Mother in law is a copy cat (petty post)
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Anonymous
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Petty post…I’m sorry at times this gets at me.
My mother in law keeps copying me. We are over 40 years apart. We have different skin tones yet she will buy the makeup colors I wear. I’ve gotten into green colored clothing and now suddenly after our trip, this woman who only wore gray black and dk brown is wearing green and proclaiming she’s colorful. I started wearing super baggy jeans and now she’s ordered similar pairs. My earrings she saw the pearls and had to have the same. She saw my phone and cover combo. Had to get the same. If this was my sister or even sister in law. It would NOT bug me. |
Anonymous
| My mother did this with food, with my SIL. She'd order whatever my SIL did. For her it was a combination of being socially awkward yet trying to bond plus having unacknowledged anxiety and being overwhelmed by choices so picking something someone else chose. Do either of those ring true for you? If not, it could be the old "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery." |
Anonymous
| she has no other style barometer apparently - i would think you look different at any rate, i personally wouldn't let it bother me. |
Anonymous
| Yes, very petty. |
Anonymous
OP here. Wow thank you. You hit the nail on the head. That’s her 100%. I couldn’t seem to wrap my head around the why until now. Thank you! |
Anonymous
| I mean I just bought something green and baggy jeans and it’s because all our clothes were chosen for us by Meryl Streep I think for some reason. |
Anonymous
| My own mom did this to me. It was one of her many narcissistic traits. It didn’t matter that I told her it made me uncomfortable etc. we don’t speak anymore. |
Anonymous
| I think it’s so weird when people are bothered by this. I would be flattered if pretty much anyone I knew tried to replicate my style. |
Anonymous
This is a narcissistic personality trait? My mom used to do this to me growing up all the time. |
Anonymous
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I find it odd that if your sister or SIL did this it wouldn't bother you but your MIL it bothers you? Why?
I think it would bother me more if someone closer to my age did this as it would seem more competitive rather than flattery. She's old. She likes how you look in stuff and gets it. CLEARLY she's not competing with you or one-upping you like if someone your own age would be doing. |
Anonymous
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Sorry, but if my mother or MIL did this, I wouldn't care one little bit. We look nothing alike, and we're not the same age, so... it just doesn't matter to me. If anything, I'd be slightly flattered they were actually paying attention and not being critical. Because usually my mother is critical! |
Anonymous
| It means she likes your style and is trying to emulate. Would not bother me. |
Anonymous
There are worse types, just ignore copy cat issue. If anything, mimicry is a compliment. |
Anonymous
| She thinks you are cool. |
Anonymous
| She wants your acceptance. |