DD has to wake up DH on school mornings
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Anonymous
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I have to leave for the office 30-45 minutes before DD's bus comes. I wake her up in the morning to spend time with her, make her breakfast, help her with her hair, etc (she's almost 9). DH WFH and takes her to the bus. When I leave, he's still asleep. Today I was able to take her to the bus due to a later meeting and she mentioned how she liked that vs. her hanging out by herself after I leave and how she has to wake DH for him to get her to the bus on time. I generally let him know when I'm leaving and was under the impression that he was getting up after I left. Apparently not, and DD is waking him up 5 minutes before they need to leave.
I'm appalled that a child is responsible for waking up her parent, particularly as she's an only child and she's hanging out by herself. When I leave, she's generally watching TV while eating her breakfast. Am I out of line bringing this up to DH? |
Anonymous
| Definitely bring this up to DH. He should get up when you're leaving. |
Anonymous
| Why can’t she get herself to the bus stop? I don’t thing it’s an issue that he sleeps until it’s time to leave. I have mixed feeling on a nine year old waking a parent to ask for a ride but ultimately wouldn’t make an issue of it. |
Anonymous
| A nine year old should absolutely be capable of hanging by themselves for a half hour. Hell, they should be capable of locking the door and going to the bus stop on time without adult supervision. |
Anonymous
| I think it's great that she is learning responsibility. DH should set an alarm too though |
Anonymous
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What's DH doing instead of going to bed earlier at night?
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Anonymous
| She could do homework or something productive before school, and play with DH in the afternoon/evening. |
Anonymous
OP here. She's totally fine to be by herself, I don't have safety concerns about it or anything. I think it's too far for her to walk on her own by herself. The bus stop isn't super close to our house and our neighborhood doesn't have sidewalks. My issue is more that she's being responsible for her parent to wake him up on time. He should set an alarm is my point. It's not like he's an overnight shift worker ... he works a typical 8-5 job and should be able to get himself up on time by 7:40am IMO. |
Anonymous
Watching TV, reading, etc. Nothing crazy, but he's not coming to bed till like 1am. |
Anonymous
So tell him a 9 yr old is not a consistently reliable alarm clock and to set one as backup. Why are you crowdsourcing whether and how to talk to your own husband? Something in your relationship is broken if you need help with this. |
Anonymous
This. BUT, if DH is going to take her to the bus stop, he should be responsible for setting an alarm clock and getting up on his own. What time are we talking? Laziness is such a turn off, but I am sure you were aware of his laziness before marrying him. |
Anonymous
OP here. I'm just asking opinions, like 99% of the threads on this website. Feel free to ignore particular posts. |
Anonymous
OP here. They need to be out the door by 7:40am to get to the bus. It's not that she can't or isn't responsible for herself, I just think he's being lazy. He actually wasn't lazy at all when I met him. |
Anonymous
| I don’t fe strongly either way. I don’t think it’s as appalling as you do but I’d probably be slightly annoyed. |
Anonymous
| Yes, discuss it with him. I would be furious tbh. |