DD heard listening to explicit music

[Anonymous]

DD (14) was recently caught blasting some inappropriate music in her room, and he reason why I have a problem with this is not because I think my daughter lacks maturity, but because I don't want her role models for how to be a woman to be "sexy red" talking about their "co*ch*e".

When we gave her a phone in seventh grade, we clearly outlined that we always have access to her phone because we are the ones who bought it/we pay for her plan etc.. But, even though I don't like this music is it a step too far to be censoring the music she listens to? Otherwise she is a very good kid and I want to give her some freedom but the song really rubbed me the wrong way

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but music taste is not a hill I would die on. You can talk to your daughter about the imagery and why you don't like it, but you should not forbid anybody to listen to any sort of music that they like to listen to.

[Anonymous]

We don’t censor but talk about appropriate real like behavior.

[Anonymous]

I have a DD the same age and I don’t make an issue over music, generally.

That aside, no clue what a “sexy red” is lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD (14) was recently caught blasting some inappropriate music in her room, and he reason why I have a problem with this is not because I think my daughter lacks maturity, but because I don't want her role models for how to be a woman to be "sexy red" talking about their "co*ch*e".

When we gave her a phone in seventh grade, we clearly outlined that we always have access to her phone because we are the ones who bought it/we pay for her plan etc.. But, even though I don't like this music is it a step too far to be censoring the music she listens to? Otherwise she is a very good kid and I want to give her some freedom but the song really rubbed me the wrong way

How old are you and what did you listen to when you were a teen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t censor but talk about appropriate real like behavior.

This - I explain why the songs are inappropriate, why the attitude behind the lyrics is problematic, and I insist on headphones. She can’t make me or her younger siblings listen to music that makes me uncomfortable or exposes younger kids to bad stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but music taste is not a hill I would die on. You can talk to your daughter about the imagery and why you don't like it, but you should not forbid anybody to listen to any sort of music that they like to listen to.

This. Censoring music has never worked for any parent.

[Anonymous]

I’m pretty strict but I don’t censor what my 11yo listens to.
We are white and DD is AA. She has started listening to rap music and music by primarily black artists. There is a lot of inappropriate language but I think she’s trying to identify with that side of herself.
She doesn’t repeat the language and I haven’t seen any inappropriate behavior.
Let it go OP.

[Anonymous]

Is "coochie" really a censorable word?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but music taste is not a hill I would die on. You can talk to your daughter about the imagery and why you don't like it, but you should not forbid anybody to listen to any sort of music that they like to listen to.

This. Censoring music has never worked for any parent.

Right.

Op, get her some headphones for Christmas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but music taste is not a hill I would die on. You can talk to your daughter about the imagery and why you don't like it, but you should not forbid anybody to listen to any sort of music that they like to listen to.

This. Censoring music has never worked for any parent.

Yep. My mom still talks about being horrified listening to my sisters and I belting out the lyrics to “Fire”. (E.g. “I say I don’t like it, but you know that I’m a liar…”)

[Anonymous]

I will never forget my mom asking my sister if I was depressed because I was listening to Smashing Pumpkins "despite all my rage I am still just a rat in a cage". No mom, it was just what was cool on the radio on the way to school.

I still think of her when I hear the song. She was very concerned! Bless her heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is "coochie" really a censorable word?

Muddy doesn't think so:



PLAY VIIDEO ▶

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_l6A7krjrQ

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will never forget my mom asking my sister if I was depressed because I was listening to Smashing Pumpkins "despite all my rage I am still just a rat in a cage". No mom, it was just what was cool on the radio on the way to school.

I still think of her when I hear the song. She was very concerned! Bless her heart.

TBF that was my wife's favorite song when we met and she is very often Very Depressed.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry it's her entertainment, not her role models!