Boyfriend asked how I'd feel about dressing sexier

[Anonymous]

He stressed NOT slutty. Just sexier. I basically dress like I did back in 6th grade. Kind of like Jennifer Garner. Thing is I'd be fine with dressing sexier except I don't know how beyond black lingerie and not flannel pjs (but then what?). My mom would be no help - when I went to prom she got me a dress she and my grandma thought was pretty. My friends are no help - we're all pretty nerdy or athletic. Too embarrassed to ask my brother - might be an awkward conversation.

I have a good body, kind of small boobs, long-ish legs, and I wear a lot of jeans and sweaters or hoodies and sneakers. Can you send me links? I'm fine with dresses or skirts or whatever, as long as everything is machine wash and not dry clean. I work in recruiting for tech and generally wear a sweater for zoom interviews so don't dress up much for work.

[Anonymous]

Can he point to some examples of what he means by sexy but not slutty? A woman in a movie or an ad or something?

[Anonymous]

He should pay for a personal stylist and the three of you should go shopping (on his dime of course).
Otherwise he is cheap and tacky to be asking you to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should pay for a personal stylist and the three of you should go shopping (on his dime of course).
Otherwise he is cheap and tacky to be asking you to do that.

I remember I had an older boyfriend who would take me shopping and suggest outfits and I loved it. He paid of course.

[Anonymous]

He doesn’t want you to dress sexier to work, right?

Just when you 2 are going out or maybe staying home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should pay for a personal stylist and the three of you should go shopping (on his dime of course).
Otherwise he is cheap and tacky to be asking you to do that.

I remember I had an older boyfriend who would take me shopping and suggest outfits and I loved it. He paid of course.

Can you give me any tips on what kind of outfits? Or what stores you got them from? I am a little stressed about the pj thing - I still want to be comfortable to go to sleep. On tv women go to sleep in bras with underwires and that looks so uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He doesn’t want you to dress sexier to work, right? Just when you 2 are going out or maybe staying home?

I think so. I can't imagine he cares what I wear to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should pay for a personal stylist and the three of you should go shopping (on his dime of course).
Otherwise he is cheap and tacky to be asking you to do that.

I remember I had an older boyfriend who would take me shopping and suggest outfits and I loved it. He paid of course.

Can you give me any tips on what kind of outfits? Or what stores you got them from? I am a little stressed about the pj thing - I still want to be comfortable to go to sleep. On tv women go to sleep in bras with underwires and that looks so uncomfortable.

For bedtime shorts that are bit too short but stretchy so comfy and a white tank no bra.

Start there and add a new thing every month.

Don’t go out and get 10 sexy outfits.

Lingerie is over rated.

Nothing better than a fitted white tshirt no bra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should pay for a personal stylist and the three of you should go shopping (on his dime of course).
Otherwise he is cheap and tacky to be asking you to do that.

I remember I had an older boyfriend who would take me shopping and suggest outfits and I loved it. He paid of course.

Can you give me any tips on what kind of outfits? Or what stores you got them from? I am a little stressed about the pj thing - I still want to be comfortable to go to sleep. On tv women go to sleep in bras with underwires and that looks so uncomfortable.

It was many years ago!
It was also more along the lines of business casual, surprisingly.

For sleeping I am imagining something silky (great to show your nipple!) and strappy and lacey.
Sleeping nude is also great imo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should pay for a personal stylist and the three of you should go shopping (on his dime of course).
Otherwise he is cheap and tacky to be asking you to do that.

I remember I had an older boyfriend who would take me shopping and suggest outfits and I loved it. He paid of course.

Can you give me any tips on what kind of outfits? Or what stores you got them from? I am a little stressed about the pj thing - I still want to be comfortable to go to sleep. On tv women go to sleep in bras with underwires and that looks so uncomfortable.

For bedtime shorts that are bit too short but stretchy so comfy and a white tank no bra.

Start there and add a new thing every month.

Don’t go out and get 10 sexy outfits.

Lingerie is over rated.

Nothing better than a fitted white tshirt no bra.

You should have said you are a different poster…
(And I don’t think white t shirts are particularly sexy, no)

[Anonymous]

Go shopping with him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should pay for a personal stylist and the three of you should go shopping (on his dime of course).
Otherwise he is cheap and tacky to be asking you to do that.

I remember I had an older boyfriend who would take me shopping and suggest outfits and I loved it. He paid of course.

Can you give me any tips on what kind of outfits? Or what stores you got them from? I am a little stressed about the pj thing - I still want to be comfortable to go to sleep. On tv women go to sleep in bras with underwires and that looks so uncomfortable.

For bedtime shorts that are bit too short but stretchy so comfy and a white tank no bra.

Start there and add a new thing every month.

Don’t go out and get 10 sexy outfits.

Lingerie is over rated.

Nothing better than a fitted white tshirt no bra.

You should have said you are a different poster…
(And I don’t think white t shirts are particularly sexy, no)

You are clearly not a man.

We are talking about what men find sexy. I know men and yes a tiny white t … they love. The peaking butt cheeks , yes.

[Anonymous]

What about buying one nice but not too fancy dress? Like a fitted Boden dress that flatters/gives some curves with a pair of wedge sandals ? I wear a lot of pants and sweaters but my spouse definitely appreciates when I kick it up a notch and put on a dress and show a little leg and cleavage without it being over the top SEXY, just more stereotypically feminine. Or go shopping with him and try stuff on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about buying one nice but not too fancy dress? Like a fitted Boden dress that flatters/gives some curves with a pair of wedge sandals ? I wear a lot of pants and sweaters but my spouse definitely appreciates when I kick it up a notch and put on a dress and show a little leg and cleavage without it being over the top SEXY, just more stereotypically feminine. Or go shopping with him and try stuff on!

Boden is not sexy.

[Anonymous]

Skirt

https://www.zara.com/us/en/box-pleat-mini-skirt-p07385576.html?v1=334216362&v2=2353246

Top (which also looks great with jeans)

https://www.zara.com/us/en/front-bows-top-p02866536.html?v1=345830676&v2=2353012

Body suits are in

https://www.zara.com/us/en/delicate-polo-collar-bodysuit-p03644001.html?v1=338125164&v2=2352998

This with jeans

https://www.zara.com/us/en/soft-stretch-bodysuit-p01165001.html?v1=343727596&v2=2352998