Was is always so hard for American youth to find good partners

[Anonymous]

Was is always so hard for American youth to find good partners or is this a new issue? I see so many in their late 20's-late 30's who want to find ling term partners but things just don't work out. Why is that so?

[Anonymous]

It’s worse now. Social media gives people unrealistic expectations and dating apps give people the illusion of infinite options. These two work together so that you’re always on the lookout for someone slightly better than who you’re with now. Technology messed things up big time. Economic factors don’t help either.

[Anonymous]

American youth?? Lots of European countries have later average for age of first marriage.

[Anonymous]

Agree there are totally unrealistic expectations for partners these days. This, your partner should be your best friend, is bit misleading, as are all the Disney movies and rom coms. Wish there were a better way to convey real life and prepare the youth for it.

[Anonymous]

It was always this hard. People forget.

[Anonymous]

Used to be church

[Anonymous]

Since the founding of this country.

[Anonymous]

Social media has made people delusional about partner expectations. About 2% of men are over 6ft tall and make over $100k yet all women think they deserve one.

[Anonymous]

It seems people find good options but are told to have several relationships and not commit before 35, which often means missing their best opportunities. It eliminates high school, college and grad school relationships. Not many go to church or stay in same town where they grow up so eliminates people you know well. Its a huge no to let parents set them up or marrying even distant cousins so that eliminates many options. Its frowned upon to get involved with co-workers so that eliminates others. Only options seems to be people at random dating apps, bars or parties, most of which turns out duds.

[Anonymous]

The kind of man women want will refuse to commit to just about any woman.

[Anonymous]

Uhhh I think for the rest of human history, people just married virtual strangers, or at best, someone who was “good enough”. It’s hard now because people arent just marrying the first person they kiss. The trade off of women not being pressured to marry the first guy who shows them interest in high school, is that they might not find anyone at all.

[Anonymous]

Women have higher standards because they have more economic options.
It's not good or bad, it just is.

I have 10 cousins, ranging from 34-54. Only three of them are married and of those only one has kids. The others are not married, but recently two have had babies at 36-37. One has been trying desperately for years. Aside from one cousin, the others all met their significant other after 30.

[Anonymous]

They don’t want to marry people that they don’t get along with, share a values system with, or share common goals with.

Also, some people have always lied about these things in order to get married and then changed their views after the wedding and those usually end in divorce or living separate lives in the same household.

Neither sounds appealing.

It’s also a lot of hard work to maintain relationships and many people just don’t want to do all that work. It’s easier to just have serial monogamy in those cases.

None of this is new with any generation. I know Boomers who are gay and in heterosexual marriages for example. They either end in divorce or they just live like asexual siblings and who knows what they do in their free time.

[Anonymous]

Because there is no longer the expectation that women will be married and pushing out babies by a certain age, so they don't rush to marry. They don't go to college to get an Mrs. degree, they get actual degrees, and can support themselves financially so they don't have to put up with a crappy husband just to have a roof over their head, or be looked down on as an old maid.

Unlike my grandparents' generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kind of man women want will refuse to commit to just about any woman.

You might want to meet more women. That’s definitely not true and a sexist stereotype.