Husband stopping at random dive bars for one beer?

[Anonymous]

Would this bother you? I saw these random $5-7 charges on our Amex statement at the most random bars. Husband said he sometimes gets the itch for one light beer and just likes to decompress. He works at various hospitals and says he just stop in places where he is sure he won’t know anyone for a quick “one and done” beer. He emphasized it is not mixed drinks, which could have 1-3 shots in it depending on the bartender, so drinking and driving isn’t an issue. It is sort of funny because he is not a big drinker at all. But it still seems weird to me.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he needs to have his one beer at home, not in a “dive.”

[Anonymous]

Not a good sign. He could be trawling.

[Anonymous]

What bothers you about this exactly? Is he not spending enough time with you? Your family?

This wouldn’t bother me, because I am similar to your husband in that sometimes I like to go to random places to decompress.

[Anonymous]

Sounds innocuous, if it really is what he’s describing. Let the man have a beer.

[Anonymous]

Is he looking for casual sex by going to 'random dive bars'? Sounds suspicious...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, he needs to have his one beer at home, not in a “dive.”

Why?

He’s not hiding anything. It’s right there on his Amex for OP to see, and he’s clearly not drinking too much to drive. He has a tough job and wants some down time. Whatever.

Don’t be a nag, OP.

[Anonymous]

yes - same as grabbing a coffee and decompressing at a bench at the park.

The big difference is the danger of alcholism.

Coffee addiction isn't explicitly hamrful to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he looking for casual sex by going to 'random dive bars'? Sounds suspicious...

1 beer for 30 minutes isn’t enough time to have some casual sex. Unless it’s a gay bar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds innocuous, if it really is what he’s describing. Let the man have a beer.

That sounds fun. I'm a woman and would LOVE a legit dive bar to stop in at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a good sign. He could be trawling.

Maybe I’m a clueless but I really doubt there are women at these bars? And he is only there for 10 or 15 minutes. He isn’t hiding this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What bothers you about this exactly? Is he not spending enough time with you? Your family?

This wouldn’t bother me, because I am similar to your husband in that sometimes I like to go to random places to decompress.

Just seemed out of the blue is all. He’s not hiding it. He doesn’t even really drink beer at home. We never buy it. He will drink a beer in social settings once in a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would this bother you? I saw these random $5-7 charges on our Amex statement at the most random bars. Husband said he sometimes gets the itch for one light beer and just likes to decompress. He works at various hospitals and says he just stop in places where he is sure he won’t know anyone for a quick “one and done” beer. He emphasized it is not mixed drinks, which could have 1-3 shots in it depending on the bartender, so drinking and driving isn’t an issue. It is sort of funny because he is not a big drinker at all. But it still seems weird to me.

Your controlling and he's suffocating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds innocuous, if it really is what he’s describing. Let the man have a beer.

That sounds fun. I'm a woman and would LOVE a legit dive bar to stop in at.

Maybe I’m using the dive term incorrectly. But they’re just not fancy and definitely not where white collar professionals go for a happy hour. They look like random crummy bars on Apple Maps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes - same as grabbing a coffee and decompressing at a bench at the park.

The big difference is the danger of alcholism.

Coffee addiction isn't explicitly hamrful to others.

Yes. Alcoholism from one light beer.