Family wants DH to chip in to help SIL buy house that costs more than ours
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Anonymous
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SIL has always led an extravagant lifestyle (compared to us), living in expensive homes and wearing designer clothes, getting plastic surgery, vacationing for months at a time in Europe. Now she's divorced and retired and on a budget for the first time in her life (she made a lot of money, but didn't save much), and in search of a place to live. She turns up her nose at almost everything, and has her heart set on a 1.5 million dollar, 4,000 square foot home on 10 acres. She can afford about half that. She thinks she is entitled to live in such a house, and has tried to convince all her siblings to "invest" in her home to help her buy it. At least one of the siblings is considering it, and says he feels bad for her because she used to live so well and now has "nothing." He suggested he and DH help out.
DH and I live in a house that is currently valued at 850K (in Northern Virginia), and is badly in need of updates. Last year the same sibling convinced DH to chip in to cover a good amount in SIL's medical bills. I didn't oppose that. But I do oppose helping her to buy this house. I'm pretty sure DH will not do it, but I'm annoyed that he and the sibling keep saying how they feel so sorry for SIL. I do not feel sorry for her at all. This is DCUM, if anywhere there are people who can dredge up sympathy for someone who can't afford a 1.5 million dollar house, it's here. What say you? Worthy of sympathy or am I just cold-hearted? |
Anonymous
| No, everyone needs to stop helping. She can get a $500K house. |
Anonymous
| Zero sympathy. She can get a smaller house instead. "Investment" my booty. |
Anonymous
| NO WAY |
Anonymous
| Oh, hell no! |
Anonymous
| B—-h can live in a one-bedroom condo. |
Anonymous
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Could she have my sympathy? Sure - I feel bad that she was not taught to mange her money and has grown up into an irresponsible adult. But I would not even consider investing in a house. This is why she is bad with money - she gets bailed out. If she cannot afford the house, she is not going to be able to afford the taxes and up keep. You are doing her a favor by not helping her buy a house she cannot afford.
If her siblings really want to help her, they sh-had sit down with her and help her figure out a budget. And make sure she is saving for retirement! |
Anonymous
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Absolutely not.
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Anonymous
| Whose going to take care of that much house and land if she's retired and pay property taxes? |
Anonymous
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Spell it out to your husband. Health is one thing, but living a middle class lifestyle instead of an upper middle class one will not kill your SIL. But in the presence of all your other in-laws, you say you're so sorry, you feel bad, poor SIL, how could this happen, really what a tragedy, sniff, sniff. And keep the wallet firmly shut. |
Anonymous
Are you from the culture as your husband’s family? |
Anonymous
| troll |
Anonymous
| Hell to the no. No no no way! |
Anonymous
| This family dynamic is so creepy. |
Anonymous
| Absolutely not. |