid. Let’s say it’s at a big school like Michigan, where they might never meet or, at least they might never know that their moms were old friends if they did meet. Wouldn’t it be nice to connect them over the summer? Maybe they’ll become friends too!

You seemed obsessed with this notion your kid will find the kid of a long-lost friend. In this scenario in your head, do they date and then get married and the whole extended family spends holidays at a ranch in Wyoming?

I assumed that was a /s post, but maybe I am wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

Surely this is a troll? Why would your friends of FB feel sorry for you that your kid is going to college? It is a big moment for the entire family. Similar to posting about HS graduation? Isn't this the point of social media, if you care to partake?

I assure you, I am not a troll. I'm speaking for what I really think is the Silent Majority. Posting a graduation pic of Larla is great; announcing where she is going to college and how "proud" you are is not.

I 100% agree with this!!!!!!!!!!!!!! People who post these brags make themselves look like idiots and most definitely NAUSEATE their "friends." I agree with this poster whom you are calling a troll. I assure you she is not a troll and neither am I.

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Same poster as above-- I wanted to mention a woman in my neighborhood who made a HUGE, personalized banner for her child who got into a school and hung it on the front of her house. I walked by one day and just thought how pathetic she was. It really is pathetic to shout out where your kids get into school. It is shameless bragging.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

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I think it is fine and I love seeing where others are going. Plus you can make connections for the kids that way too.

If people think that someone saying where their kid is going to school on fb is 'tacky' then to me that signifies their self worth (and/or that of their circle) is determined to much by their kids' accomplishments and how they measure up to other kids.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

Surely this is a troll? Why would your friends of FB feel sorry for you that your kid is going to college? It is a big moment for the entire family. Similar to posting about HS graduation? Isn't this the point of social media, if you care to partake?

I assure you, I am not a troll. I'm speaking for what I really think is the Silent Majority. Posting a graduation pic of Larla is great; announcing where she is going to college and how "proud" you are is not.

The internal issues you must be dealing with are something. Don't want to seethe about where your friend's kid is going? Scroll right on by.

The way some of you are triggered by people posting their kids' college destinations is like:

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If the kid wants to mention where they are going on their Facebook, yes.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

Surely this is a troll? Why would your friends of FB feel sorry for you that your kid is going to college? It is a big moment for the entire family. Similar to posting about HS graduation? Isn't this the point of social media, if you care to partake?

I assure you, I am not a troll. I'm speaking for what I really think is the Silent Majority. Posting a graduation pic of Larla is great; announcing where she is going to college and how "proud" you are is not.

That is such a f’ed up worldview. Why would you even be on Facebook if that’s how you feel about people you nominally consider to be your “friends”?

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Anonymous wrote:The thing I like best about this message board is that it helps me see how strange some people are when they can offer their views in anonymity.

It’s so bizarre that people are advocating against using Facebook for one of its principal intended purposes of sharing important and exciting news with your Facebook friends.

Yes. Indeed! These are your friends!! They should be happy for you/kid. You are happy for them and their kids too. Friendship.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

You must hate your friends.

Other pp, glad you have nice friends who appreciate each other, not catty gossips disguised as "friends."

You put that stuff on FB, and here's the truth.

1. A few relatives and very close friends care.

2. The overwhelming majority don't give a flying fig and scroll right past it.

3. The remaining folks laugh at you or pity you.

You're kidding yourself if you think the proportions are any different than this.

Wow. This is just sad. No joke, the proportions are totally different for me. Thankful for my friends. Hope you can make some better friends!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

Why? What if your long-lost friend who you worked with 20 years ago before you became a SAHM and your friend moved across the country also has a child who is gong to be a classmate of your kid. Let’s say it’s at a big school like Michigan, where they might never meet or, at least they might never know that their moms were old friends if they did meet. Wouldn’t it be nice to connect them over the summer? Maybe they’ll become friends too!

You seemed obsessed with this notion your kid will find the kid of a long-lost friend. In this scenario in your head, do they date and then get married and the whole extended family spends holidays at a ranch in Wyoming?

I assumed that was a /s post, but maybe I am wrong.

Different poster. I don’t know why you would think that. I have a college friend and a grad school friend who live in different cities—Chicago and LA. Both their sons started at Wisconsin a few years ago. We connected them over the summer before freshman year and now they are close friends. Would they have become friends without me connecting them? Maybe, who knows. What I can say is they both appreciated it, as did my friends, i.e. their parents. I don’t talk to either of them frequently enough that I would have know about the Wisconsin connection without Facebook and their posts.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

No, I am happy because that is what the child wanted. It is you who is projecting....this area is crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

Surely this is a troll? Why would your friends of FB feel sorry for you that your kid is going to college? It is a big moment for the entire family. Similar to posting about HS graduation? Isn't this the point of social media, if you care to partake?

I assure you, I am not a troll. I'm speaking for what I really think is the Silent Majority. Posting a graduation pic of Larla is great; announcing where she is going to college and how "proud" you are is not.

Ahahaha, which one? The Silent Majority that regularly posts on their vaccine research or the one cataloguing all the potential microagressions?

[Anonymous]

I get that people want to post and I do like to see where friends' kids are going. But definitely wait until decision day. It's just the thoughtful thing to do.

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Anonymous wrote:I get that people want to post and I do like to see where friends' kids are going. But definitely wait until decision day. It's just the thoughtful thing to do.

Ipse dixit