Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll take the opposite view and say it could be a nice way to share good news with far-flung friends and family. One idea: wait until May 1 when everyone knows where they are going. I enjoyed catching up with friends who posted about their college-bound kids last year on decision day.

+1 I love seeing where my kids' friends are going and did share DS's decision last May. It was such a diversity of schools and, with another kid starting their search now, I enjoyed when parents mentioned specific programs or features that their kid was excited about.

Definitely no to sharing every acceptance..

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Anonymous wrote:The thing I like best about this message board is that it helps me see how strange some people are when they can offer their views in anonymity.

It’s so bizarre that people are advocating against using Facebook for one of its principal intended purposes of sharing important and exciting news with your Facebook friends.

Yes. Indeed! These are your friends!! They should be happy for you/kid. You are happy for them and their kids too. Friendship.

I mean, there are friends. And then there are “Facebook friends.”

But, really, people who are braggy and annoying in real life will make me roll my eyes with just about anything they post. People who I like in real life I feel happy for when they post good news. (But most of my real friends don’t ever post anything anymore.)

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Anonymous wrote:At a minimum, as a kind thing to do, wait until May when the dust has settled. There are lots of hard-working and great kids out there who are not getting into the college of their choice.

Ideally, wait until move-in day at the dorm.

Why? What if your long-lost friend who you worked with 20 years ago before you became a SAHM and your friend moved across the country also has a child who is gong to be a classmate of your kid. Let’s say it’s at a big school like Michigan, where they might never meet or, at least they might never know that their moms were old friends if they did meet. Wouldn’t it be nice to connect them over the summer? Maybe they’ll become friends too!

You seemed obsessed with this notion your kid will find the kid of a long-lost friend. In this scenario in your head, do they date and then get married and the whole extended family spends holidays at a ranch in Wyoming?

Not the one who posted this but actually, yes I have a friend who found out her friend's kid was going to same school (lived in different states.) The kids did in fact did get married. It happens. And FWIW posting one tasteful photo is fine. Maybe wait until fall, maybe not. No biggie. I personally like seeing where kids go off to!

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I would wait to post to Facebook until after graduation. "Congratulations to Jane on graduating from High School. She's so excited to go to UVA this fall!"

If you must, at least wait until the spring. A lot of people are still waiting to hear.

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I think it’s fine to announce the college destination.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

This. Seriously, PP, you think your friends are more interested in your dogs than a major milestone in your family's life? That's just weird. if you don't want to know about your friends' lives, why do you follow them anyway?

Those who object to sharing the news as "bragging", is it just because you are assuming they are posting about some highly ranked school? Is it OK with you if the parent share that DC is going to some mid ranked college you've never heard of? Or does that turn it from bragging to pathetic? You all sound insecure, shallow, and I don't actually think anyone you follow on social media is an actual friend.

I love getting news from my far-flung friends about what's going on in their life and sending a kid to college is a big transition for parents and child. If I was going to laugh at them, roll my eyes, feel jealous etc, then that's not someone I'd want to follow in social media to start with.

I shared DS's decision in May and enjoyed seeing where other kids were going. I heard from parents with kids at the same college and they shared some pointers, which was helpful.

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Anonymous wrote:The thing I like best about this message board is that it helps me see how strange some people are when they can offer their views in anonymity.

It’s so bizarre that people are advocating against using Facebook for one of its principal intended purposes of sharing important and exciting news with your Facebook friends.

Yes. Indeed! These are your friends!! They should be happy for you/kid. You are happy for them and their kids too. Friendship.

I mean, there are friends. And then there are “Facebook friends.”

But, really, people who are braggy and annoying in real life will make me roll my eyes with just about anything they post. People who I like in real life I feel happy for when they post good news. (But most of my real friends don’t ever post anything anymore.)

If they are braggy and annoying in real life, why do you follow them?

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Anonymous wrote:The thing I like best about this message board is that it helps me see how strange some people are when they can offer their views in anonymity.

It’s so bizarre that people are advocating against using Facebook for one of its principal intended purposes of sharing important and exciting news with your Facebook friends.

Yes. Indeed! These are your friends!! They should be happy for you/kid. You are happy for them and their kids too. Friendship.

I mean, there are friends. And then there are “Facebook friends.”

But, really, people who are braggy and annoying in real life will make me roll my eyes with just about anything they post. People who I like in real life I feel happy for when they post good news. (But most of my real friends don’t ever post anything anymore.)

If they are braggy and annoying in real life, why do you follow them?

I’ve silenced most of them, but to be completely honest, the braggy, annoying people who are so desperate for attention are often the most entertaining part about FB. It like the worst person on a reality TV show who the producers keep around til the very end because they know people can’t help but watch a train wreck.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course! I've been looking forward to making this post for years. (Agree with others - no mention of scholarship, no "turned down 15 other schools," etc. Just a cute picture of your kid wearing the sweatshirt.)

Pathetic.

You don't have kids, do you PP? You're one of those sad 50+ age single women who troll this site when you should be working on a memo to Brenda in accounting, wishing you could do it all over again.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

You are so weirdly argumentative. A piece of information that ends up on someone’s wedding announcement or obituary is by definition a life milestone. Where you went to college is such a thing. And especially snce most parents of 18 year olds haven’t experienced some of those other milestones for their children yet, it is absolutely a milestone to celebrate and be proud of.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

This. Seriously, PP, you think your friends are more interested in your dogs than a major milestone in your family's life? That's just weird. if you don't want to know about your friends' lives, why do you follow them anyway?

Those who object to sharing the news as "bragging", is it just because you are assuming they are posting about some highly ranked school? Is it OK with you if the parent share that DC is going to some mid ranked college you've never heard of? Or does that turn it from bragging to pathetic? You all sound insecure, shallow, and I don't actually think anyone you follow on social media is an actual friend.

I love getting news from my far-flung friends about what's going on in their life and sending a kid to college is a big transition for parents and child. If I was going to laugh at them, roll my eyes, feel jealous etc, then that's not someone I'd want to follow in social media to start with.

I shared DS's decision in May and enjoyed seeing where other kids were going. I heard from parents with kids at the same college and they shared some pointers, which was helpful.

Of course you did. Barf.

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Anonymous wrote:Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

What are you, crazy? At age 18, better hope the kid's milestone isn't getting married or having a child. After 18 years in the home, a kid heading off to college is a move into adulthood. It's a big milestone. College usually is a formative experience and a source of alumni pride in the decades that follow.

Celebrate and trumpet the hell out of that.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course! I've been looking forward to making this post for years. (Agree with others - no mention of scholarship, no "turned down 15 other schools," etc. Just a cute picture of your kid wearing the sweatshirt.)

Pathetic.

You don't have kids, do you PP? You're one of those sad 50+ age single women who troll this site when you should be working on a memo to Brenda in accounting, wishing you could do it all over again.

None of that is true, but even if it were -- it's no more pathetic than "looking forward for years to making a college acceptance post." I mean, wow.

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Anonymous wrote:We are excited that 'Jane' will be attending Radford in the fall vs We are excited that "Jane" will be attending Princeton in the fall??

Why do people need to apologize about their child going to Princeton? My child will not be going to Princeton, but I can still be happy for those that got the school they wanted - Princeton or otherwise. Our neighbor's child is going to Yale. Very happy about it.

Why are you "very happy" that your neighbor's kid is going to Yale? I'll tell you why -- because that kind of stuff is very important to you. That's how you measure people. Odd.

Do you have any actual friends? You don’t seem to understand how friendships work, on even a most basic level.

I actually have many. And I manage to keep them by not bragging about my kids on social media.

I can understand that, but isn't that the point of FB to provide the going ons of you and your family?

I have never in my life posted a single picture of any of my considerably accomplished kids announcing an accomplishment. I could fill social media up with them if I wanted to.

My social media posts are dogs, babies, and unflattering and self-deprecating pics of myself. That's all anybody really needs to see to know the "goings on" of me and my family.

To be fair, going off to college isn't just an accomplishment, but a life milestone. It's up there with getting married or having a child or becoming empty nesters or retiring. Sharing milestones is generally fine, even if there are those who are struggling with infertility or can't afford to retire. Just share in a kind way.

Heading off to college is hardly the "mile stone" that getting married or having child is. You cannot be serious.

You are so weirdly argumentative. A piece of information that ends up on someone’s wedding announcement or obituary is by definition a life milestone. Where you went to college is such a thing. And especially snce most parents of 18 year olds haven’t experienced some of those other milestones for their children yet, it is absolutely a milestone to celebrate and be proud of.

A significant life event? Ok, maybe -- I grant you that. But "up there with getting married or having a baby?" THOSE are milestones. Anybody who equates going to college with getting married or having a baby has a screw loose -- unless they plan on staying in school forever.